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Author:  jp23 [ Wed Feb 04, 2009 12:06 am ]
Post subject:  Trying to not be an AFC

Ok its been awhile since I've surfed these forums but I use a lot of good info I got from here on a daily basis. This is my situation, I found an hb8, ran game on her. The game seemed to work well but she just got out of a painful relationship which put up a lot of roadblocks for me.

Then I started to really like this girl a lot (which probably started my AFC), but I started to try and win this girl over. She would always seem interested in hanging out with me but not affectionate at all! She won't commit to it yet, this girl has ripped my confidence level down because she's so hard to get through to.

I've got all the social proof I've ever need, any girls we mutually know like me and have tried to hook up with me. I kept my distance from them because I'm not interested in them but we went to the club this weekend with friend and girls started to dance with me and pull me into their pictures and jealousy doesn't even kick it. Its so frustrating, so here my question...

Do I back off and give her her time or do I keep pursuing her? She knows I like her, she knows I want to date her, we talk on the phone a good bit, sometimes for hours at a time...but at the same time its eating me up that we're not moving forward.

I kept thinking about just start dating other girls but I already have enough of a "player" image even though I'm not, but "is it worth the risk" is what I keep asking myself?

Also, should I continuously kino her and call her cute nick names or just treat her like a friend? I don't want to be that AFC guy thats the friend that never gets the girl.

Author:  C-Diesel [ Wed Feb 04, 2009 2:09 am ]
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Well, in my opinion you should let her go for now. If she is showing some sort of interest in you and making you feel the way you do, but not allowing you to act on those feelings...that's pretty fucked up even if she did just get out of a relationship.

Get out...unless you want to be miserable until SHE decides to let you be happy!

Author:  expat_of_love [ Wed Feb 04, 2009 6:41 am ]
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Don't try being anything. Nurture you! All of this trying to be or not be something is screwing some of you up.

Author:  jp23 [ Wed Feb 04, 2009 7:15 am ]
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Thanks for the replies, yeah I figure that was the best answer. I think I'll distance myself away while casually being socially flirty. Seems like the decisions get tougher the more you like someone. My girl-friends (friends) agree that they've never met someone so hard to get before, they can't believe how hard she is playing to get. Anyways, I'll take any constructive criticism about me being an AFC cause I know I can be that way more than I should. Its a poor transition when I really like someone, but my main goal is build my confidence back up.

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