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| Author: | Tempus [ Tue Feb 24, 2009 6:59 am ] |
| Post subject: | Relationship that isn't quite dead yet... please advise |
Okay, so this is complicated. First off, after about four months of dating, we vibed *really* well. Thing is that the last month we had constant fighting because I went away to Canada during the winter break (we're both in college) and she couldn't take the separation. That should've been a flag, but that comes into play later. She finally broke up with me one night and I was, of course, hurt. The next day, I realized that for the last month I was talking about how this relationship could work for us if we did certain things... but that's not what had to happen. She had to figure stuff out for herself. So I cut off communication with her for about two weeks. After two weeks, she came back to me saying that she wished she never broke up. Another two weeks passed by and while she had stopped doing all the annoying things she did (and during those two weeks I worked on eliminating that AFC part of me saying I needed her... and wound up discovering I just *want* her), she wasn't very happy because her self-image needed developing. As a result, I broke up with her telling her that she has to take more time to discover herself, otherwise our relationship would head to disaster. She wanted to be friends, but I don't know if that's a good idea at this time. After all, what I'm asking is how do I eventually heal this relationship later down the line? I'm thinking I'm going to date a few more girls (I went on a couple of dates when we broke up the first time) and then eventually mend things. Right now we're essentially friends with benefits, though I'm also not sure if that's a good idea. I just need a lot of input from guys who have been there. I'm actually a bit lost because: a) I've actually done the soul searching that I can survive if I don't have her, but that I actually feel as if there's hope; b) Because I know she still loves me, but the attraction is merely weakened (we had meaningful sex on our last night, so there's gotta be *some* attraction) and I need to build that up the old fashioned way. Just someone give me their two cents before I burn my bridges. =D |
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| Author: | Pool Shark [ Tue Feb 24, 2009 7:36 pm ] |
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Man I'm in the same situation. For me what happened is we were similar people with similar personalities before I found the game. Then I find the game, better myself, and finally see what an awesome person I am, meanwhile she stayed the same. I started seeing other girls and eventually we got to this weird point we're I can honestly say I love her. I'm young but I know for sure this is really love. Problem is I don't feel like I'm in love with her. I don't really feel attraction towards her except sexual. I'd suggest giving you guys some time apart then coming back and really trying at the relationship. If you guys fight try to understand why she is fighting with you as opposed to what your fighting about. If you really want her then you have to commit to making it work all the way and no half assing lol. Let me know how it turns out Lates |
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