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| Author: | gking17 [ Tue Nov 29, 2016 2:40 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Lost alphadom/ex at party |
I've been dealing with this girls bullshit for almost 8 months now. We started great ended up hooking up but after a few weeks she will distance herself from me saying "she isn't ready for a relationship" I always agree with her and some how we'll end up hooking up again. This happened atleast 5 times. Eventually I told her I wanted more but she wasn't ready so I decided to leave her alone. We didn't talk for a month We recently started talking again and at first she was really upset with me because she kept seeing another girl on my snapchat. She told me not to try and flirt with her if i have someone else. I told her I don't and that it's nothing serious, that she's the only girl im flirting with and etc.. After this we planned to hangout out atleast 4 times and each time she would cancle the last time instead of coming over my house she changed the plan and invited me to the mall with her girlfriend and I rejected, she said she there's too much sexual tension between us etc. This started a huge argument about me wanting more her not knowing what she wants. She doesn't think we can be friends because we both get jealous of eachother. She doesn't like certain things but wont tell me what. Sometimes she wants someone sometimes she doesn't, her friend told her to give me a chance because I try with her and a whole bunch of other bullshit. Anyways after this I realized that I was acting like a total beta and removed myself from the conversation. I see now that she gives a sense of false hope and i can tell she knows she has me wrapped around her fingers. She's disrespectful and doesn't appreciate effort I put ib. I just want the power back. I want to be in control again and Idk how or if it's even worth it. Anyways I will definitely see her this weekend at a campus event and after party. Should I just ignore and avoid her? |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Tue Nov 29, 2016 4:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Lost alphadom/ex at party |
Quote: Anyways I will definitely see her this weekend at a campus event and after party. Should I just ignore and avoid her? I always give the same advice in situations like this. Be polite to her and don't play games. If she sees you, say hello, ask her how she's doing and then go about your business. It will leave an effect on her, but it's more important for you to learn how to be unaffected.
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| Author: | J.Daniels [ Tue Nov 29, 2016 4:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Lost alphadom/ex at party |
If a woman hasn't mentioned a relationship then it's usually safe to assume she isn't ready for one. Women can't help but bring it up when they're ready, lol. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Tue Nov 29, 2016 5:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Lost alphadom/ex at party |
Basically what you're saying is... "i'm drowning and I want to breathe again, but I'm not ready to lift myself from under the water." You're acknowledging the fact that this girl has you under complete control, but what you're not understanding is that she already has you and your intentions figured out. The GAME IS OVER. She knows what you want, knows she can give it to you at the drop of a dime and you'll jump at the opportunity. What is the fun in this situation for her? What does she gain that she want from entering a relationship with you at this point? She already has your sole focus, attention, and complete desire for her. What else is there to gain? If you want the "Power" back(whatever that means), pick yourself up and move the fuck on. The power you want back is not something SHE CAN GIVE YOU. You have to rediscover that for yourself. There is no closure, there is no her playing mommy, treating you like a child and healing your ego. She has you by the balls, you didn't win the game.. Face it. You wouldn't keep banging a Pac-Man arcade machine if you didn't win, because you no longer had quarters to put into the machine would you? If you don't have quarters you CAN NOT PLAY. And the only way for you to get quarters now is to go out into the world and EARN SOME MONEY from a source that is not the place you're spending all your money. The machine isn't giving you your money back no matter how bad you want it. But if you go out and make some money you may be able to play the game once again. Fuck this girl.. Go out and find new women, get some change from your exchanges with them (figuratively) and if the girl pops back around you may be able to do something with it. For now, you have to man up and WALK. Simple enough? |
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| Author: | Black Phantom [ Tue Nov 29, 2016 6:30 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Lost alphadom/ex at party |
If you want your power back, do this: > Stop calling her too much. Limit your calls and texts. > Start seeing other women and build a dating life. Have 1, 2 or 3 girls that you're seeing with regularly. > Most important: Tell her YOU want to just be friends. Then send mixed signals when you're together. i.e Tell her she a great friend, then that she's cute and that you'd do her like a rabbit - if only you guys weren't friends. She backed away because she probably isn't ready for a relationship - at least not the kind that you'd like to have. Show her that she can relax around you without the pressure to have sex or get hot$heavy - that she can truly just breathe around you. |
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| Author: | SummerNight [ Tue Nov 29, 2016 6:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Lost alphadom/ex at party |
Girls are the ones asking for relationships not men.. Anyways, as you can see yourself it's a shit show and will not likely produce anything good in the future. Just.. approach more girls so you would not need to invest yourself emotionally and give some girl the power over your emotional well being. |
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