Dood I have the same dilema, Hottie at the bank drivethru givin me the eyes and the smile but what to do? Cant do much at the drive thru. Not to say I didnt get another one the same way but we met somewhere else. Advice please we need pointers
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| Author: | Tauvin [ Sat Feb 07, 2009 11:46 pm ] |
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Hey guys, New to the forum and havent been able to find much on this. Here's the question. What's the best way to game a girl who works the counter @ the gym, or the hot check out girl @ the grocery store, or bank teller etc. Girls that you may see regularly, but only for a few seconds @ a time. How should I DHV and build attraction with such limited time often when there other people present? Any advice on this would be greatly apreciated. |
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| Author: | quiet meat [ Sun Feb 15, 2009 12:32 am ] |
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Dood I have the same dilema, Hottie at the bank drivethru givin me the eyes and the smile but what to do? Cant do much at the drive thru. Not to say I didnt get another one the same way but we met somewhere else. Advice please we need pointers
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| Author: | Solomon II [ Sun Feb 15, 2009 6:29 am ] |
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If you don't have time to "build" attraction or "demonstrate" high value, how about this... assume attraction and stop giving a fuck about how she perceives your value. That's the way I do it, time restriction or not, and there are a number of reasons for that. The problem with you guys is that you're focusing too much on getting results with minimal risk of "failure". Fuck that, there's no such thing as failure. Your goal is to find out if she's interested in you or not, so you can either get together or get moving - that's it. Any approach is a success, because you achieved that goal. You either get her number so you can arrange something (I prefer to arrange a day 2 on the spot, but in these circumstances you can't), or you find out she's not interested and you can move along without wasting any of your time. You can't set your goal as getting her number or some crap like that because you have no control over her responses or whether or not she's attracted to you. All you can do is approach, do your thing, and see what happens. Many argue with this, but it's true. You have no choice whether or not she's attracted to you - it's that simple. You either build attraction through active disinterest and DHV's and rewarding her IOI's with your own etc... or you build attraction by having big brass balls and being up front, honest, and assertive. If a girl is attracted to you, neither approach will work better than the other. They simply work on different levels. But enough about that! You're also concerned with getting the results you want immediately, so you wanna get away from that. Stay assertive. You need to realise that things are not always as they seem. Sometimes they're attracted to you but won't give you their number there and then because they aren't sure if you're always this confident or if it's just because of the situation. Keep smiling, say it's cool, and go about your business. She will start to think about you, and a matter of days or maybe weeks or so later, she will give you her number. Anyway, onto how I approach these situations. This is an example of how I do it, so you can see what I'm getting at - it is not what I expect you to do. It's important to use your own words and talk how you talk. Seems obvious, but it really does need pointed out... it's not so much what you say, it's how you say it. You wanna be confident, relaxed, and non-pushy. I always smile as I talk, and look into her eyes. The smile is important because it not only shows you're not too serious, but also demonstrates self-assurance. If I'm approaching a girl in this kind of situation it goes a little something like this: "So I want us to get to know each other, but the thing with that is... we can't really do that right here, can we?" She smiles back and says nope. "Well, gimme your number so we can arrange something then." From there she either says yes or no. I might get a couple of shit tests depending on how pressed for time we are, most of the time it's a case of "I dunno about that" or "no, sorry". If she isn't sure, I leave it. She'll give it to me some other time when she changes her mind, like I said before. And if she doesn't, who cares? |
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| Author: | expat_of_love [ Sun Feb 15, 2009 6:43 am ] |
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Instead of a terribly boring and dry story of eye contact and superhuman courage I will be VERY direct with you. Any female who works those jobs dreams of finding a man who can save her from that Hell. That means having money is the key. In America that means if you account doesn't have a minimum of six digits you are screwed. The bank teller knows what you have. You are naked in front of her. You think abs attract females? Well, I will give you all the ripped muscles you want and I will take the fat account. Remember, Hell for females is working 9-5 with a future of more 9-5. |
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| Author: | Solomon II [ Sun Feb 15, 2009 7:02 am ] |
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What's superhuman about it, expat? And you may be right, but until that dream man with shitloads of money comes along and rescues her from her shitty job, she has to make do with what she can get. That's where guys like me come in. I have some other observations: - Money doesn't equal confidence. There are a lot of good looking guys with money who still don't have the stones to talk to women they don't know. Your girl may talk to the guys you speak of on a daily basis, and those guys may be single, but she's rarely gonna meet one who actually asks her out. It really is a one in a million happening. - Some girls actually take pride in earning a living. Maybe she doesn't want material things handed to her on a silver platter. I know quite a few girls like this, and I know a couple who are dating guys who earn a lot of money and prefer to spend their own money most of the time. - If she does want a man to take her away from that job and look after her and pay for all her shit, and won't settle for anyone else, she is a gold digger. I don't want anything to do with girls like this, so yet again, rejection is a positive outcome. |
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| Author: | gr3g727 [ Sun Feb 15, 2009 7:46 am ] |
| Post subject: | me too |
i didnt read to see if anyone else answered your question yet but i did this today it worked flawlessly ok when i was in windixie today i seen the attractive female cashier i usually go throughs line an walked up an was like hey hows it goin an then i was like wait a minute then paused an she was like hah wat so i quickly responded with nothin i was gonna tell you that you look amazing today but figured itd be out of line even though i know youd like it she smiled an reply with aww thanks giglyyy i quickly asked if she was alright with me flirtin a little she replyed no not at all so i said yes atleast im a cute guy an she said yea thats true so i asked if i had a chance she said yes so i got her number an we hung out 4 hrs later after work relize this olny took me 5 min in check out line lol quick an easy game |
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| Author: | The Doctor [ Sun Feb 15, 2009 2:43 pm ] |
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Quote: Instead of a terribly boring and dry story of eye contact and superhuman courage I will be VERY direct with you. Any female who works those jobs dreams of finding a man who can save her from that Hell. That means having money is the key. In America that means if you account doesn't have a minimum of six digits you are screwed. The bank teller knows what you have. You are naked in front of her.
You think abs attract females? Well, I will give you all the ripped muscles you want and I will take the fat account. Remember, Hell for females is working 9-5 with a future of more 9-5. This posts goes against everything the community is about... Do you really believe that you need 6 figures in the bank to pick up a teller? Talk about a limiting belief! I'm with Solomon... in situations like this I like going very direct... you should be able to tell already if she's interested or not, and if you deliver you message correctly, you should be fine. Confidence confidence confidence nothing is more sexy then that... I would say not even a 6 figure bank account  However if it's a girl who you see consistantly and you dont feel comfortable going so direct (which as a consciquence will cause you go be incongruent doing so) then you can go a little less direct and stretch it over a longer period of time. Just remember... risk vs. reward. The more indirect the lower your change of full rejection, but also the lower your chance of real success, and the inverse is true the more direct you go. |
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| Author: | Harleystcool [ Sun Feb 15, 2009 2:53 pm ] |
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Quote: Quote: Instead of a terribly boring and dry story of eye contact and superhuman courage I will be VERY direct with you. Any female who works those jobs dreams of finding a man who can save her from that Hell. That means having money is the key. In America that means if you account doesn't have a minimum of six digits you are screwed. The bank teller knows what you have. You are naked in front of her.
You think abs attract females? Well, I will give you all the ripped muscles you want and I will take the fat account. Remember, Hell for females is working 9-5 with a future of more 9-5. This posts goes against everything the community is about... Do you really believe that you need 6 figures in the bank to pick up a teller? Talk about a limiting belief! I'm with Solomon... in situations like this I like going very direct... you should be able to tell already if she's interested or not, and if you deliver you message correctly, you should be fine. Confidence confidence confidence nothing is more sexy then that... I would say not even a 6 figure bank account However if it's a girl who you see consistantly and you dont feel comfortable going so direct (which as a consciquence will cause you go be incongruent doing so) then you can go a little less direct and stretch it over a longer period of time. Just remember... risk vs. reward. The more indirect the lower your change of full rejection, but also the lower your chance of real success, and the inverse is true the more direct you go. |
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