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Author:  LEPRECHAUN [ Fri Feb 27, 2009 4:15 am ]
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Playing "Hard To Get" With Women... Why It Works So Well!...
- CREATED BY DAVID DEANGELO -

I want to talk about the idea of "Playing hard to get",
why it works so well, and how you can do it to help
you be more successful in the dating world.

First, I have a question for you:

What do you think turns women OFF?

I really want you to take a moment and think about this one.
Aside from the obvious things like smelling
bad and being dirty, what do you think makes women
feel that "Not if you were the last man on earth "
feeling?Now think about THIS question:

What do you think makes a woman decide that you're
the kind of guy that she only wants to be "friends"
with?

What is it that presses the "friendship" button?

Let me give you a list of some of the things that
almost universally turn women off:

1) Smothering them with attention
2) Acting needy and emotional
3) Calling too often, asking them out too often
4) Acting insecure

And here are some of the things that I believe
cause women to only feel "friendship" feeling towards
a man, and never ATTRACTION:

1) Never taking the lead and making decisions
2) Acting nervous because you're attracted to her
3) Never taking the initiative to hold hands/kiss her
4) Acting like a female friend that wants to be her "therapist".

Are you seeing a pattern here? Do you get where I'm
going with this?

Now, the things I mentioned above aren't ALWAYS true.
If you're a super rich, handsome guy... and you're going
out with an average woman with low self esteem, then you
can probably do everything above and she'll still like
you.

But if you're a regular guy like me, and you want to
go out with attractive women, then you need to start
paying more attention to these things.

Remember, an attractive woman has more options than
she knows what to do with. A man who wants to pay
attention to her is nothing new. In fact, it's probably
the same old same old.

Here's an idea for you to remember: Things and
people that aren't predictable keep our attention.

If you act like every other PREDICTABLE guy, then
you're going to get the same thing that they all get.

PREDICTABLE IS NOT ATTRACTIVE!

So how do you solve this dilemma and act in a way
that won't be predictable, and will make a woman feel
attracted to you?

Play hard to get!

Now, this may sound like an old idea, but let me
share with you a couple of simple ways to make this
game a lot more fun, and to make yourself a lot more
interesting and attractive to women.

Remember, I don't think it's a good idea to play
a lot of head games or to be manipulative... but if you
follow what I'm about to share with you, I think you'll
find that you'll have a lot more fun, and be a lot more
interesting to women.

Above I mentioned some of the things that make
women feel like "just friends", or even worse, make
them feel "turned off".

I believe that when you first meet a woman, she
will make dozens of small decisions about you within
the first few minutes, and then dozens more in the
next hour or so of conversation.

It's VITALLY important that you get this first
part of the relationship on the right track. And I
think that one great way to do it is to play "Hard
To Get" in a few very specific ways.

Here are a few ideas:

1) When you first start talking to her, interrupt the
conversation because you want to get back to what
you were doing. You might say "It's nice meeting you,
but I'm going to get back to my friends." This shows
that you are not needy, and thay you have a life of
your own (both are attractive). It also gives you the
opportunity to ask for her number/email to follow up
with later.

2) Don't call her for a day or two, minimum. I know,
we've all heard about this one, but it's true. If you
call a couple of days later, it shows that you have a
life and that you're not going to smother her with
attention.

3) Always be the one to end conversations on the
phone and meetings in person. When you feel the
conversation winding down, and you know that it's going
to happen anyway, say "Well, I have some things to do,
so I'll talk to you later" etc. This is one of the
most powerful ideas that you can use, because it's so
subtle, and so easy.

4) Never put your life on hold just so you can see her
or spend time with her. A woman is more likely to
respect you and your time if YOU respect you and your
time. If you have something to do and she suggests
getting together at that time, tell her you're busy
and tell her what time you have available.

5) Bonus Points: This is a fun idea that I want to throw in...
If you ask her out, and she says "Well,
I have other plans", just say "Cancel them! I'm more
fun than whatever you're doing." I love this one! Even
if she doesn't cancel (which she usually won't) she'll
get a laugh, and it will show that you're confident
(very attractive). Just make sure that if she does
cancel that you do something interesting! It's a great
comeback, and I use it a lot.
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