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| Author: | Different [ Fri Oct 24, 2008 9:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Blabla Help Please - A bit different |
Hey... First of all, I don't want to be a Pick up Artist. I want you guys to help me on this particular case, I know what I want is going to seem very improbable on your point of view. But even I know that it is not impossible. So here is it. I've become really close friends with a girl. And as you guessed it, I fell for her. I couldn't help it. And it's not infatuation. I know the difference between love and infatuation... No, i'm not going to fuck 10 other girls to forget about her. She's no "special flower", no girl is. But she's exactly what I want, no other girl is even close to her. She likes what I like, thinks what I think, etc etc. I'm scum. Really, sometimes I let people get close to me, and then I step away and hurt them. (It is not on purpose). She let me into some pretty important things in her life, yes, as a friend, blah blah. Okay, so there she is, hurt with me, saying things like: "It seems like you don't value me enough." "You never tell me anything about your life, I know nothing about you" "I don't feel like I am really important to you, I considered you a better friend than that" I apologized (AND YES, I wasn't going to go C&F with her. This was serious, she was really hurt.) I told her i'm like that, it's nothing personal. I tried to make up for things. Now, we are really close. As friends, yeah. And even though people tell her I love her, or other people tell her WE love eachother, or that we look like a couple, etc. I feel like, maybe, I haven't been blown completely out yet. Sometimes I think she may at least consider me to anything more than a friend, because, for example, she is jealous when i'm with other girls. We also tease each other a lot. It's not the kind of relationship in which I'm in the lower level, I think. I never told her I think she's beautiful, although I have complimented her on other aspects. My point is... I want her to be my girlfriend. I know, you're going to think: "LJBF zone, lol". I don't want anyone to post: Move on, etc. This post is way too confusing... Anyway I want your opinion on the subject. . Ask me anything you like. I've been putting in her mind the idea that we are just friends, but that I want to fall for her. Don't ask me why the hell i'm doing this. I say things like: "We'd go great together, it's a shame I only feel friendship for you." You think this is going to reinforce our friendship, or "challenge" her into something more? BLARGH, sorry for the confusion! But anyone out there, help me. |
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| Author: | YeahYou [ Sat Oct 25, 2008 12:37 am ] |
| Post subject: | yo |
im a newbie, but i can speak from experience in getting stuck in the friend zone. I think you're right about not being C&F when a close friend of either sex is 'really hurt', i dont think thats the spirit pua's work in anyway... I would think of it this way, the girl is weighing up what she gains v's what she's losing - she probably knows how sex changes the dynamics of a relationship, she might not want to lose a best friend... my understanding is that you'd need to take a step back from best friend duties, give her some space and change something about the dynamic of the relationship once u step back. i.e. be lighthearted funny, dont dwell on negative emotions from past, do risky and exciting things. Hope this helps |
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| Author: | Klats [ Sat Oct 25, 2008 12:51 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Blabla Help Please - A bit different |
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Now, we are really close. As friends, yeah. And even though people tell her I love her, or other people tell her WE love eachother, or that we look like a couple, etc. I feel like, maybe, I haven't been blown completely out yet.
I'm no PUA, but you are very confused and sending mixed messages. How can you tell her you are just friends, but you want to fall for her, then tell her it's a shame you only feel friendship for her? Quit saying things like that unless you want to be in the LJBF zone. Sometimes I think she may at least consider me to anything more than a friend, because, for example, she is jealous when i'm with other girls. We also tease each other a lot. It's not the kind of relationship in which I'm in the lower level, I think. I never told her I think she's beautiful, although I have complimented her on other aspects. My point is... I want her to be my girlfriend. I know, you're going to think: "LJBF zone, lol". I don't want anyone to post: Move on, etc. This post is way too confusing... Anyway I want your opinion on the subject. . Ask me anything you like. I've been putting in her mind the idea that we are just friends, but that I want to fall for her. Don't ask me why the hell i'm doing this. I say things like: "We'd go great together, it's a shame I only feel friendship for you." You think this is going to reinforce our friendship, or "challenge" her into something more? BLARGH, sorry for the confusion! But anyone out there, help me. You already know her well enough to take it to the next level. Based on the info you give us here(she's jealous of you with other girls--does she even know that other men exist?), she wants you to be her boyfriend, so just man up, tell her you want to take her out, and go from there. |
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