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Author:  ash101 [ Mon Nov 03, 2008 1:35 pm ]
Post subject:  PLEASE PLEASE HELP GUYS!!!!

ok i have been sleeping with this girl for the past month now and i have known her for 5 months prior, and im not gonna lie i could easially settle down and hang my pua boots up with this one she is easially a 9-10 of 10 and has great personality as well.

sooo the situation is that she does not want to take it any further that sex really even though i see her 4 to 5 days a week and spend most weekends with her but she does not want to be labeled as my girl she says she does not get that feeling with me where she wants to take it further.

what can i do to help change her mind i really need advice badly

Author:  rigoberto [ Mon Nov 03, 2008 2:06 pm ]
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Interesting... Well, the good thing is that you're already seeing her on a regular basis, so you won't be stuck with the same problem a lot of people get in this situation, where you're trying to chase her down and hold her attention just so you can make your case - this is a position of weakness that you don't need to worry about. It seems to me she is basically saying that while she likes you, she doesn't see the qualities in you that make you boyfriend/relationship material. Whether it's a shit-test or if she really doesn't see it in you is hard to say, but either way, you're in a good position to prove yourself without having to pour your heart out like a love-sick fool.

For now, just stay cool and keep things as they are, and don't bring up the LTR thing again. You should have gotten to know her well enough by now to have an idea of some of the things she values in a boyfriend, so what you need to do is start demonstrating your value to her; but don't come on too strong or you'll ruin the vibe you've got and chase her off. I'd just keep up with the DHVs, and the more that she comes to realize that "hey, this guy actually IS what I'm looking for", the relationship should eventually evolve.

Author:  NonStopReaper [ Mon Nov 03, 2008 2:09 pm ]
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try the Relationship part of the forum it might help out better then this section.

Author:  lawls [ Mon Nov 03, 2008 2:25 pm ]
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ok i have been sleeping with this girl for the past month now and i have known her for 5 months prior, and im not gonna lie i could easially settle down and hang my pua boots up with this one she is easially a 9-10 of 10 and has great personality as well.

sooo the situation is that she does not want to take it any further that sex really even though i see her 4 to 5 days a week and spend most weekends with her but she does not want to be labeled as my girl she says she does not get that feeling with me where she wants to take it further.

what can i do to help change her mind i really need advice badly
I recommend Johnny Soporno's stuff @ this point. But...lets be real about this- you can't "change" her mind all you can do is give her alternatives to choose from. She seems to have already made up her mind, anything more is you FORCING her to comply which won't work. If it does work she isn't going be happy.

Author:  Stetson [ Mon Nov 03, 2008 2:32 pm ]
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If you really want a LTR and she doesn't want it, then you must make her miss something in you.

First have really great time with her, and then suddenly start detaching from her; flirt with other girls and don't give so much attention to her anymore. She notices that you aren't only her boy if she isn't your only girl either.

Author:  mPUA Savior [ Mon Nov 03, 2008 10:01 pm ]
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see her 4 to 5 days a week and spend most weekends with her
the above is your problem...solution?...stop hanging out with her so much

Author:  Synckpua [ Mon Nov 03, 2008 10:06 pm ]
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jealousy man strait jealousy hahha

or/and keep DHVing also and maybe disqualify urself u kno but yea u probably haven't made a strong emotional connection once u commence this u will more than likely have a bf/gf realtionship

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