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Author:	Frenki [ Sat May 10, 2008 2:17 pm ]
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I'm new to this stuff so I need help. I've recently met a hot girl and we share a common interest (dogs) so we started walking together etc. I like her mostly because she is hot, but also because of some common interests. I don't know if she's given me some IOI but a couple of times she put her hand on my shoulder, she often calls me to set up the meetings (and I'm not always available) but still, when we do meet, she is distanced and rather cold. We have a good time, but never a great time, I guess because of her distanced approach. Either she's not trying or she is like that with everyone. I can't tell because she didn't introduce me to her friends (which are from work and around 30-35 years old). We hang out 1 on 1. The problem is that she is 27 and I'm 22 so I didn't made a very "manly" first approach, because I was (and still am) afraid that I couldn't really handle a woman like her. And now, of course, I'm afraid that I've been put in the friends drawer. I'm never acting needy around her, I don't kiss her ass etc. which would be a turn-off, but I've also never given her the reason to thing that I'm interested. She sometimes mentions her exes, but, on the other hand, now that I've met her better I have a feeling that she is not as experienced as I expected from a 27 year old. And now I kinda started to like her, and started thinking of her and I'm afraid that I could develop one-itis. Since I said that I like her I believe that I have only two options: 1. I could (somehow, don't know how) get rid of her shield and melt her up, see if she's interested 2. Stop seeing her How should I approach the situation? Is the situation lost if I have been passive too long or there is something that could be done?

Author:	SiNfUl [ Sat May 10, 2008 5:32 pm ]
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The girl definitely has 'some' interest in you, but you are not taking advantage of it. You are over-thinking the whole situation. Stop worrying so much about the 'details' and concentrate on having fun with her. Everything will fall into place once you are established as a guy she enjoys being around. You need to be confident, cocky, funny, sarcastic, etc. Be the Bad Boy she dreams about at night, not the nice guy she can take advantage of. Personally, I love when a girl is cold and distant because it gives me an opportunity to have 'fun' with it. You are coming across as a guy that is very unsure of himself. Girls are not interested in men who act this way...work on that confidence a little bro.

Author:	David~ [ Sat May 10, 2008 5:47 pm ]
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Bah. No worries. You need to melt her. Slowly. Very very slowly. She is most likely cold hearted because of previous bad experiences with men. What I need you to do is build rapport (comfort). Get her to open up, share her feelings and past experiences with ex's when she brings them up. Seem like youre interested, and respond in interesting ways. Make strong eye contact. Not to much though. When she runs some kino on you, give her a little back. Women like being rewarded or you will lose them. As for the one-itis? Don't worry about developing it. Stay confident, be her "pillar" when it comes to emotions, and build tension. With that tension you should be able to bag it pretty easily. Don't entirely rely on these forums for every move you should make. Deep down you know what alpha men do, you know what to do, and when your anxious/nervous and afraid of being rejected, do the exact opposite of what your brain tells you to do. You must be alpha. A nice, kind, Alpha that demonstrates strength (emotionally). Don't be a dick either.

Author:	Apollyon [ Sat May 10, 2008 11:36 pm ]
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Try some cocky funny and a little sarcasm like Sinful said. But don't make a move on her until she shows more interest in you like staring in your eyes, laughing at your lame jokes, smiling a lot, playing with hair, etc. Remember to have open body language and make your voice exciting and charismatic.

Author:	Frenki [ Sun May 11, 2008 7:41 am ]
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Yes, I guess she has shown an interest to some degree. She was at my place a couple of days ago and we had fun. I made her bench press some weights to see just how strong she is, and told her that she is one of the first three on my list of girls who were bench-press tested (in terms of strength). She laughed at that. I hope that kind off established me as a selector. Also, when we were drinking coffee she took a cigarette and I made a "that's a horrible habit" face and asked "You smoke?". She said "Well, yes, but only occasionally when I feel like it." I think that she believed she has to justify herself to me for her habit. Okay, okay, I know I'm over analyzing but I can't help it. Anyway, she was lying on the bench with me above her (not directly but behind/above - in case the weight was too heavy for her), looking at me and smiling, but I didn't know how to proceed at that point, and later she was back to her usual self. Yes, I believe this cocky-funny could work, it is just a matter of confidence for me to deal with. I guess I'm uncertain just how far can I go with this routine because I'm afraid that she could get offended at some point and find me arrogant or disrespectful toward women. That's why I usually like more direct girls who won't hold it against you (at least not too long) if you go a bit too far with this cocky-funny style.

Author:	SiNfUl [ Mon May 12, 2008 3:18 pm ]
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"Well, yes, but only occasionally when I feel like it." I think that she believed she has to justify herself to me for her habit. Perfect...

Author:	Drez [ Mon May 12, 2008 6:36 pm ]
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tell her to stop being a bitch or say it in nicer terms. I prefer an aggresive approach, cuz some girls need to be told what is really good and get a lil shaken up. or you could just ask her whats good with the distanced/cold thing? Maybe she just doesnt want to be hurt

Author:	Frenki [ Tue May 27, 2008 6:41 am ]
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Hi there. Long time no see Okay, recently I've been making progress with "my" cold girl. We started talking about more interesting subjects, I started teasing her, making sexual innuendos from time to time, light kino etc. and a couple of days ago we arranged a meeting (went to get some ice cream) and she surprised me with her new look. She curled her hair, wore a tight dark blue dress and put on some perfume. She was really gorgeous. We had a good time, but still, there was no opportunity for me to go for a kiss. I was also afraid on how she would react if I showed more "aggressiveness", but I guess she was dressed like that for a reason, so I probably missed a good opportunity there. But obviously I'm given another chance because we are going to the cinema this evening and I could really use some good advice on how to proceed. I guess it would be creepy if I started doing kino while watching the movie. Should I wait for an end of the evening or what? Guys, I really need your help asap!

Author:	The night fox [ Tue May 27, 2008 7:03 pm ]
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Im not sure if cinema game works differently for people your age compared to teenagers but if i was in your situation i would just put my arm around her. If that is considered cheesy you could hold her hand or something.... Either which way she has given you plenty of IOI's. Oh btw make sure you do some kino before the cinema or it may take her by suprise.

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