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Author:  SierraPapa [ Sun Aug 10, 2008 11:06 pm ]
Post subject:  a little guidance... feeling an afc moment..
It seems all girls i like, are not single.

This girl has a bf. she told me she thinks he's weird amongst other things.

she used to tell me to come over etc..

it looked all good, and i kind of have feelings for her, not like majorly...

we were going for a meal... then the day before my car got hit by a deer... so our plans fell through... i said an alternate arrangement... then said infact it would be too complicated and tht i need some time to pull things together..

but ever since shes seemed really different round me... on msn we used to speak every night she used to speak straight away when i came on... and the chat used to flow.. now its very broken... almost seems forced and false...

tbh i dont know what to do where i stand etc..

she said she wanted me to give her a film education before the car accident... and i was going to see her more and watch films etc with her..

she even hinted dirty with me quite a bit...

i also had planned to pick up a dvd from her...

so to check when i could do tht i asked her tonight, whens best to come pick up the dvd... shes knew i was heading in tht direction tomorrow... Normally she would invite me over without me asking...


she gave the 'whenever whatever' basically...

so later i said... 'im thinking fo coming to pick it up tomorrow, seeing as im in town'

she gave the 'oh right ok'...'well whatever'

so i just said leave it ill find someone else to get it from and good night

basically... i just want it to go back to how it was... i feel as if by wanting it... its not happening... maybe i should just leave it for a while. besides she has a bf.

please, no angry comments, just looking for adivce. i am pretty fed up with being single SPAM.


bare in mind, we made cookies together, we hug, act playful, talked about 'us', made a car cd for my car....

anyway

thanks guys

~sierra~
Author:  callmecaptain [ Mon Aug 11, 2008 1:29 am ]
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I know what you're saying about all girls having BF's man!

I swear I was only attracted to girls that had boyfriends all throughout college. Some came through - others didn't.

I'm totally new when it comes to this, but based on what I've learned from reading the Game and some posts on here it might be best to use a combination of shutting her out and then treating her like a friend.

When you get online, don't be the first person to send her an IM. If she talks to you make small talk and then start talking to her about some girl you're interested (just make one up) but don't go overboard in detail. Saying less can be more as long as what you say strikes the exact right chord.

Highlight anything that might be a shortcoming in her. If she has to work hard to stay in shape, mention how the imaginary girl is really in shape and never even works out!

This will totally push her in the friend zone. If you put her in the friend zone before she puts you in it, then she might realize she still does have interest in you.

Besides one of the best ways of demonstrating value is having other women interested in you.

Like I said I'm really new to this stuff. But based on what knowledge i have, this may help.

CPT
Author:  Bonita [ Mon Aug 11, 2008 3:36 am ]
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This will totally push her in the friend zone. If you put her in the friend zone before she puts you in it, then she might realize she still does have interest in you.
CPT
I think that would be the smartest move. She can't say "I only want to be friends with you" first if you already project that image. And woman are more often attracted to guys that are off the market or not interested in them.

Also about the phone call and her ambiguity. It could just be that she didn't know how to respond. If she was going to be home all day and you said you were going to stop by, it is natural to say "ok ill see ya later." I don't have all the details on HOW she said it so i could be wrong, but it is not a complete indicator that she didnt care if you came over or not.
Author:  Chino Kapone [ Mon Aug 11, 2008 5:33 am ]
Post subject:  Re: a little guidance... feeling an afc moment..
How old are you/her?
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It seems all girls i like, are not single.

This girl has a bf. she told me she thinks he's weird amongst other things.
Your job as a PUA is to project something new and different to her. She obiviously saw this in you as she would bag on her man around you.
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she used to tell me to come over etc..
If she is saying this to you, and at the same time telling you her bf is wierd it is because she is looking for attention she is not getting from her bf.
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it looked all good, and i kind of have feelings for her, not like majorly...

we were going for a meal... then the day before my car got hit by a deer... so our plans fell through... i said an alternate arrangement... then said infact it would be too complicated and tht i need some time to pull things together..

but ever since shes seemed really different round me... on msn we used to speak every night she used to speak straight away when i came on... and the chat used to flow.. now its very broken... almost seems forced and false...
Not trying to be a dick.... but more than likely she has found another guy to give her the attention you previously were giving her.

She is basically fishing for attention right now. She already has one fish in the boat (her bf) and is looking for a few others right now. She had you, but threw you back when you no longer new and different.
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tbh i dont know what to do where i stand etc..
You need to set the presedence here. As a man of high value, you tell her where she stands with you.
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she said she wanted me to give her a film education before the car accident... and i was going to see her more and watch films etc with her..

she even hinted dirty with me quite a bit...

i also had planned to pick up a dvd from her...

so to check when i could do tht i asked her tonight, whens best to come pick up the dvd... shes knew i was heading in tht direction tomorrow... Normally she would invite me over without me asking...


she gave the 'whenever whatever' basically...

so later i said... 'im thinking fo coming to pick it up tomorrow, seeing as im in town'

she gave the 'oh right ok'...'well whatever'
She is pretty much done with you bro. Now is the time to move on and meet other women. She knows she can have you at any moment... so expect her to treat you like that. Go out and meet other women. It will help get your mind off of her. Freeze her out for a while. Do not be quick to reply to her messages and calls.
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so i just said leave it ill find someone else to get it from and good night
now is not the time to act like a spoiled child who did not get the toy he wanted. That will be very counter productive. You have to let this shit roll off your back.
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basically... i just want it to go back to how it was... i feel as if by wanting it... its not happening... maybe i should just leave it for a while. besides she has a bf.
Leave her be for a while. Its not going to go back to the way it was... My guess is because she knows she can have you, and so you are no longer a challenge to her. She expects that she can blow you off and the moment she wants attention from you again, she can have it. Be different.
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please, no angry comments, just looking for adivce. i am pretty fed up with being single SPAM.
Change this attitude. Be happy to be a single man of high value with many dating options. Understand that women can read your desperation and this one read you like a book.

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bare in mind, we made cookies together, we hug, act playful, talked about 'us', made a car cd for my car....
It may sound like im beating a dead horse, but this right here is the attention she was looking for. She was wanting to act like this and have these converstaions with her current bf. She was able to do it with you, without the commitment of having a bf.

Move on and find a new girl to bake cookies with... Once you do, this one may just come chasing after you.
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anyway

thanks guys

~sierra~
Good luck bro. :)
Author:  SierraPapa [ Mon Aug 11, 2008 7:04 pm ]
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thanks for all the responses guys! :) much appreciated

more responses are very welcome :)

more info and advice the merrier, cos it makes me better lol :P



think i held myself back from the afc moment :P!!! keep meeting new woman! make yourself busy and get on with whats important.... life!!

they will come after what you strive for and have on offer due to that.. :)

~sierra~
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