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| Author: | amateurPua [ Thu Feb 26, 2009 2:30 am ] |
| Post subject: | To be PUA or not to be PUA?? |
Hi, after “The Game” and a couple of other books on beautiful art of PUA I thought I’d give the internet side of it a try PUA, in fact, I’m trying regain my “Game” I am an AFC for sure, but it wasn’t always this way. I’m 21 and have been in a relationship with a girl for the past 4 ½ years. She broke my heart when she broke up with me early last October; she was everything in the world to me. I couldn’t get her off my mind, and working on wind turbines, there were multiple times were I had serious thoughts of taking a step off. Also I’m a traveling wind turbine tech. and was 600 miles away from my friends and family, and living in a hotel for months on end. I was in a serious depression, where I didn’t want to do anything; work became the most heartbreaking thing ever. That was until I picked up “The Game” and “How to Succeed with Women” it brought a new light to my life, it made me remember that there were other woman out there, and that I’m a great guy and she lost out on me. We are still “trying” to be friends; well she wants to be friends, but I’m still in love with her. When we hang out though we still kiss we sleep in the same bed, we have only had sex twice since we broke up, but we still have fun kissing and touching in erotic areas. I don’t know if I feel like I’m just her “cuddle buddy” or what, I feel the oneitits bad, I pretty much don’t call her unless she contacts me first. We had made plans to hang out today, last Saturday. We talked last night and she said that she was sad and was just sitting in her room alone feeling really antisocial (her roommate/best friend moved to a different country on Monday, and will be gone for a year) but she kept saying that she should move back to her parents house, because she didn’t like being alone. She said she’d let me know sometime today if she wanted to hang out. Then today at 6:00 pm she txted me saying sorry she didn’t call she fell asleep but still feeling antisocial. Not gonna lie I was sorta always looking at my cell phone. That just made me so damn mad and it makes me even madder that I care and am still hung up on her! I know she hasn’t done anything with any other guys (doesn’t matter what you think I know for a fact) and she is always asking me if I have been with other girls, which I have but I tell her no, they didn’t mean anything, and I don’t care if she says she “doesn’t care” I know she would even if she didn’t act like it. I know if she did I could never get back together with her. I would like to get back together with her also I think, I’ve been trying to go through things in my head but I need some help, hopefully you guys can give me some good advice. Anyway one thing we fought about a lot was Sex, I wanted it she didn’t. It’s not just because I didn’t get her horny either, I looked into that and read lots of books on the subject and every woman I’ve been with other then her have had orgasms, and love what I can do with my fingers and mouth, and dick. So now I’m in the dilemma she is the only girl I have ever been in love with (not that I ever really want to love again if that’s what it feels like when it ends) She is very smart, funny, motivated, kind, she is very beautiful also, and just got fake boobs a couple of months before we broke up . Alright, now before we were together, I was young, arrogant, way uglier than I am now (I kind of had the ugly duckling thing happen to me) but somehow to the astonishment to my friends, I was able to hang out with and do stuff with multiple good looking woman. I’m telling you I was portly had a little acne problem had a high voice till like junior year in high school. Reading those books about different PUA techniques, made me happier, I remembered the way I acted around those girls. The tech I feel I used most was the cocky funny method along with some others. I long for the feeling of not caring if you don’t get a txt or call from some girl or blown off. Only now I have no game I keep trying to get confidence to approach but, I just can’t seem to get the balls anymore, I’m trying the Hi thing a smiling more. Usually the only time I can approach is when I’ve had some confidence juice or coke in me (that’s another thead though about PUA’s and drinking/drugs). I’m getting a 4500$ tax return and have thought of going to a workshop, but I don’t know. If you were able to read all that, whether you commitment or not thanks, if you do comment and its not a flame than thank you very much. Look forward to every ones advice!! -Thanks |
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| Author: | LEPRECHAUN [ Thu Feb 26, 2009 3:47 am ] |
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If the reason why you two broke was because of her not wanting to have sex... you should try talking to her and let her know that you don't need it all the time... meet her half way on this... Also, I did not quite understand one part... can she have orgasms or not? Is she unable to have orgasms? She might just not find the pleasure in sex like you do. Some women cannot orgasm during sex, it's unnatural, but it happens. Her orgasms are not what's important here, what is important is... You said that you both still communicate on a daily basis or whatever, right... You two sleep in the same bed when together, have sex sometimes, not all the time... which means that you are not with her just for the sex... Try spending some quality time with her without having sex with her, see her for the person she is and not just a girl that you can get laid by bro... See the real her, and be intimate with her... intimacy means sharing ones feelings with their significant other, being open to them, vulnerable if you will... I would not suggest going to a seminar for pick up artists... instead, use that money for something more important... You have NOT lost this girl forever man, you can still get her back if you play your cards right. |
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| Author: | amateurPua [ Thu Feb 26, 2009 5:37 am ] |
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1st thanks for the reply No the reason we broke up wasnt because of the sex, i was on the traveling alot for work and when we werent working we unfortounely were drinking alot and she didnt like that. I dont drink much anymore though on the weekends sometimes. Yes, i can make her orgasm eaisly, whether it be with my fingers tounge or dick, but she doesnt have the libito that i do. I am in love with her but also wonder if we both would be happier if we werent together. I just dont know if i can make that decision based on sex only. I'm just kinda wondering if that game is really what its cracked up to be? i like what its done for me so far i've started excercizing and am starting to shape up nicely, i'm smiling more and trying to keep a posititve outlook on life. |
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| Author: | pedro2385 [ Thu Feb 26, 2009 11:51 am ] |
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It is scary that you were thinking of killing yourself over one girl. Man you can not let a girl have that much control over you. Its crazy. By the sounds of it she wants you around to keep her company when she picks and chooses, waiting for someone she thinks is better to come along. Trust me you will never get her back if you keep jumping at the chance to see her when she wants. You need to make her realise that you are cooler than that. Show her that you have other options as well as seeing her. When you do see her, give LEPRECHAUN advice a go and see how you get on. |
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| Author: | heyheysg [ Thu Feb 26, 2009 1:49 pm ] |
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hey dude, When I read the Game for the first time, it was like so easy to accept, not like those self help books or holy books where they made you feel good for awhile and then you probably won't improve anyway. To me it was an instant revelation as much as I hate using that word. Here was something that made sense, something that was useful, something that a lot of people would instantly label as evil or manipulative without giving it a proper look over. While I probably haven't had my heart broken like you, Using Rocky analogy, you are a boxer who lost his first match, I haven't even stepped into a ring yet. But with the help of these guys, no matter how slow or long it takes, I do understand that if I train and work at it, I'll be successful with women some day and perhaps even find love. So yeah, I guess your experiences will prove really useful to people in this forums once you get your skillset and inner game up. |
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