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I know it's not everyones favourite thing, but started using Tinder a few weeks ago. Was messaging a match for a week or so but conversation was slow as she and I were slow replying. It was literally 2-3 messages a time. It seemed to be going well with her and me asking questions back on forth, so I gave her my number and said she should text me.
Next day she did, sent a few messages back and forth again, but now she hasn't answered for a few days. Last message she sent had a few sentences and asked questions, so I sent a simlar one back. No answer yet. This was Thursday night so not a massive gap, but wondering what I should do now? Wait to see if she sends me a message, or re initiate?
Thinking I shouldn't bother unless she contacts me though. But she did get in contact after I gave her my number, and possibly she's been busy, so idk. What would you suggest?
My experience with Tinder is that even if you have good pictures, you have to stand out.
The same "Nice Guy" routine that fails IRL fails on Tinder. women match with tons of guys due to their greater abundance, and each guy sends variations of the same message: "Hey there, gorgeous!".
Instead, try stuff like:
"Hi, you seem cool. And I'm a big fan of getting right to the point. I'm looking for casual only at this time, but I'm more fun than prom on acid."
I've talked a lot on this forum about using shocking honesty. It does all of the things you must do in seduction with 1/4 the effort. Shocking honesty IMMEDIATELY shows dominance, sexuality, playfulness, and congruency. This is REFRESHING to sex-positive, independent women. They are on tinder to fuck. Acknowledge that reality, and proceed accordingly.
women are not magical, fragile princesses that get offended by every little thing. They want sex, too. Make it easy for them by being true to your desires in a respectful way.