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Author:  Drakelet [ Tue Jan 06, 2009 8:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Negs vs teasing- Are people confusing them?
I've been reading a couple forums for a couple weeks now and the word "neg" seems to be thrown around a lot. Although I feel people are misusing the word, leading to the appearance of it being overused.
For example, a lot of people say "I negged her", when it actually seems they were just doing some teasing. Which are completely different things.

As I see it:
Negs are genuine compliments, but make the girl feel less about herself (especially when she has to put herself down ala the false nails neg). It lowers her value and makes her think you think less of her, making her qualify (if she is interested in you).
Teasing is sarcastic, although can be seen as a "neg" as it can be negative. Just general banter. Teasing isn't meant to make the girl feel inferior, but in some ways make you higher as it is a form of showing value (being funny).

I know really I need an example, but as I said, I've seen people say they neg someone when it seems it was more just a C&F tease, or when someone teases her and writes (<- neg) or whatever afterwards.

Or maybe it's just me. :lol:
Author:  jurupa [ Tue Jan 06, 2009 9:09 pm ]
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I always had viewed negs as teases for the most part.
Author:  jjizzla [ Wed Jan 07, 2009 12:53 am ]
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i totally agree drakelet
Author:  Rye Lee [ Wed Jan 07, 2009 2:53 am ]
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Negs are basically insults with just enough of a compliment in them to keep the girl from getting pissed off at you. Their intent is to feel like a backhanded compliment to her and cause her to feel inferior to you in order to lower her self esteem and perceived value of herself, in turn increasing her perceived value of you. Generally they're NOT genuine and are typically overly sarcastic.

Teasing is playful and a kind of flirting. Teasing should never hurt anyone's feelings or lower their self esteem or perceived value. Instead teasing often works to increase their feeling of value and cause them to enjoy being around you because you make them feel good about themselves. Teasing can be done in different ways. Sometimes teasing is an obvious lie when you say something mean in order to let her know that you actually think the opposite of what you've said which is a way of complimenting her. Sometimes teasing is sarcastic but based on a genuine compliment or criticism of something insignificant that you find cute.

When it is all boiled down, negs hurt people, teasing makes people happy and have fun.
Author:  zhukaching [ Wed Jan 07, 2009 8:57 am ]
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so how about the opener mystery always said "too bad im gay or u be so my type"... its not a tease of any sort i think... i really want to know the clear definition of a neg.
Author:  Reminis [ Wed Jan 07, 2009 9:42 am ]
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so how about the opener mystery always said "too bad im gay or u be so my type"... its not a tease of any sort i think... i really want to know the clear definition of a neg.
Read up Rye explained it...

A neg is a way to kinda show you arn't hitting on them.
Its a back handed compliment like rye said. Instead of directly complimenting her like every other guy... you lower her self value by Negging her to show you don't put her on a pedestal.
Author:  soviet [ Wed Jan 07, 2009 10:33 am ]
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so how about the opener mystery always said "too bad im gay or u be so my type"... its not a tease of any sort i think... i really want to know the clear definition of a neg.
This is a false dis qualifier. not a neg. Its purpose is to disqualify yourself as being a possible companion, thus throwing away her bitch shield and natural resistances.

Yes negs also disqualify but in this case there is no insult. it is straight out.
Author:  Stygian [ Wed Jan 07, 2009 4:11 pm ]
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I think I've negged like once in my life. There's not a lot of point to it when you have a grasp on things.

I simply use heavy teasing and mocking, it all works great for me since I'm naturally that kind of person (mocks people about things). I see no real need for negs given my method involves not giving a shit about the outcome of what I say (much like Solomon's "she likes you or doesn't" perspective).
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