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Author:  Mysterious-Mind [ Sun Jul 27, 2008 12:14 am ]
Post subject:  I Feel Like Crap After Tonight...
Hi all,

For the past couple of weeks, everything was going well as regards to Sarging. My confidence was up and all was well....until tonight.

About two weeks ago I number closed a super HB10, the hottest I have seen so far, and for a Day Two I decided to take her and her friend out to a club/bar in Central London (why the hell I chose a loud place for a Day Two, I don't know...).

On the night of going out (tonight), she and her friend turn up 1.5 hours late...Their excuse was that they were girls and had to make sure they looked good for going out. As we were so late getting to the bar, the girls still had to pay £10 to get in. They did not want to pay (no way in Hell was I going to pay for them getting in), so we decide to walk around and find somewhere else to go.

We walk around for ages and find nowhere. They eventually give some bulls**t story that they have to meet a girl and that they will bring them back to me and said that I should wait in a club for them. I told them I will not be going into a club by myself and that we should all go together to pick this girl up.

We walk around again, and I tell them we should go to Jewel. I pay to get in, and just before the girls paid they said they wanted to go to the cash machine and said wait in Jewel and they will come back (obviously a second lie to make a runner...), so I said I will come with them.

We cross the road and guess what? They never go to the cash machine. We talk a bit and the girls take pictures of me and them together. I tell them that we should meet up properly, and we decided on Monday. The HB10, Hayley, tells me to call her on Monday afternoon to sort something out.

We depart and I go home gutted.

Now, I feel like shit mainly because they made lies to get away from me and make a runner. My confidence has dropped down to 0 and my self esteem pretty fucked up now.

Why did they lie to me?
Should I call Hayley on Monday and give her one more chance?

Fuck sake....I am so into Hayley. She is one of the hottest HB10's I have ever seen and I don't want to mess up my chance with her...I like her too much. I can't even get to sleep now and I seriously feel like shit and so alone....

Sorry for the rant, as I am usually never like this guys...thanks :(
Author:  djay [ Sun Jul 27, 2008 2:06 am ]
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dude chill, evaluate and move on to the next one.

few things wrong, choice of day 2 but you know that.

2, you were out numbered from the start, 1st rule is to get her away from the cock block and you invited it to come with you

3, it sounds as if you did not run the set from the start or you lost the set and failed to recapture it somewhere into it.

4, always have that person who can call you when things go wrong so you can make a quick exit lol

just chill relax, go out and sarge again you will be cool. i mean you got the number in the 1st place so you did something right
Author:  Cheek [ Sun Jul 27, 2008 2:08 am ]
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Well, as a rule you should never get this attached to ONE target. I`ve had plenty of HBs do the same crap to me, usually I can trace it back to not building enough comfort with her on day 1. Try to analyse your first meeting and see if you can find a reason why day 2 became a fiasco..

As far as ditching her or not goes, I say go for it. But remember, a phone call isn`t only used to set up the next meet, why not try to build some comfort with her on the phone? Give it a go, and if you can`t pull it of, atleast you`ll be one experience richer when the next HB10 comes along;)

No matter what you decide to to however, I would advise that you distance yourself from the girl, you don`t need her. She is simply a stepping stone for you to bigger and better game;)
Author:  Infamous110 [ Sun Jul 27, 2008 2:28 am ]
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Couple of questions

Where'd you meet her? Club ect? Kino/intimacy or just number?

Also, there were clear signs that they weren't really down for being out with you there. The lateness is lame, but I guess forgivable. It kinda DLVs you though. I'm assuming you didn't pick this up at the time, but as an afterthought mostly.

So she's hot, but what else? How far into qualifying have you gotten? Was that your intention for day 2?

Isn't your party tonight?!

Call her Monday evening and tell her she's a nightmare and you don't know how somebody can be frustrating and cute at the same time. Invite her to something you already have planned and don't deviate to suit her.
Author:  karlostm [ Tue Jul 29, 2008 9:03 am ]
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Haha you muppet! ;o)

Only kidding! seriously though, having spoken to you and found out a few more details here's what you should have done.

1. Chosen a different day 2 venue (as you know), though your idea could possibly have worked, sounds like it was set up nicely for social proof and pre-selection
2. You shouldn't have been so needy. It was clear from the start that all you wanted to do was to fuck this girl because she was so hot and damn everything else. Once you decided that you gave away all your power at that moment and you were destined to fail (probably even if you had got them into the club).
3. Rather than waiting for 1.5 hours for them outside the tube station, you should have been at the party enjoying yourself. You could have asked them to ring you when they arrived so you could tell them the location. Or just given them the location beforehand - that's the simplest plan.
4. You told me you forgot that you were all on the guestlist so you wouldn't have had to pay anyway. Logistical error!
5. Walking round London after them for hours to never let them out of your sight like a puppy dog chasing after its master is not a demonstration of higher value. You should have cut your losses, left them to it and gone off to meet some other (e.g. new) people.

Anyway we spoke last night and I think you know all this now. You don't learn anything unless you fuck up and here you can learn a hell of a lot. Last night was pretty awesome and I think we both had the most social proof that we've ever had. Lost you at the end and as your phone was new I couldn't contact you. I'll put up an FR of that later today.

And don't worry about it anymore, learn the lessons and move on, there will be plenty of other opportunities.
Author:  Mysterious-Mind [ Tue Jul 29, 2008 2:16 pm ]
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Thank you all for the replies! :)

I number closed her in a bar/club (Jewel to be exact), but to be honest, after sarging last night with Charlie in Tiger Tiger, I am over her now :P

CHARLIE! We rocked there! omg, that was the best sarging time EVER! The IOI's we were getting was something that can only be seen to be believed!

haha, did you hear what the HB9 Shooter girl said about you and me? :D
Author:  karlostm [ Tue Jul 29, 2008 2:49 pm ]
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Nah what did she say? Tell me tell me tell me!

FR for yesterday going up shortly...
Author:  karlostm [ Tue Jul 29, 2008 3:28 pm ]
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Field report for yesterday in all it's over-long glory, now in the Field Reports section, titled:

"Awesome night, massive social proof and lessons learned"

Enjoy
Author:  Mysterious-Mind [ Tue Jul 29, 2008 4:19 pm ]
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Quote:
Nah what did she say? Tell me tell me tell me!

FR for yesterday going up shortly...
hehe, she first asked what our names were, and then said we were hot dancers! ;)

She asked will we be coming back and I said hopefully, and she said, "I'll be looking forward to that, and maybe get a dance with you and your friend!".

:D 8) 8)
Author:  Roads [ Tue Jul 29, 2008 5:45 pm ]
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NEXT!
Author:  saqchek [ Tue Jul 29, 2008 8:39 pm ]
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Some key problems I noticed.

1) Actually waiting 1.5 hours for this dumb ass chicks. Who gives a fuck how hot they are? Are you that low of value to be somebody's bitch boy? That's exactly what you appear to me by waiting. You should have been partying and sarging other people prior to them getting there and you wouldn't gave a shit if they showed up or not.

2) You met up with her and her friend solo. Why? Why didn't you invite friends of your own to said location where you all were going to meet up. If they didn't want to come in....oh well...too bad...you still had your friends there and you didn't appear needy.

3) following those girls around like a puppy dog. I would have excused myself and hit the road with a "hey, my friend just texted and is at Y location, I'm going to go join them for a bit. You guys should join us later.



Those girl wanting you to wait for them in a bar?....lol Dude...NO. Next time, have some other friends there or invite some with you if you know there is going to be a 3rd party.
Author:  karlostm [ Tue Jul 29, 2008 10:38 pm ]
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hehe, she first asked what our names were, and then said we were hot dancers! ;)

She asked will we be coming back and I said hopefully, and she said, "I'll be looking forward to that, and maybe get a dance with you and your friend!".

:D 8) 8)
Nice one. Glad to have my dancing skills validated by and HB10!
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