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| Author: | Tyree [ Sat Aug 23, 2008 9:41 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Paranoia infront of friends (Inner Game) |
Hey - Being a total newbie AFC I really have an issue with gaming infront of friends... ...Ok - this evening I realised one of the biggest problems I have with my inner game. I went for a drink at with a couple of friends (who are a couple - what difference that makes I do not know) and they had a friend of theirs with them who my m8's other half plays volly ball with. She was easily an HB8-9 and was totally down to earth, the moment I walked in I could see she was the type worth gaming. I got a drink from the bar and sat down and started chatting making sure I was getting the attention, I felt I was doing well on the alpha male front. The HB within 5mins had changed her body language to face me, I was projecting strength in my body language, being open and holding some posture but keeping relaxed and trying not to show her too much attention (rightly or wrongly I do not know since I still do not have that much experience). She was giving some good IOI's, I would make a statement to the group and the HB would respond, not to the group but focus attention on me - there was the hair fiddling and everything. We parted company making arrangements with my friends for tomorrow (knowing the HB was working tomorrow so wasn't going to be there) and I came away with nothing not even knowing if I would see her again. I feel reasonably confident that I could easily have closed had I not been so reticent I really noticed this evening that I have an issue with gaming infront of friends who aren't also gaming. Please if anyone can come up with any reason why I should have a problem with this, what I should have done differently or more importantly how I can get over this I would be really grateful. Do I say to my friends other half tomorrow when I see her that I'm interested in her m8 or what, how is best to play this? Please help Tyree |
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| Author: | PrettyBoy41 [ Sat Aug 23, 2008 10:17 pm ] |
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dude you were doin fine. shoulda relocated tho. one you guys are havin fun, suggest a round of pool or somethin, seperate the two of you from the couple. thats part of the process. open. attract. build comfort. isolate. close. you needed to isolate. |
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| Author: | Tyree [ Sat Aug 23, 2008 10:34 pm ] |
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You are so right prettyboy - I really didn't think of that, I think the pub is only a watering hole with no poole table or anything like that. Lets say for point of argument that it had nothing like that where she was easily able to be isolated... ...is there a way to get over my fear in front of friends or the isolation thing that paramount? Is the problem I have something that affects us all? Tyree |
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| Author: | PrettyBoy41 [ Sun Aug 24, 2008 10:12 am ] |
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"come outside and have a smoke with me" "lets go get another round" anything to separate yourselves, it really doesnt matter what it is |
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| Author: | slickmc123 [ Sun Aug 24, 2008 1:18 pm ] |
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dynamics of the group, especially large ones, people tend to have seperate conversations so to isolate, sometimes you just have to be talking to her while others are talking amongst themselves and take a small step away from the group to lock in etc and she will follow to carry on the conversation. This way, your still part of the group, just on the boundary, people may still here what your saying but they are more likely not to get too involved thus you have isolation. If the group is smaller, game the group like you would any set, use the group by showing your leadership of the group to impress her with how every1 listens to you. I recently was on a lads holiday of about 15 of us, met 3 girls at a bar and continued to game them, i felt as if i had an audience of my friends watching but the point was that THEY WERE WATCHING, so i looked like the shit in front of the girls. I even had some of my afc friends try to amog me with comments such as 'these girls hate you', i said 'yeah your right, these girls hate me' while hugging the gals and having them chuckling away. What im saying is, that your friends being around you can help you show your social status, use it to your advantage. hope some of this helps slick |
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