Has anyone else had this happen? I don't know if it's age or what, but I used to be unable to go a week before I'd wake up and be unable to control myself from masturbating.

But... well let's preface it with this: I've had trouble getting/keeping erections during sex pretty much forever. Even when I was a teenager the first two times I tried to have sex I couldn't really get it up. I wrote it off to awkward situations, and for various reasons didn't date at all for over a decade. (Basically, wish I'd heard about pickup decades ago... but it didn't even exist then so...)

Anyway that's the basic problem. Last year I had just finished some therapy to deal with the psychological issues I thought were causing my problem and had decided to hire an escort while I was in a different city to test it out. I hadn't jerked off for a week before seeing her in preparation, but still couldn't get hard. So I decided to continue with nofap and when I reached the one month mark... I basically felt like I had no libido at all. Instead of getting energized and wanting women more I just felt more like not bothering and giving up. I basically found the thought of living that way too depressing and forced myself to jerk off which kind of rekindled things.

This year, well I found a local escort I like and I've seen her a couple times. The very first time I saw her I managed it... but the few times since I was back to not getting hard enough to start, or not being able to keep it going if I did. I was trying various things (exercise, cialis, herbal supplements to boost testosterone, meditation to kill the anxiety, a week of nofap) but each of the times one of those things was missing from the equation. So last time I made sure I'd done everything... and no hard on.

So I decided to just keep nofap going again... two weeks in, felt a complete lack of interest in sex again.

So after that entirely-too-long story... has anyone else had a loss of libido from nofap?

Lack of interest in sex or lack of interest in masturbating? There's a difference... have you been with a girl since you've stopped?

It seems to be purely a psychological problem. When you are psychologically tensed, your whole body also tense and muscles. The penis can be erect only when you are psychologically relaxed. The fap or no fap has no effect in your particular case on your ability to erect when you are with a woman. If I was you, I would be looking into ways to learn how to relax in various different situations because I believe the problem is deeper and not just in the sexual area. Do you have normal erections when you are watching porn by yourself?

Just like it took a long time to desensitize you,

It's called a flatline. Your question is probably best directed to a dedicated forum though.

Maybe porn was never the problem...