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Author:  Arch4ngel [ Wed Nov 30, 2016 6:38 am ]
Post subject:  If I think I should stop talking I probably should

Hey guys... so I need some advice on what to do with a girl.

So for starters.. we live 5 hours away from each other. I have a son and she is young.

We talked for a few months fucked etc...

She started being all feelsy and I let it get me. I asked if she wanted to be a thing but she didn't want to do the distance but likes me a lot blah blah. Snapchats from her pretty much seized and no more kissy faces, hello handsomes. At this point I should have stopped. I already promised to take her on a trip so I did that. We fucked had a great time then I went back home. She said thanks very much but still not opening up. Pretty much knew she wouldn't.

I went out with my friend the other day and she was being quite needy. Texting me wanting me to talk to her. She is very random. She texts back, but I feel like I'm just some side guy. I totally set myself up for this. It's like everytime I get a little fed up she texts me something sweet... sucks me right in. What advice do you have? I know it's probably to stop texting her back, have self respect, don't sacrifice time. But hearing from you guys will help anyway. Good advice will be nice.

Just a note.. I have done nice gestures for her, but after the original asking her out I have not brought it up again. I do like her and my intentions are genuine. I feel that I've given all that I can. I'm just going with the flow now.

Author:  SummerNight [ Wed Nov 30, 2016 2:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: If I think I should stop talking I probably should

Well.. you basically answered your own question. Just.. go with the flow.. don't think about her too much, if it happens - sweet, if not.. doesn't matter - you should be flirting with other girls so you can have abundance and then pick the one you prefer.

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Nov 30, 2016 3:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: If I think I should stop talking I probably should

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Well.. you basically answered your own question. Just.. go with the flow.. don't think about her too much, if it happens - sweet, if not.. doesn't matter - you should be flirting with other girls so you can have abundance and then pick the one you prefer.
Yeah this. +1

Author:  Eddie Fews [ Thu Dec 01, 2016 1:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: If I think I should stop talking I probably should

You've invested, you've become emotionally attached to your investment, and you don't want to let go because you've yet to get the ROI(her opening up) that you're looking for and she's still showing promise that maybe she potentially could.

Typical story. Nothing new here. Its one of thousands if not hundred of thousands of post on this forum.

The point is.. You're overly emotionally attached and as a result she's pulling; and she'll only push when she feels you pull. You have to back off, meet some new women and give yourself time to heal. You're driving behind her on a one way street trying to get ahead. Reverse and find a new street. Perhaps you'll catch up to her down the road if you guys two streets intersect again, perhaps you won't. But theres no way you'll be getting ahead on this current path that you're on.

You came to the right place; now just swallow your ego and pride and apply the advice.

Author:  Curtis72 [ Sat Dec 03, 2016 3:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: If I think I should stop talking I probably should

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I have a son and she is young.
This made me chuckle, maybe it's just my dry humour.

Author:  Arch4ngel [ Mon Jan 23, 2017 10:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: If I think I should stop talking I probably should

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You've invested, you've become emotionally attached to your investment, and you don't want to let go because you've yet to get the ROI(her opening up) that you're looking for and she's still showing promise that maybe she potentially could.

Typical story. Nothing new here. Its one of thousands if not hundred of thousands of post on this forum.

The point is.. You're overly emotionally attached and as a result she's pulling; and she'll only push when she feels you pull. You have to back off, meet some new women and give yourself time to heal. You're driving behind her on a one way street trying to get ahead. Reverse and find a new street. Perhaps you'll catch up to her down the road if you guys two streets intersect again, perhaps you won't. But theres no way you'll be getting ahead on this current path that you're on.

You came to the right place; now just swallow your ego and pride and apply the advice.
Thanks Eddie.

Well I finally ended our non-relationship. It was very hard for me since I did get too emotionally attached. She told me she wanted to enjoy me and the things I did for her. She said she wanted me to be patient and cooperative with her until she was ready to be in a relationship. I'm sure I made the right choice. I did feel like I was on a one way street like you mentioned.. I felt weak and powerless. I feel however that the feelings construed out of comfort. But the matter is, is that they came. I had a girl come over after the break up to try and keep my mind off of her, but I began to feel bad for the girl because I knew I was practically going to use her. I also still have feelings for the girl I stopped talking to. Is this situation normal?

Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Tue Jan 24, 2017 4:23 am ]
Post subject:  Re: If I think I should stop talking I probably should

Yeah. It's normal. As for emotional investment, you'll need to spread the risk to get a stable, solid ROI. Think of an index fund; somewhere along the lines of S&P 500 Index. Diversify your portfolio in several other stocks.

Author:  Arch4ngel [ Tue Jan 24, 2017 5:34 am ]
Post subject:  Re: If I think I should stop talking I probably should

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Yeah. It's normal. As for emotional investment, you'll need to spread the risk to get a stable, solid ROI. Think of an index fund; somewhere along the lines of S&P 500 Index. Diversify your portfolio in several other stocks.
Thanks Monsignor. I absolutely do need to learn how to invest my time so that such events do not happen or at least lighten the blow. The crappy thing in my case is that the demographic I currently live is lacking in stocks.

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