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Getting 2nd Dates- Persistance vs. Resistance
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Author:  standard [ Mon Apr 23, 2007 11:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Getting 2nd Dates- Persistance vs. Resistance
So I'm relatively new to being a PUA and naturally I have a number of questions. I had a really hot streak (for me) a couple of weeks back, picking up 5 numbers in 2 days. Had quite a casual day date with a girl on a Sunday, and we went for drinks. Things went well, did some negs and kino which she responded well to, and I ended up walking her home. I said goodbye, and she asked me in. Went in for a bit, but decided it wasn't the right moment to try and kiss her, so I headed home with just a kiss on the cheek. Anyway, when I got back she had already text me saying that next time I should see her room. I felt good.

The week went by, and I phoned her once, text a few times, and this Sunday, a week later, I text her asking her plans and said it'd be good to meet up. No reply...
My question is, regardless of how good your game is, what do you do if a girl suddenly flakes out. Do you persist, calling or texting, or do you back off completely? The problem with texting again now is that any intrigue I may have built up with my initial first date will be gone. I've heard mixed reports- some people say that you should do everything to get opportunities to build rapport, oand thers say that you should never ask for a date. Should you tease them about not replying, or should you be open and say that you'd like to get to know them more?
Author:  musicman [ Tue Apr 24, 2007 4:30 am ]
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Man I totally feel what you're saying because the same thing happened to me a few weeks ago and I don't know what the hell happened. The girl was ringing and texting me begging for sex in every way possible and I wasn't complying (I had already previously !-closed her). Then when I had the house to myself for the night (not often because I'm only 16) and told her to come over she just went totally cold and non-responsive and I havn't seen her since. The only conclusion I can draw from it is I created too much attraction and not enough comfort, and I can't bring those feelings back to her now through phone or text so I'm just gonna have to move on
Author:  Union_Jack [ Tue Apr 24, 2007 4:38 am ]
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I can totally relate! I recently had a gal go cold on me just the other day after having had such a great time together. It didn't make sense at all and I still haven't decided just what to do about it yet. PUAs?
Author:  musicman [ Tue Apr 24, 2007 4:48 am ]
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It would be good to hear from some of the PUAs here how they manage the interaction during the time between getting the phone number and the 2nd meet, and all the other meet ups that follow.
Author:  veryEnglish87 [ Fri Apr 27, 2007 4:49 pm ]
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I'm no PUA (duh), but really you have two choices when a girl flakes on you. (1) Bombard her, keep pushing until she goes on the date, and then use your finest routines, or (2) go cold on her, if she ignores you, ignore her back. There is a good chance she will call/text/e-maill you, if not ignore her for two weeks, then one more message, if she still flakes, move on.

nb. If any girl flakes on you twice, forget her, ignore her, move on.

Personally, I use the second approach. She can ignore me if she wants but I'm not wasting my time chasing after her like all the other guys, she should be chasing me (apparently, lol). My time is better spent finding a girl who doesn't flake. That way I meet more people, get more experience and ultimately get more f-closes.
Author:  musicman [ Fri May 04, 2007 6:12 am ]
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I feel if you ignore her for two weeks then decide to contact her again that you need a good spontaneous excuse for contacting her and something that sets the frame back up
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