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| Author: | Trevino [ Tue Feb 17, 2009 3:12 am ] |
| Post subject: | Oneitis Cure |
Okay, so everyone here always posts about oneitis and how to get over this girl blah blah blah. So I decided I would go ahead and tell everyone the secret. The cure for oneitis is....TIME. I know it sounds so simple, but really its not. The truth is that people really do fall for one another. The truth is that we do want what we cant have. And its also true that sometimes no matter how right something feels, it still just isnt in the cards. I know this b/c I have had oneitis many times. Some were women that I could/would never have. Others were women that I had a great relationships with. And sometimes it just doesnt and cant work. And that sucks!! Trust me I know. 'Time heals all wounds.' I know its hokey, but there is a lot of truth to it. You have to feel your emotions and not try to figure them out. There is a reason you feel like crap when things dont work out. Just like there is a reason why you feel excited when things do work out. Emotions are very basic and dont require thought. Just let yourself feel it. Do what you need to do to get your mind off of it. Move on, move forward. Look forward not back! Good luck to all of you! It sucks, I know. And in the end, its just something that is holding you up. The bad things that have happened to us affect us the most. Why should we let the most painful things we have experienced have all that control over us? |
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| Author: | Hopeless Romantic [ Wed Feb 18, 2009 7:38 am ] |
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I'd just like to expand on this a little. And from my own experience, time doesn't heal all. I'm still in love with a girl I dated back in sophomore year of high school. I'm now a sophomore in college. I have made a lot of progress. But it wasn't because time had passed, it was because of what I did with that time. Its okay to feel sorry for yourself, and to let yourself feel the grief and the hurt by not being able to have "her". But you have to move on. You have to get back out there and remember that other girls can make you feel the way that she did. Wallowing in self-pity won't get you anywhere except in a place where you don't heal. Getting out there and actually making yourself feel better will help you. A good friend of mine told me "Time doesn't heal all. Its what you do with that time that really matters." |
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