Don't act needy!
She is in control of you and she likes it that way, but it doesn't attract her. Imagine, she is in control of every other guy that wants her.. and that's probably a lot!.. Girls want guys they can't control, so.... you know what to do.. only by showing independant non needy behaviour to her, gives her the feeling she needs control back.. And if she can't get it, it'll make her even more attracted.. So keep doing what you are doing, keep kissing her sometimes, don't text her, the more you get her out of your system the better/ the more non needy you will behave towards her..
you said you're working in a bar right? take a night off and fool around in your own bar to party when she is there.. make sure you play with a lot of girls, like you always should be doing!.. girls want guys who have other girls! so have fun with her, but make sure you're not acting needy.. don't make a big deal about her not texting back without her you have a wonderful time also.. make sure from now on, you are that person that is responding late... or not
! take over her frame.. all this is confusing you, so it will confuse=attract her..And next time, don't text her things like you want her in that early stage... that's not something you should be doing with a phone.. You make it easy for her to not respond by that.. if your feeling is real, tell her in person after a romantic night of sex during a nice romantic funny hike in the woods with your- or your best friends dog.. let her deal with those emotions in person..
good luck,
cheers