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| Author: | Goldeneye [ Fri Apr 04, 2008 12:06 am ] |
| Post subject: | ZERO followup, total fizzle after two dates...help! |
...You know, with the fairly large amount of girls I've been concurrently dealing with lately, it's amazing I still manage to strike out this much, but then, here we are. There's a very good looking girl, I'd say HB7, I've had a thing for quite a long time now, three years or so. Ironically I know her dad much better than I know her, because we hang out in some of the same jazz clubs, so I see him semiregularly and that's how I her. She very occasionally accompanies him out for certain shows, and I'd thought there was something there for a while and wanted to get her number for a while but wasn't comfortable doing it in front of her dad. Finally managed to get it about a month ago and told her I'd give her a call about going out a few weeks later because I had a busy period coming up. She said she was really looking forward to it. She proved to be a MAJOR flake when it comes to communication. With almost no exceptions at all, our communication has been almost strictly by text message, and in most cases she's horrible about responding to those. My goal had been to ask her to a big concert with me but it almost didn't come together in time just because she was so fucky about responding. Then every once in a blue moon there'd be a random evening where she'd text with me back and forth for hours...but even then she still wouldn't call, and I learned not to call her because she never picks up. She finally agreed on the concert and even though it was a few weeks away still, she told me she had "a beautiful dress picked out" and was looking forward to it. One evening a week before that we were texting a bunch on a Monday evening when I was headed to a different show, something really laid-back. She said it sounded very cool and she hadn't known about it, so I told her she should come join me. She said she'd be very late because she had to get herself looking nice, but she came out and met me and we had a nice long conversation. She was kinda flirty and the talk got a little suggestive at one point...she was talking about a former roommate of hers who was a stripper and how they used to walk around the house naked. I don't remember what I said in response but I definitely made it clear that I enjoyed the mental picture. We talked about the date a week away and she asked how I felt about having dinner before the concert. I agreed and we said we'd decide on a place during the week. Several unresponsive days later, Friday night I still hadn't heard anything back and texted her, "So..." and she came back with questions about Saturday and we decided on a place and a time. Saturday we went to this very nice restaurant downtown and it was just the greatest time. The setting was perfect, we had a fantastic dinner and were never at a loss for conversation, and she said several times that we'd have to go back there so we could try other things on the menu that looked good. I think the unplanned meeting earlier in the week made that night a lot easier. From there we went to the concert and it was really nice too. It was at an art museum and during the intermission the museum was open for browsing but we seemed to be the only people who took advantage of that. We walked around, alone, from room to room, checking out the art together. She was wearing a VERY tight black skirt wrapped around her incredible ass, and at one point I told her she had a long white string stuck to her. "On my buns?" she asked with a giggle, and I said yes, so she knew I was checking out her ass. Sometime when we were alone I really should've kissed her but I totally wimped out. We went back for the second half of the concert and I tried to get her to come someplace else with me after that but she has to get up really early most days. I walked her to her car and had planned to kiss her but there were huge crowds of people swarming out to their cars around us, and in a parking space right in front of us there was an old couple sitting there idling in their car with the headlights shining directly on us. It just seemed ALL wrong to try a k-close then. It was SO not right. I could tell she was hanging around waiting for something to happen, so I felt I had to address it, and said "I'd normally kiss you here, but there are just way too many people," and I kissed her on the cheek and said "How's that?" and we laughed and she left. I met some friends elsewhere and got a text half an hour later saying she was home safe and sound and in bed, and she thanked me and said good night. I'd been worried I'd blown it with the kiss thing, but the text seemed to indicate that I was good. We'd talked about hanging out the following week, but at the last minute that afternoon she texted with, like, a long laundry list of things that had come up all at once and so she couldn't join me. A friend of mine believes the long list means it was true, and that it was done to show that this and this and this were all reasons she couldn't, as opposed to just saying "Too much going on, can't make it, sorry." I wrote back, "You'll just have to make it up to me later this week" and never heard back. That was a few weeks ago. I texted her earlier this week and made a crack about how I hadn't heard anything from her, and she didn't respond to that either. Which only makes it really awkward that I've been in contact with her dad in the time since, and (I think, rightly) refuse to involve him by asking about her. I should say that when I went on the date with her, I was still very much in AFC mode, and actually the total lack of communicaton in the time since is what drove me here and back to the PUA community, because I'm determined not to fuck up something like this again. I have some people telling me she's very interested but just flaky as hell, but I just can't bring myself to believe a girl would let the momentum totally drop like that after a date she felt went well. I have others telling me it's done and I don't have a shot at all anymore. Frankly, I really just can't tell because she's been so odd all along. I've got other things going too, but I'd really like to see this girl again and would hate to think I spent three years wanting her just to blow it without even getting a kiss. Is there something I can do to fix this? |
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| Author: | Goldeneye [ Sun Apr 06, 2008 8:47 pm ] |
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*COUGH* ...Really? |
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