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| Author: | ryuu [ Tue Aug 26, 2008 6:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Text Messaging: How to do it without scaring her away? |
So I had a successful sarge the other night. Actually, it went very well, ending up with a kiss close. anyway, the next day was pretty good, sending texts back and forth regarding the encounter and how our weekend was going. she was actually a little more into it than me...got a pretty good string of texts. but they have started slowing a bit. i dont wanna keep texting her though, seeming "needy", to try to keep building on what we had last friday. i havent text'd her today at all. kinda waiting for her to do it to determine if she's still interested. but any text gamers are welcome to comment. i've blown it in the past by trying to become "friends" via texting...but ended up scaring a girl away ( a few years ago). I sure dont want to make the same mistake. i really would like to get to know her, and I know that even if i dont want to play stupid text games like (wait 10-20 minutes between replies)...she may be into these, and I could lose value if my responses are too quick. I guess I have to appear uninterested and busy? im probably feeling this way because I just broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years, and having a new success the first time out felt good. so maybe I am coming on too strong. anway...would love to hear from others who've been in the same situation. |
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| Author: | rexlexia [ Tue Aug 26, 2008 7:07 am ] |
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I'd strongly recommend only using text to reestablish attraction and set up a day 2. Without strong comfort and heavy kino beforehand text and msn are pretty much a one way trip to either LJBF land or Creeperville. I usually save text games for girls I have at least done some heavy petting with and even then mostly just to set up for more encounters. That in mind my text game is probably weaker than a lot of members here... |
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| Author: | ryuu [ Tue Aug 26, 2008 7:11 am ] |
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hmmm.. i guess thats where im fukin up. met her early in the night, danced together the rest of the night, had a good makeout session on the last dance before the club closed, then another before parting ways. so i thought the comfort/kino were enough to warrant some texting to further get to know each other. and she asked for my #/FB, so I thought it was on. now im tempted to brush the whole thing off as just one of many successful nights out and just call it a learning experience. if she' texts back...then ill see. more fish right? |
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| Author: | rexlexia [ Tue Aug 26, 2008 7:39 am ] |
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If you like this girl it couldn't hurt to text her and set up a day 2. I usually try to just tell them what I am up to that day (example: getting groceries) and see if they want to come. Nice no pressure situation for her and if she's interested but genuinely unavailable she'll usually text back an alternate time and place. If that doesn't work out I'd just chalk it up to a good night like you said. Congrats on a good first night out on the prowl again man. |
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| Author: | jurupa [ Tue Aug 26, 2008 7:55 am ] |
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Why are you texting her? Call her. |
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| Author: | ryuu [ Tue Aug 26, 2008 7:58 am ] |
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well...i was hoping to get a day 2 via text, then call. it was only friday that i met her...kinda playing that "3 day wait game" i guess. dunno. ill call tomorrow, see whats up. |
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| Author: | jurupa [ Tue Aug 26, 2008 12:42 pm ] |
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Quote: it was only friday that i met her...kinda playing that "3 day wait game" i guess. dunno. 3 Day rule is an AFC rule. You don't need to call her the very same day you got her number, but at least call her within 3 days. Otherwise she will most likely forget about you.Quote: ill call tomorrow, see whats up. *Claps* Calling is a lot more personal and way better than text.
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| Author: | LONEWOLF177 [ Tue Aug 26, 2008 1:56 pm ] |
| Post subject: | TEXTING |
HEY MAN LET US KNOW WHAT HAPPENS! |
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| Author: | ryuu [ Wed Aug 27, 2008 7:45 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: TEXTING |
Quote: HEY MAN LET US KNOW WHAT HAPPENS!
so far so good. i decided to call her. she didnt pickup, but i left a msg, she called back late tnt...we spoke for a min. so far i think its going ok. |
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| Author: | Backfire [ Wed Aug 27, 2008 9:48 am ] |
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Follow the same rules that are on these forums for phone game, they really are golden. As for her not texting you, she could be playing you. Don't text open with some shit like "hey, what's up?" have something to tell her or ask her that she specifically must know. Go over your conversations and see if there is something that you can open with, but try not to use something too tiny, like if she offhandedly mentioned that she has a flyscreen door, don't call up going 'hey you know when you mentioned your flyscreen door? well I went to mitre 10 today to check out flyscreen doors and blah blah blah'. Ok, that might be a bit extreme, but you see where I am going. Good luck, and I'll be watching this spot. |
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