X-posting this from the RSD forums (I put it over there, now I put it over here... heh... that sounded dirty):
Stormy coming with a pearl of wisdom and a super-simple related college day game technique.
First, the pearl of wisdom: girls are going to be attracted to you as long as they are around you. To restate, you don't need to "game up" girls to get them attracted to you. Not necessarily. Several girls will be attracted to you without you saying a word to them, without you even knowing they exist.
I'm not kidding; listen in on some girl-talk some time if you get the chance. It is VERY enlightening. Girls get crushes. They talk to each other about who they have crushes on. And they get them for reasons that are incomprehensible to my mere mortal mind. They don't get them on the "hottest" guy necessarily, or the most confident guy. They get them on the guy who sits next to them in class, the guy who studies in the coffee shop, whatever. It happens seemingly at random, with no rhyme, reason, or relationship to the amount of "game" the guy has.
You've probably felt something similar. Is there a girl in one of your classes who isn't the "hottest" by commonly accepted standards, but that you feel yourself nevertheless inexplicably drawn to? Maybe that mousy brunette with the glasses? Who always ties her hair back in a ponytail? Yeah, that one.
Ahh, Aphrodite, she works in mysterious ways. drags cigarette
You college boys reading this probably have at least one secret admirer, right now. AT LEAST one, almost certainly more. Over the course of my college career, I had something like half a dozen of my classmates admit crushes on me. And those were only the ones who admitted it. I pretty much know for a fact that there were more.
Advance and/or escalate on these girls in a reasonable amount of privacy and going all the way will simply be a matter of you realizing that YES, she DOES want you to. She'll probably even help you along.
Alright, technique time. This is stupid simple. It's actually easier than a number-close.
The basic idea is to check the girl to see if she is one of the multitudinous girls with crushes on you while still covering your back socially. College isn't a club; the type of game you'll be running on campus is basically extended social circle game. It is possible to fuck up here and have it come back to haunt you.
Luckily, though, we're all cool, social guys here. We bring party, and we pull other people into our party. We don't even necessarily want to sleep with all of the people we pull into our parties (especially not the guys, ew). Also, we've got high levels of social intelligence. We know a few basic things, and one of them is discretion. If you sleep with a girl, you don't run around telling everyone. If a girl puts herself on the line and admits that she likes you, you either reciprocate or you let her down VERY gently, and you don't run around telling people about this girl that has a crush on you, like you'd EVER sleep with her, PFFT.
NO. You act in a way that a Secret Society member should. You're a guy that the girls can have some harmless fun with, without trashing their reputations in the process. You don't tell people about girls you've slept with or girls you've blown off. You make it clear, by what you DON'T do, that it's okay to sleep with you.
Been doing that? Or rather, NOT doing what you're NOT supposed to? Good. Then this will actually work.
Repeat after me:
"Hey, what are you doing this weekend?"
"Cool. I'm going to [insert name of bar/club/event here]. Wanna come along?"
What you've probably noticed about that "technique" - and I hesitate to even call it that, because it's so basic and straightforward - is that 1) it isn't aggressive at all, 2) it doesn't imply anything about what will happen that weekend, and 3) it almost explicitly gives the girl the option to say no.
You've probably also noticed that it's amazingly easy and requires no game whatsoever. Could you imagine saying that to a guy? Probably. "Hey dude, we're going to X tonight. Wanna come?" The watchword is "NORMAL." This is a NORMAL thing to do. Nobody will so much as look at you funny if you ask them this. You're just offering value.
In fact, imagine the tone of voice you'd use to say that up there. "Hey dude, we're going to X tonight. Wanna come?" That's the tone of voice you should use with the girl. You're just collecting people to hang out with that weekend.
Now bear in mind, this "technique," unlike a lot of stuff we learn up in here, IS for the faint of heart. It's low-risk (no-risk, actually) and probably low-reward. But if you don't feel comfortable with some of the more aggressive stuff, especially for day/social circle game, this will at least get you moving in the right direction. Consider it Newbie Mission level. Consider it a very, VERY toned-down version of the Apocalypse opener.
If the girl just can't make it, or she has a boyfriend or whatever, she'll just tell you she can't go. Whatever. Nothing of value lost, including YOUR reputation. Not that this matters (see The Number One Rule), but I assure you, if you're still worried about that stuff, that this will put nothing at risk. I mean, all you did was ask her if she wanted to hang out. Of course you implied that it was as friends. You didn't "ask her out" ask her out.
However, the girl might actually show up.
If that happens, it'll be pretty easy to figure out if you've got a girl with a crush on your hands. Just use your social intuition to figure it out. Did she come alone? Did she dress to impress (you)? Is she asking you if this is a "date?" Does she seem nervous (like she really, REALLY cares what you think of her)? Then you've got a secret admirer on your hands, she believes that this is her Big Chance, and it's time for you to break out your A-game. Bring the party. Woo and intent. You know the drill. And you know that it's a foregone conclusion.
And it's way more socially acceptable for her to hook up with you now because the two of you can retroactively declare the meeting a "date" where stuff "just happened."
Remember, you deliberately kept the nature of the meetup ambiguous. Are you just out as friends? Is this a date? WHO KNOWS?! This question will be spinning in the girl's mind. If she tries to clear it up, you KNOW she's attracted. If she's visibly nervous because she's not sure of the answer, then you KNOW she's attracted. If she's hedging her bets by acting as if it is a date, then you KNOW she's attracted. Not that she ISN'T if she DOESN'T, but this is all the confirmation you need, assuming you think you need it.
Girl: "Hey, is this a date?"
You: look pleasantly surprised, smile, claw "Oh. Do you want it to be?"
I didn't really think about it this way back when I was in college, doing this. I honestly just wanted people to come out and get drunk with me, and several of them were girls that I considered friends who, unbeknownst to me, had crushes on me. But this flushed 'em out of the woodwork in a hurry. I experienced many "surprise! I have a vagina!" moments doing this.
In fact, right before I read a certain novel by a certain short bald guy and ended up constricting myself with a bunch of lame rules and procedures, I was considering going on a rampage of doing this with girls that I just knew socially (because my focus early on was simply figuring out whether or not a girl liked me so I could escalate on her "safely," and I took it for granted that at least a few girls had crushes on me but were too shy to tell me or whatever). But NOOOOOO, I was just Stormy and I didn't know shit, and a bunch of foolishly-dressed pooahs were telling me to do something else.
Whatever. Doing this, without realizing the significance of what I was doing, smoked out quite a few girls who were interested in me when I was back in college. There was no reason to believe that it wouldn't continue to do so.
Alright, who can you do this on? The answer: pretty much any girl you see regularly, OR any girl you start talking to during the day. Classmate? Fair game. Go for it. You're classmates. Classmates hang out together. Barista? Go for it. You're friends with your baristas (I slept with three baristas from the same coffee shop doing this back in the day; it was just normal to me that I hang out and get drunk with my baristas. They're my friends too). Random girl you start talking to and continue talking to for any length of time? Go for it. You're bringing people into your party.