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You're only a year younger so maybe I can shed some light on this. I have been dating multiple women for about 5 months now. I understand the whole settling down but from experience with LTR I usually don't want to talk to these women after our time has ended. I don't like it. At the moment I am also struggling with the "monogamy" thing. Maybe it's because of the holidays and how people seem to hook up around this time and settle down.

I am looking for a woman that I seek to have her around- that's the first step. If I am not contacting you to hang out at least once, then it won't work out. I know certain women get to me- so until then - I'll be going through a few of them.

Personally though, I want to travel in 3 months. So a relationship won't be an ideal place for me at this time.

I am glad you can relate. I am struggling with this monogamy thing, too.

The main idea I see here, though, is that you have your own belief system and screen for women, perhaps more "assertively" than I do. Besides, you are traveling soon, so objectively, some things you can't do. Boundaries, that's part of relationships, as something as simple as travel can sometimes make or break the deal.

Thanks for sharing your experience, and cool to know you're in my age bracket.

PS - Do you find excessively dating women to sometimes be a waste of time?

I know I shouldn't say it, but sometimes, it can be. I love women, but I'm a busy dude with my career, too. We seem to make allowance and bend for woman when it comes to our schedule more than we should, or is that just me. I am getting better at that, though. I just like hanging out, I guess, it is all really priorities, though. If I was as busy as I needed to be, I sure wouldn't be in three serious LTRs. . . how would I have the time? At that point, I figure something that's less of a time constraint. Dating is time consuming. Being in our mid-twenties, perhaps you can relate to this feeling, too. This begs the questions, should I consider screening for short-term vs long term to make for a more ample schedule? Sounds lame, but I am being sincere.

Author:	JackZero [ Sat Nov 26, 2016 5:02 am ]
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Honestly, Da, I am like most men and look at the physical first and then I look at self-sufficiency. After that I just let the woman be an individual and try not to look for anything and let time and desire to be around her be what determines if she's good for a relationship. Then I've given myself a rule when it comes to the amount of time. I won't consider a relationship until at least six to eight months of going out. At some points. I'm in a monogamous nonrelationship but I won't guarantee a committed one until after I'm satisfied that it'll be worth it. The reason I put time on it is because there is that infatuation phase, then the honesty phase, then the "should we really be together" phase. All these things happen during most relationships and that cycle usually goes for about 8 or 9 months. When relationships fall apart, the first signs are between 8 months and a year. So instead of looking for something specific in women, I let time be my guide. I'll be honest and say that I've lost women because of how I feel about that. Even though I sort of feel like I've won out in the end because they are not showing that they can be patient.

Author:	Mr. Assertive [ Sun Nov 27, 2016 12:55 am ]
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You're only a year younger so maybe I can shed some light on this. I have been dating multiple women for about 5 months now. I understand the whole settling down but from experience with LTR I usually don't want to talk to these women after our time has ended. I don't like it. At the moment I am also struggling with the "monogamy" thing. Maybe it's because of the holidays and how people seem to hook up around this time and settle down. I am looking for a woman that I seek to have her around- that's the first step. If I am not contacting you to hang out at least once, then it won't work out. I know certain women get to me- so until then - I'll be going through a few of them. Personally though, I want to travel in 3 months. So a relationship won't be an ideal place for me at this time.

Author:	Arch Stanton [ Sun Nov 27, 2016 1:21 am ]
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1. Long feminine hair. 2. Thin, not husky. Looks very feminine when walking away form the bed naked in the morning. 3. Big, doe-like eyes and nice cheekbones. 4. The ability to spar verbally (banter, wit, humor). 5. Completely open-minded in the bedroom. 6. Loyalty. 7. Carries herself well when I'm not around. She can be a flusie around me if I give the green light, but otherwise, no. That's pretty much it. My type is a bit rare, so I tend to get into relationships when I do find a woman like this. At 40, I've never been married, and don't want to be. I only date 20-somethings, and they realize I'm not going to be marriage material. It sort of dooms the relationships from the start, but I'm okay with it. I like being the old bull having a great time. I honestly hope if I do leave this world, it's with a gorgeous brunette on top of me, looking down as she fucks me, wondering what is wrong. haha. "Arch, you okay. Arch????".

Author:	Mr. Assertive [ Sun Nov 27, 2016 2:45 am ]
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Quote: Quote: You're only a year younger so maybe I can shed some light on this. I have been dating multiple women for about 5 months now. I understand the whole settling down but from experience with LTR I usually don't want to talk to these women after our time has ended. I don't like it. At the moment I am also struggling with the "monogamy" thing. Maybe it's because of the holidays and how people seem to hook up around this time and settle down. I am looking for a woman that I seek to have her around- that's the first step. If I am not contacting you to hang out at least once, then it won't work out. I know certain women get to me- so until then - I'll be going through a few of them. Personally though, I want to travel in 3 months. So a relationship won't be an ideal place for me at this time. I am glad you can relate. I am struggling with this monogamy thing, too. The main idea I see here, though, is that you have your own belief system and screen for women, perhaps more "assertively" than I do. Besides, you are traveling soon, so objectively, some things you can't do. Boundaries, that's part of relationships, as something as simple as travel can sometimes make or break the deal. Thanks for sharing your experience, and cool to know you're in my age bracket. PS - Do you find excessively dating women to sometimes be a waste of time? I know I shouldn't say it, but sometimes, it can be. I love women, but I'm a busy dude with my career, too. We seem to make allowance and bend for woman when it comes to our schedule more than we should, or is that just me. I am getting better at that, though. I just like hanging out, I guess, it is all really priorities, though. If I was as busy as I needed to be, I sure wouldn't be in three serious LTRs. . . how would I have the time? At that point, I figure something that's less of a time constraint. Dating is time consuming. Being in our mid-twenties, perhaps you can relate to this feeling, too. This begs the questions, should I consider screening for short-term vs long term to make for a more ample schedule? Sounds lame, but I am being sincere. No, it is definitely not easy saying no to a woman, especially if it is one you kind of like. I think the busy schedule factors in when we see that we have some free time finally and a woman sounds like a good pass time at the moment. Probably the ladies gentleman in you. The company of a woman can definitely be great. Dating is consuming which brings me to my belief system. As I grow older i realize that time is precious and in the long run will a 3rd night of booty in a week be worth it ? Maybe not. I have cut down to how many women I date at a time. Right now I am 3. One is a once a week fuck buddy and her schedule is as hectic as mine but it works lovely. Another is also a once a week because of how her schedule works. The third is somewhat new but she seems to be more trouble than what it's worth. To be determined. I think you should screen what each women brings to the table and how she will fit into your life at the moment. So far the women I have picked are flexible in scheduling and cards have it that we can hang at times that I have downtime. Just a thought.

Author:	Starboy [ Sun Nov 27, 2016 12:08 pm ]
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I've had at least 10 relationships that have lasted more than a year. I've done dating, and one night hooking up. Where I'm at as of right now. I'm not looking for a woman. I'm just doing me and if a woman capable of keeping up with me comes along I'll probably hold unto her. Until then it's just sex and friendships until I'm in my mid 30s. Then I'll just pick a woman (or a few) whom I'm happy to be around, and have a sets of habits that are constructive to my children.

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Author:	Autoregressive [ Mon Nov 28, 2016 6:14 am ]
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Da, I've always looked for all-rounders when it came to looks, smarts and personality. Everything is required, but they all don't have to be "maxed out." Looks tend to be the first and easy part, and I'm not stuck on what I see as minutia such as a specific hair color, breast size, etc. I just evaluate the whole package and am OK with a range of build from leaner to curvier. Other than general fitness... eyes, butt and legs are my thing. Smarts... I tended to gravitate towards college or higher educated girls, but that's natural since I went to undergrad/grad school and was always around people like that. These women were more likely to be self-sufficient and would make good long-term partners. Personality is a tricky one. Sweet, honest, etc - all the cliche stuff, sure. But individuality without anything weird or extreme always made a girl stand out for me. Someone who was "normal" yet didn't follow the crowd and thought for herself.

Author:	HotNight223 [ Mon Nov 28, 2016 8:18 am ]
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When i start to miss a committed LTR, i soon realise that all i miss from it is cuddling watching movies, going out for food and social events and having my back/arm tickled. Didnt take me long to realise I can get all that anyway if i ask for it from a girl i'm just fking. They all want the same anyway. Which is someone to chill with and fk. Just avoid deep emotional conversations

Author:	Hubcap [ Mon Nov 28, 2016 2:09 pm ]
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Physical attraction is the first thing I go for, not because I'm shallow, but because I'm not interested in dating someone I'm not attracted to. I have met plenty of girls that I do not find attractive and many are still in my friend zone, nothing wrong with them, just not dating material. After that, it takes a while to really get to know someone and decide if I really like her or not. If she turns out to be cool, a lot of fun, and we connect well, I will continue to hang out with her and just go with the flow. If it turns into a relationship, great, If not then no worries. My biggest issue is I try not to put an agenda on anything.

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