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| Author: | Skitz [ Tue Feb 03, 2009 12:01 am ] |
| Post subject: | How do I let her know... |
She's not the best kisser? I'm seeing this great person now but it seems like she doesn't have much experience. Should I tell her flat out or what? |
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| Author: | SUB-ZERO [ Tue Feb 03, 2009 12:11 am ] |
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Man, that sucks. There is no bigger turn off than a chick who can't kiss. I would tell her in the most delicate way possible that you prefer a woman to do ______ with her tongue while kissing. Do not offend her. The key here is tell her she is not a "bad kisser", she just does it "different" than the way that you prefer. Make sure to let her know that you would want to know from her if there is something different you could be doing that she may be afraid to tell you about. Sexual communication is a necessity for relationships to work. If she is willing to work with you, you better be ready to work with her as well. |
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| Author: | Skitz [ Tue Feb 03, 2009 12:22 am ] |
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It doesn't sound like there's really an easy way out of it. Do you think it would be smart to maybe include a little humor when you say it? Like no directly at her, but like.. for instance, the problem with the girl i'm seeing is that she kisses.. I wanna say a little fast, if that makes sense. Would it be a bad idea to say something like "What's the rush?" with a grin on my face? |
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| Author: | Pod [ Tue Feb 03, 2009 1:23 am ] |
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That's a toughie. I've always been a fan of telling someone directly.. I hardly ever beat around the bush but this is a pretty sensitive subject. Most importantly, you need to have a STRONG connection to her. You guys need to be comfortable around each other. Other than that, I don't know. Good question. I think Sub-Zero has the right idea. Anyone else care to share their thoughts? |
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| Author: | kasabi [ Tue Feb 03, 2009 2:08 am ] |
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You're confusing your "goal" . . . and you're confusing your "strategy". Your goal is NOT to "tell her that she is a bad kisser". Your goal is to "Kiss her well and be kissed by her well." So STOP dwelling on the "bad kiss"(cause' it'll effect your strategy) and think about how you can achieve a good one. Just start making out with her . . . and when you take your first breather, go, "Ever try a Japanese kiss?" - Just make the shit up. I heard it from _____ who learned it from ______. Or I saw it on youtube . . . Then explain it to her. "It goes like this and you do this with your tongue and then I do this and that . . ." Kiss . . . Then, on your next breather, go, "Oh that was awesome. My God, I just want to kiss you all day long!(Big hug) Alright. . . Sit still cause' I'm going to plant you an Ukrainian special . . . Then after kissing her what ever the way you want her to kiss you, you go, "Is that OK?" "Blah, blah, blah" "OK, you try." Continue making games . . . continue having her try . . . Continue POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT for her improved responses. Stay the hell away from criticism unless you want to be kissing your hand. |
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