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Author:  93livesTil [ Tue Aug 23, 2016 5:22 am ]
Post subject:  What do I do in this situation?
Alright, so I'm not sure how to make this short and brief. This girl has been recently liking my pics on fb and just commented on my status. I was eyeing her for a while at school but she had a bf. We've never really had long convos or anything in the pas,t just mainly small banter. So going back, she commented on a status I wrote and I proceeded to message her. We start talking and next thing you know we send each other like blocks of messages. At one point we start talking about pets etc, I told her I wouldn't be able to see it because I had just graduated from my college and she says it didn't have to be at school. I then just say I would take her out to tea and ask for her number. She gives it to me but then says her life guard job has some crazy schedules, so I sort of took it as a nice way of saying no... However she has been declining hanging out with people due to her job. I then sort of try to end the convo and she continues talking to me. We have playfully flirted back and forth and I subliminally found out she broke up with her bf. Only problem is that I do not know how to end this conversation and I'm not sure what to make of her since I heard that she's a virgin. Another problem being that so many guys at my college liked her and one of my friends had a problem between her and the bf. That and the fact that my ex gf was friends with her.... We've been talking since but my question is how do I nicely end this conversation? I don't want to linger and be the annoying guy she has to reply to every day. I really just want to lay her but idk. Would you guys do it? How would you approach it? Thanks.
Author:  Dragula [ Tue Aug 23, 2016 6:39 am ]
Post subject:  Re: What do I do in this situation?
Just ask her out. If she makes excuses, then you have an answer

Virgin's usually a big red flag, let someone else put in the months after months of effort for it
Author:  Cross De Lena [ Tue Aug 23, 2016 9:03 am ]
Post subject:  Re: What do I do in this situation?
I think you're spending way to much just talking... And what Dragula said about Virgins as red flag does hold true.
Author:  Chief [ Tue Aug 23, 2016 10:57 am ]
Post subject:  Re: What do I do in this situation?
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Virgin's usually a big red flag, let someone else put in the months after months of effort for it
I agree that virginity is a red flag, but seducing a virgin really doesn't take that long. It can actually relatively quick and simple since they usually aren't expecting it to happen when they first meet you. Not that I would recommend it. There's lots of other issues that come up with virgins. Fortunately my experiences with them haven't been too crazy, but it's still a lot more hassle.

Anyway, I would say there's a 99% chance she's not actually a virgin. In college and had a boyfriend? You just "heard" she's a virgin? Find out for yourself. Sexualize the conversation a little, maybe build up to a "what's your favorite position?"

If I were you, if she's a virgin, I'd ween off and start talking to her less until you get to a point where you're comfortable with the amount of communication you've got with her. If she's not a virgin, well... I'd do the same fucking thing because you don't need to write essays to get laid.

It should be clear that MY motivation to talk less is completely because I find it inconvenient to be texting and talking so much. However, it seems that your motivation of not wanting to be "the annoying guy she has to reply to every day" is wrongheaded. You're not annoying her. You're making her feel good. You're providing value.

And yeah, more action. Unless she's a virgin.
Author:  Dragula [ Tue Aug 23, 2016 11:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: What do I do in this situation?
I have never popped a cherry in all honesty.

The very few girls that were virgin's, said they want to lose it to someone special lol so that instantly alerts me to go for blow jobs instead. I am quite aggressive with girls, so virgins tend to get filtered away from me since they can't handle someone so forward.

I find that you have no control and you're at the mercy when she is ready which could be soon or it could be VERY LONG. Most likely the latter. My standard advice is to be patient and put in the time for it if you really like the girl. But for something not so serious, I tend to move along.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue Aug 23, 2016 7:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: What do I do in this situation?
Escalate it.

You have her number right?

Get off of online and text or call her ( i recommend calling). Or ask if she has video chat, SPAM or FaceTime and get her on there. The more real you become to her through her (seeing you and physically hearing you voice) the more likely she's bent on finding time to actually hang with you. Right now you're just blocks of texts on the internet, become a voice, a face, etc etc.
Author:  93livesTil [ Tue Aug 23, 2016 8:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: What do I do in this situation?
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Just ask her out. If she makes excuses, then you have an answer

Virgin's usually a big red flag, let someone else put in the months after months of effort for it
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Just ask her out. If she makes excuses, then you have an answer

Virgin's usually a big red flag, let someone else put in the months after months of effort for it
I did, I asked her out to a small date, which she agreed to but then also said she's been "busy" with her job. Before that, she told me we could meet up outside of school. I for one don't believe she's a virgin, but I could see why she could very well could be. She seems a little immature (but so do the rest of the people in my college). I want to escalate, but then it puts me with the rest of the dudes trying to kiss ass, all her pictures and comments are nothing but dudes calling her pretty etc. It's one of those things that would put me in the creep category if she isn't interested. I'm just going to end the convo and leave the offer at the table. I'll say something along the lines of it was nice talking to you, I'll be busy for the next few weeks, I'll let you know when we could hang out.
Author:  93livesTil [ Tue Aug 23, 2016 8:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: What do I do in this situation?
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Escalate it.

You have her number right?

Get off of online and text or call her ( i recommend calling). Or ask if she has video chat, SPAM or FaceTime and get her on there. The more real you become to her through her (seeing you and physically hearing you voice) the more likely she's bent on finding time to actually hang with you. Right now you're just blocks of texts on the internet, become a voice, a face, etc etc.
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Escalate it.

You have her number right?

Get off of online and text or call her ( i recommend calling). Or ask if she has video chat, SPAM or FaceTime and get her on there. The more real you become to her through her (seeing you and physically hearing you voice) the more likely she's bent on finding time to actually hang with you. Right now you're just blocks of texts on the internet, become a voice, a face, etc etc.
I do have her number sir! Strange thing is, I remember texting her and she replied to me on Facebook before texting. She has an iPhone but on my phone her texts light up green so maybe she doesn't have iMessage? Would showing up to school casually be wierd? Not interested in taking a girls virginity, it's one of those things where I prefer experienced women to awkwardness but this girl has a really good body so who knows.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Aug 23, 2016 8:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: What do I do in this situation?
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Would showing up to school casually be weird?
Yes
Author:  Modesto [ Tue Aug 23, 2016 8:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: What do I do in this situation?
Ok so she agreed but is playing hard to get. Don't send her anything about how busy you are, simply be busy and have much less time for her. If she's at all interested she'll come back to you on her own. And then you can invite her back on a date, but maybe next time you can use a (false) time constraint, like you can only hang out for a bit because you have this or that after.

This gives her low pressure because in her mind it means you won't try to escalate. And when you're on the date, naturally you escalate ;-)
Author:  n2thevoid [ Tue Aug 23, 2016 10:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: What do I do in this situation?
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Alright, so I'm not sure how to make this short and brief. This girl has been recently liking my pics on fb and just commented on my status. I was eyeing her for a while at school but she had a bf. We've never really had long convos or anything in the pas,t just mainly small banter. So going back, she commented on a status I wrote and I proceeded to message her. We start talking and next thing you know we send each other like blocks of messages. At one point we start talking about pets etc, I told her I wouldn't be able to see it because I had just graduated from my college and she says it didn't have to be at school. I then just say I would take her out to tea and ask for her number. She gives it to me but then says her life guard job has some crazy schedules, so I sort of took it as a nice way of saying no...

ALWAYS assume attraction. In other words, be delusionally optimistic.

However she has been declining hanging out with people due to her job. I then sort of try to end the convo and she continues talking to me.

Why do you do this? Is it out of anxiousness out of the conversation running dry? Fearful you might say the wrong thing? or something else.

We have playfully flirted back and forth and I subliminally found out she broke up with her bf.

"Subliminally?" Are you a witch?

Only problem is that I do not know how to end this conversation and I'm not sure what to make of her since I heard that she's a virgin. Another problem being that so many guys at my college liked her and one of my friends had a problem between her and the bf.

That's your friend's problem, not yours.

That and the fact that my ex gf was friends with her.... We've been talking since but my question is how do I nicely end this conversation? I don't want to linger and be the annoying guy she has to reply to every day. I really just want to lay her but idk. Would you guys do it? How would you approach it? Thanks.
Ask her out. Till then, there's nothing more here to discuss. Let us know how she responds. Good luck.
Author:  Dragula [ Wed Aug 24, 2016 2:56 am ]
Post subject:  Re: What do I do in this situation?
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She has an iPhone but on my phone her texts light up green so maybe she doesn't have iMessage?
Lol so?

It is still possible to communicate between iphone and android whether the message bubble is blue or green lol.

I have a rule, if they don't have SPAM and choose to 10cents an SMS - They are simply a weirdo.
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