Kind of tricky to tell. If a woman of 20 calls you sweetie or love, that could very well be an IOI. But if 30 or 40, much less likely (IMO - unless she's a cougar or something).

The other day at my job ( i am a cashier) a hot older lady (30's) said I looked like a famous actor. I didn't know how to take it as I was raised to respect older people, especially women (I am only 19), I desperately wanted to flirt with her but didn't know how she would take it. Do you know where I could've taken it from there, preferably to get an F-close? (sorry, I'm very horny!!).

Another question is, when women in their 20's and 30's call you sweetie and love, is that an IOI?

Another lady in her 30's or 40's made a comment about how she liked my hair and how her daughter does hair and its the new fashion (something I didn't know). Is this someone making polite conversation, or is it an IOI? Sorry , I'm clueless as f*ck , which is probably why I haven't had a sexual experience in a while.

And yet another lady wanted me to help her find some vitamin, she was with her daughter and mother, the whole time I kept getting sexual impulse for her. We were very close when i was looking for the vitamins, touching arms, and then when i found what she wanted she stroked my arm and said thank you. IOI, or just my horny teenage brain?

She was not giving you any IOI's, just a compliment that's all.
Nope.
She was mostly likely trying to sell her daughter's hair services to you.
Most likely your teenage brain at work. Some females are touchy and/or flirty by natural and are not giving you IOI's.

I think jurupa had it right. Women in their 30's and 40's say sweetie and love in a motherly way. I think if you hear a way a cougar says it, then you will def be able to tell the difference. As for mentioning her daughter she could have thought you would be a good match with her daughter. No cougar will mention their daughter if they are trying to pick you up. Unless you are into picking up an older women, I wouldn't even bother trying to interpret what they say...women in their 30s-40s don't use "sweetie" the same way a girl in her 20s does.

I see. well I personally am very interested in these women in their 30's and late 20's, I find them attractve and have so much more to share with them conversation wise that I find very hard sharing with women my age, such as strong interest in history and alternative spirituality, which girls my age find boring.

How does one seperate an IOI from a compliment?

Why's the game so damn difficult.

I see. well I personally am very interested in these women in their 30's and late 20's, I find them attractve and have so much more to share with them conversation wise that I find very hard sharing with women my age, such as strong interest in history and alternative spirituality, which girls my age find boring.

Chances are that unless the women were physically attracted to you, none of these are IOIs, from what you've told me, you didnt do anything to flip the attraction switches or even attempt to establish a female-male intrest. You just did ur job.

So where do I start when looking into flipping that switch? I do recall giving these women strong eye contact, not on purpose but rather it's how I was raised (to look people in the eyes when talking to them). I hear this is an important element of attraction, could this have impacted it? It also seemed like I was giong out of my way to be nice to them (it's just how I naturaly am, wasn't trying to game them or anything).


Thanks.