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| Author: | nitrusx [ Sun Feb 22, 2009 7:05 am ] |
| Post subject: | FWB (friends with benefits) issues |
hey guys, I'm new to this forum and i've been reading up alot on the game lately. However, there's a scenario i have had trouble solving very recently. Here's how it goes- I met this girl at a wedding and i used proper openers to get her hooked, we've gone out a couple of times to do some fun stuff but the main problem here is that she's leaving for another country for good in 7 months, i wish to turn our current relationship into a friends with benefits one, but is clueless in doing so. Firstly, here is some background information- She's a real smart girl, possibly one of the hardest targets i've ever gotten. She's into romance novels, movies and such. When we hang out, i try to make the activities different and i try as much as possible to make myself seem like i can't be found anywhere else. She's extremely outgoing and also has great passions for life goals. This is where the problem lies-i cannot find any way so far to get her to voice her inner desires or to get her to speak about sex, so i can roughly gauge what her fantasies are and develop on them. How should i go about doing this and make myself seem attractive to her while i'm at it? Also, i'm having difficulty trying to bring in the idea of friends with benefits, since i think she might be uncomfortable about it. Is there a way to make this relationship type seem appealing to her? How do i indirectly tell her what i have to offer is of high standards? Any other tips to share would be great too, thanks so much for your help guys. |
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| Author: | Dr. Gruuve [ Sun Feb 22, 2009 7:16 am ] |
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Most romance novels are pretty erotic, so I'd say she's definitely got an erotic mind. Have you had sex with her yet? That seems like key question first. Gruuve |
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| Author: | nightrider767 [ Sun Feb 22, 2009 5:40 pm ] |
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I've found for a woman to open up about her real hardcore intimate secrets and fantasies, for them, is an act of sex. They really need to be hugely aroused to go there. It's like when you haven't had sex with her in a while it's more intense. On days like that, get her arousal level to the max. ALcohol helps, because it helps to get rid of inhibitions. But when she is at her hottest point, when she's peaking, start gently asking. Make some suggestions of what it might be... It's really worth it. ANywho,, not quite sure where you're going with your relationship. Seems like you really enjoy this girl and are sorry to see her go. 7 months ain't that long to wait. If she's as smart and balanced as you say, she probably won't go for it. But who knows. I think you need to calculate your risks. If this need is real, then go down that road. Because understand you really might spoil things if not done correctly. I mean, if you want to go bang some other broads and don't mind having some fellas sweating on your old lady, then everything is cool. If you want an angle to approach it from I might go with "Hey,, you're gonna be leaving,, i think we should try to create some distance earlier on so it's not such a shock when you go. That wouldn't be good for either one of us". Good luck |
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| Author: | Bonita [ Sun Feb 22, 2009 7:38 pm ] |
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It is always good to just play the question game. Then gradually make your questions more sexual and you can flat out ask her what her fantasies are. Ask her what the wildest thing she has ever done with a guy etc.... I've gotten into FwB situations before and the guy used pretty classic lines like "why worry about what will happen when we can just live in the moment...blah blah blah." also you have to decrease her ASD (anti slut defense). Make her feel comfortable being sexual around you. So when she does start to act sexual, reward her with a compliment like, "wow that was incredibly sexy." Compliment her body so that she doesn't feel apprehensive about her body around you. etc... |
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