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I've got a date with a HB8 that I got emailing through match.com.
We've sent each other about 5 emails each, and in that time I've said stuff that's got her amused and she's said she likes my emails.
So for the date I have a couple of things to ask, firstly, I guess because we know what we both look like and what's been exchanged, I guess there has been some attraction built. Will I mostly be aiming for comfort building on the date? I know I should definitely kino and hold eye contact. I've been rubbish at this in the past.
Secondly, she's bound to ask me about my work. Recently I got fired, however I've lodged my appeal and I could possibly get my job back at the end of the month or get my lawyers involved. It could get drawn out and the reason for being fired is a bit silly all round. Should I brush over it all by just saying I left for new opportunities? Or just say I got fired and I can't say much because of potential legal action? Any other ideas?
So far I've only mentioned the kind of industry I'm involved in and my degree.
Thanks guys in advance.
Dang this is a good question I wish it was on my online dating thread. Anyways, I am here to try to help.We've sent each other about 5 emails each, and in that time I've said stuff that's got her amused and she's said she likes my emails.
So for the date I have a couple of things to ask, firstly, I guess because we know what we both look like and what's been exchanged, I guess there has been some attraction built. Will I mostly be aiming for comfort building on the date? I know I should definitely kino and hold eye contact. I've been rubbish at this in the past.
Secondly, she's bound to ask me about my work. Recently I got fired, however I've lodged my appeal and I could possibly get my job back at the end of the month or get my lawyers involved. It could get drawn out and the reason for being fired is a bit silly all round. Should I brush over it all by just saying I left for new opportunities? Or just say I got fired and I can't say much because of potential legal action? Any other ideas?
So far I've only mentioned the kind of industry I'm involved in and my degree.
Thanks guys in advance.
You have some attraction or she wouldn't been meeting you in person. Likewise, you have some comfort built as well or she wouldn't be meeting you in person. So I'm not sure what you said in those emails but good job! You got a date which is the point to the Online thing.
You really need to work on both attraction and comfort kind of simulatenously. You don't really have enough attraction built just from online to make it last...same with comfort. That is why you are meeting obviously to get to know each other better.
You still need to re-flip the attraction switches and things she likes about you. Not like you would from a cold approach but still emphasize them so she remembers why she likes you.
Then of course build comfort which shouldn't be too difficult at this point. I agree you need to kino to establish that, and of course eye contact, relaxed body language.**As far as work goes. I would say "some new opportunities have presented themselves to me, that I might persue." It's a nice way of saying it but whatever it takes in 'avoiding' the direct answer don't lie to the girl. If you do get into it try to come across as positive and not bitter**
Don't ask me why or whatever reason the circumstances coming across as negative will hugely impact you in your date. This falls back on the DHV spike of "Being Unaffected"
Good luck on your date,
Jon
