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Author:  bani [ Mon Mar 02, 2009 4:06 pm ]
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Where you would take the girl (and maybe her couple friends) you´r interested in for longer relationship? BE REALISTIC PLEASE

What would be a good place? How would the plot of this day go?

What do you think about common movie night?

I was thinking about something like this:
-Travel somewhere, maybe close city
-Go see movie at cinema (some kino
-Go to some big store and travel around for a while
-Go eat (if your lucky or skilled, you make the women pay for yours dinner)
-Get back home, get drunk and have fun.
-If your successful you find yourself sleeping next to the girl you like maybe.

This doesnt cost much though.
Author:  Cinnamon Spice [ Mon Mar 02, 2009 5:37 pm ]
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The big thing when being on a date is to NOT be like the other guys. Be different.

First step in being different: Admit it. It's a date.
That means no friends. Why did you even mention this? If you're interested in a long-term thing with this girl then you shouldn't need to bring her friends along.

Next: Go somewhere different.
Movie theaters are a bad first-date. They're dark and you're both focused on something else. They also create an easy conversation, which means you don't get to real points of connection, it's all about the movie. Also, the kino in movie theaters? Terrible. They make those seats impossible for snuggles on purpose.

And Lastly: Don't have an agenda.
Women can smell agenda. We were born with Olfactory receptors for agendas, bullshit and another woman's perfume.
So don't expect sex, a kiss or really anything.
Don't confuse this however with wanting things. By all means desire her. Tell her you desire her, please. But don't EXPECT anything. It comes off as needy and creepy at the same time.

Be different and be yourself. That's how to have a good first date with a girl you want to get serious with.

Cinnamon
Author:  LEPRECHAUN [ Mon Mar 02, 2009 5:46 pm ]
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Where you would take the girl (and maybe her couple friends) you´r interested in for longer relationship? BE REALISTIC PLEASE
I like the idea of traveling to a different city that has a fancy movie theater.

This shows your adventurous side to them all.

Go to the mall... yes... and "lose" the girls ON PURPOSE and go look at
tools or puppy dogs... XD...

When they find you or you just HAPPEN to be walking and find them and
they come up to you, you can always play it cool and act like you don't
know them and say, "this makes 4 times that I have been approached in here
now... (smile)"
(Do not GO LOOKING FOR THEM... shows neediness... and DO NOT...
I repeat, DO NOT FOLLOW THEM AROUND LIKE A PUPPY DOG)

When you go to a place to eat, make sure that you DO NOT sit beside the
girl that you are interested in... but make sure that you do show her a little
bit of attention (this being said that you and the girl have not done anything
in the attraction stage like kissing). Make jokes (don't laugh at your own),
tease all of them (but the one you like tease more), do push/pull.

Get back home, get drunk, have fun... if you think your game is not TIGHT
ENOUGH... then use at your own discretion. Like I have said before...

Alcohol only makes chicks do what they want to do anyways with them
being able to have the excuse to blame the liquor for their actions.

If you have enough comfort, attraction, alpha male qualities, un-needy...
then you WILL be sleeping next to the girl you want... then again, you just
might be having sexx with this girl too... Good luck bani...
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This doesn't cost much though.
True. Maybe only like $100 or so... maybe less depending on what state
you live in XD.
Author:  KristallNachte [ Mon Mar 02, 2009 7:06 pm ]
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Go karts are fun

I kinds like concerts do dates
Author:  bani [ Tue Mar 03, 2009 12:27 pm ]
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Great answers guys!
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So don't expect sex, a kiss or really anything.
That is something that helps me get over anxiety. When I dont expect anything from chick it makes relaxed and cool.
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Be different and be yourself. "Movie theaters are a bad first-date.
What is your suggestion for the first date?
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Go to the mall... yes... and "lose" the girls ON PURPOSE and go look at tools or puppy dogs... XD...
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DO NOT FOLLOW THEM AROUND LIKE A PUPPY DOG
Good advices, so I should get on my "own businesses" and actually not care about them.

What is other guys opinion on that is it ok to take couple (1- MAX 3) friends of her with you to first date.

Imo its good only because
1. She might feel more secure with them
2. They can keep conversation up
Author:  Cinnamon Spice [ Tue Mar 03, 2009 5:16 pm ]
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Be different and be yourself. "Movie theaters are a bad first-date.
What is your suggestion for the first date?
Something fun, something active. Active dates are the best, because you're more likely to create fun, long lasting memories.
Waterparks, amusement parks, go karts, skiing that sort of stuff.

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Go to the mall... yes... and "lose" the girls ON PURPOSE and go look at tools or puppy dogs... XD...
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DO NOT FOLLOW THEM AROUND LIKE A PUPPY DOG
Good advices, so I should get on my "own businesses" and actually not care about them.
While I agree that yes, you should have your own business and not follow her around like a puppy, I don't think you should take this as not caring about the girl. That's a common mistake I find. On a second meet you are allowed to show interest. You've already picked her out from wherever you met her. now, on the second meet, you want to connect with the girl. You need to care about her at this point, because otherwise she's going to friend-zone you. If you invite her out and then act like you don't care about her, she's going to assume you're just not that into her.

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What is other guys opinion on that is it ok to take couple (1- MAX 3) friends of her with you to first date.

Imo its good only because
1. She might feel more secure with them
2. They can keep conversation up
No, no, no.
First off, if she doesn't feel secure enough with you to go somewhere public, where there will be lots of other people, then you've done something wrong. How much of a creep are you coming off as, if she feels she needs to have friends with her all the time when she's with you? I'm not saying you ARE, I think you're assuming she's going to want her friends there, which she shouldn't.
Secondly, yes, they'll keep up the conversation, but they'll also take away from the conversation you should be having.
You don't want to be just another one of her friends, right? So don't bring her friends on a date. She's going to group you into whatever social dynamic you present to her. If you present to her, you and a huge group (Yes, three friends counts as a big group, that's five of you guys) then she's going to friend-zone you. If it's just you and her, then it's clearly a date. She will see you in a 'we're on a date' lens. Get it?
Author:  bani [ Tue Mar 03, 2009 6:13 pm ]
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Yea, thanks!

But what to do IF situation is that the girl you going to a date with is kind of friend of yours, so we have met many times before. AND there might be a little thought about that she is taking me as friend.
Author:  Gadgeteer [ Tue Mar 03, 2009 10:19 pm ]
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I agree that movies are a bad first date. Limited KINO opportunities and yawn same as all the other AFC's.

How about a comedy venue? Stand up comedy? Everyone loves that. Gets her laughing.
Author:  jurupa [ Tue Mar 03, 2009 11:21 pm ]
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I agree that movies are a bad first date. Limited KINO opportunities and yawn same as all the other AFC's.

How about a comedy venue? Stand up comedy? Everyone loves that. Gets her laughing.
Comedy venues are a tad better than movies, but still bad for first dates tho. As you can't really talk to her or interact with her.
Author:  bani [ Wed Mar 04, 2009 4:14 pm ]
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So get the date to place where you can focus on each others without disruptive matter

How deep the conversation should be on first date?
Author:  pedro2385 [ Wed Mar 04, 2009 4:26 pm ]
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Anything where she is not the centre of attention. Some of my most successful dates have been a simple walk in the countryside. The veiws take centre stage, costs absolutley nothing and you get to interact with the girl. What more could you want from a date :D

Remember it does not have to be fancy, expensive etc. Just enjoy yourself and i am sure she will have a great time as well.
Author:  bani [ Wed Mar 04, 2009 7:14 pm ]
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More rules:

Dont make the girl center of attention
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