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| Author: | motionx [ Sat Jan 10, 2009 10:56 am ] |
| Post subject: | one-itis help-what should I do? |
What happened was, I went up to stay at hers for the first time, She cooked me a meal, she rented a film I really wanted to see and we had an overall great time. Then it got to getting into bed. We were in bed and before we started fooling around she started saying things like, I don't enjoy doing stuff to guys and if I can get mine without doing anything to him, why would I do it? Also things like, I like sex because the guy spends the first half an hour turning me on while I just lie there, then we both get off through sex. She also said that she only has sex with boyfriends but we were only seeing eachother exclusively so I wouldn't be having it. This was all said over a period of time not all in one go but obviously it sticks in your mind. So I was thinking WTF how selfish are you so was really cautious with pleasuring her. I did finger her etc, making her happy but then I stopped and she was like why are you stopping so I was just like I'm happy to just lie here in bed with you kissing and cuddling if your not comfortable to go further. She started trying to manipulate me saying if you like me you wouldn't need me to do anything back and I said if you liked me you would do it anyway lol. She got pissed, started doing stuff, stopped, accused me of pressurising her. Ignored me and went to sleep. The next morning she woke up and started doing stuff to me, then stopped and said I had made her really uncomfortable last night with my pressuring and she really didn't like that side of me. She ignored me and was distant and wouldn't talk about and discuss the night before, so I was really uncomfortable to. I left hers to do some stuff and we met for lunch a couple of hours later and I was still just as uncomfortable, even though she completely ignored the situation. I wanted to discuss it and she didn't and had a go at me for going on about the same thing. Although if there is a problem between two people shouldn't they discuss it? Anyway after lunch it was still weird and she said to me I dunno if I wana meet you again after last night and we left it and I got my train home. I texted her thanking her for making an effort by cooking for me and renting a film etc then I get a reply saying, I was gonna break up with you after today but I like you and want to see you again however I want to be single to meet other people until then. First of all I said no, then fine, after a bit of an arguement. Then I texted her a few too many times saying, Why the hell do you wana be single?? And she replied saying, well I wasn't that comfortable with you and I didn't like the side of you I saw so I want to see if there is someone else I could be more comfortable with. Then she asked me to drop the topic, so I did. Now we are onto today...she wants to meet next weekend but i'm not sure whether its an attempt to keep me around for another week while she is looking, whether she is genuinely justified to want to be single for a week because of what happened or whether she is interested in me but just wants a week where she can do what she wants because she had such a bad time. P.s. I explained it was the fact I was being cautious after what she said and she was like, you were serious about pressuring me whereas I was semi-joking about being selfish...what the hell does semi-joking mean?? She also said stuff like, I like to give a guy head cos I can get him off quickly so he can focus on me for the rest of the time. WTF?? Anyway I guess my overall question is what do I do now for the next week? I have one-itis so I do wana see her, although everyone who says just move on is completely right. Is it productive saying to her 'what do you mean by semi joking about being selfish?' Or 'does this mean I can date other people then if im single?' I'm worried about her just keeping me here for another week, whilst she looks for someone else and then just cancels next weekend anyway. I guess the main thing I did wrong was act cautiously which resulted in all this but if I had done everything to her she would have had a great time, wanted me, wanted to see me again and voila now would be good but then I would have been her boy toy which I wasn't having. My last question would be, if I do go upto see her next weekend and we make it that far, how should I behave? obviously make it a good date, cook her dinner etc but when it comes to getting into bed should I just do what she wants but make sure its mutual and not do everything or just do what she wants and hope that I will get some after? |
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