I disagree with Okiodan--honesty is important, but you don't want to convey weakness, neediness, or any other trait of an unattractive man. Be open with her only to the degree that you don't portray negative characteristics. Telling her that you miss her will only convey that you are not a strong person.
On the other hand, you can be reasonable. If you haven't talked to her in several weeks for no reason at all, and the lack of contact has been entirely her doing, just tell her straight up that it is stupid to be in a relationship where you don't see each other. At that point, she will either recommit to you, or you can break up or transition into an open relationship.
Ultimatums, while risky, are often effective. If you have good cause, it can be the ultimate freeze-out if she is still into you. If she's not into you, then she will stop dragging it out, because it will be more work to recommit than to break it off. If you can present it nonchalantly, and have a thick skin about her response, they can be very powerful.
Ultimately, as was said above--the way to win her back, if possible, is to be attractive. Start acting like an attractive person--work on your social proof, show social dominance, be funny, have ambitions, and you will probably win her back.
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