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| Author: | undefined [ Thu Apr 03, 2008 12:53 am ] |
| Post subject: | DEAD conversation via AIM!!!!! S.O.S |
Ok, so lets say u start a convo wit some girl via aim, here's the usual: You:Hey Her:Hey You:What's up Her:Nuttin BOOM! a dead end, sometimes theyr like, oh nutthing jst chilling at a friends, or eating, watching tv, etc. Atleast from these responses I can begina convo like: really, what friends house, or what are you eating(alternative neg: ur always eating fatty!, lol) etc., what's a good reviver to a dead convo, something to start a new convo, not necesarily a flirt, just general, like to friends awell?? I say this cuz as am writing this in my sidekick I started a convo with this girl, she's really cute n has a hot body(and a BF) but nun that matters, I c her more as a friend, lol. Well I started a convo and it died cuz, she didn't really seem 2 keep the convo going here's the convo so far: ----------------------- 8:02 pm ----------------------- Me: ^_^ ----------------------- 8:05 pm ----------------------- Her: Heyyy ----------------------- 8:07 pm ----------------------- Me: What u up tooz other than thinkin bout me lolz ----------------------- 8:09 pm ----------------------- Her: Nothing ----------------------- 8:16 pm ----------------------- Me: Ur home? And its been a few mins, she hasn't answered me, lol ouchies! Am not upset cuz I sit nex to her in chemistry n we hav a blast, she's prob bizzy or somthing... anywhay the main reason I ask for conversation "revivers" is cuz the same girls BFF, is an HB7-8, I have her aim n she shows IOIs but I suck,lol, so I tried talking to her more on aim but omg I hate it she's such a convo killier!!! Worse than than the girl I just tlked too lol. Well anyways, plz leave some suggestions on how to keep a conversation going with convo killer, maybe some games or subjects to tlk about. |
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| Author: | delta4ce [ Thu Apr 03, 2008 1:22 am ] |
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honestly... i dont really like gaming over aim for this reason but i think the key is to keep the conversation short.. basically talk... try to keep the convo interesting once u sense its getting boring/dying, "eject" say something like-- o crap igg / i need to do something ttyl... ugh... i lost track of time sorry, ill cya lata basically be the first person to end the convo [this isnt really a rule for me or anything... but its not a bad thing to follow] then put up an away or sign off... [make sure that if u put up an away like "going to the gym" that your not still taking to other ppl b/c ull never go idle] |
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| Author: | joker_jack84 [ Thu Apr 03, 2008 1:28 am ] |
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Usually I just tell a totally random story or just do some thing that would be construed as mildly annoying. It jump starts the convo for a while at least. Tell her you were attacked by a roaming band of mimes and you got bit by one and think you may have mime-itis or some crap. Be creative. |
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| Author: | undefined [ Thu Apr 03, 2008 2:41 am ] |
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Actually I consider that a rule, delta4ce, on the phone or usually in a real conversation when things get akward or w.e I usually eject, like well look I gotta go ill call u later or w.e, ejectings not really the case, its starting a decent convo with this chick, or any other convo killlers, I liked ur story joker_jack84, lmao ill use it, n ill try to memorize some weird funny stories. But mb ur right delta4ce, mb I shldnt b gamin on aim, there's always something that cld happen that might end our convo, like I disconnect or she has to do somthing.. I tlk to her too sometimes, check this out, I have 2nd period wit her, I sit all the way n the back corner, n she sits way in the front. We rarely tlk in that clas, I rarely tlk in that class since I don't really know or feel really comfortable wit anyone there, am usually quiet,dreamin or on ma kick.. BUT, I also have her with her BFF in my 7 n 8 period chem. There I feel more comfortable by the enviroment, my beastie's there n also another good friend, I chat with them two(the girls), mostly wit her bestie but she's got a man, n am not as interested anyways. We tlk sometimes usually to joke(opps forgot she sits right behind me or to my right depending on the desk arrangement). Idk what to do or say in real life cuz we don't really hav much in comon n she seems different, I'm not sure why, I do tlk to her, I overcame my shyness wit her a lil while ago by convincing myself I didn't like her lol, it got esier to tlk to her n now I admit I like her, n I can still tlk 2 her, wooohooo, but not enuff 2 tell her I like her..boooo, that's why I wanted to get to know her more on aim... |
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| Author: | Paramour [ Thu Apr 03, 2008 2:44 am ] |
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When she replies with "nothing", then say. " aww, come on you can do better than that, where are your manners?" |
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| Author: | delta4ce [ Thu Apr 03, 2008 2:48 am ] |
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yeah... its just a personal preference for me... i just dont like gamin on aim cuz its too easy to get boring/sound boring... in person i can make the most boring story sound interesting, but aim is a diff story... on top of that, u never k if theyre distracted... uninterested... doing hw... upset... i mean sometimes u can get some emotions out of it, but for the most part, id rather be talking to them in person or on the phone the reason i said its not really a "rule"-- its sorta socially acceptable to let an aim convo die-- sometimes it just happens-- its a lot diff than having a 5 min silence on a phone line... but yes, if you can, end the convo when it stops being interesting |
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| Author: | undefined [ Thu Apr 03, 2008 2:58 am ] |
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Quote: tell her you wana hack her website. (make sure you use one of these
Lol, aims not a website but ill keep that in mind for myspace, thx. ) )Yeah ur rite delta, its socially acceptable to end conversations on aim, as I think about it I do that myself lol, only thing is she does it all the time, atleast wit me,lol. I guess to talk to her ama have to take it outside of aim, I'd still like some convo revivers though lol, theyr funny n help wit other aim convos, keep em coming (^_^) |
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| Author: | joker_jack84 [ Thu Apr 03, 2008 11:34 pm ] |
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I have actually been working on turning the mime thing into an opener. |
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| Author: | R-DUB [ Fri Apr 04, 2008 1:39 am ] |
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I would also try not talking like your six years old. use the normal online talk but dont go overboard. |
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| Author: | undefined [ Fri Apr 04, 2008 2:01 am ] |
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Quote: I would also try not talking like your six years old. use the normal online talk but dont go overboard.
Yeah well I don't usually use it, just on her cuz that's how she is on aim n on real life, she talks like a lil girl somtimes, but regardless ill take ur advice, thx.
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| Author: | LuvBites [ Fri Apr 04, 2008 8:21 am ] |
| Post subject: | insta-thread |
If they cause a dead end I usually throw in a 'filler'. I.e. I talk about myself /what I did that day (note* these can be 'canned-fillers' or you can make them up on the spot). And then ask her a question based on the 'filler' you made up. E.g: Me: What u up to? Her: Nothing. Me: Really..? You know the funniest thing happened to me today /I learnt the wierdest thing today /I was thinking about 'x' today and I reckon blah-blah-blah.. This is not the best example, but its one I used the other day: You know I was watching Gladiators (the t.v. show) before on t.v and I couldn't work it out.. Is it a reaity t.v show or is it a game show.. what'd you reckon? Now social conventions should force her to respond (she looks like the tool if she doesn't) -therefore you've made her talk and therefore get involved in the convo. Note* if she gives another one word answer here just say 'yeah really? but why?' In other words what you're doing is ignoring her statement -creating a new thread of your own and running with it. Then afterwards you force her into the convo by asking a question. This technique is also useful for steering the conversation so you can smoothly bring up your DHV stories or w /e -but thats another topic... Also In relation to ejecting -I've heard Mystery talk about this as well -you should NOT eject just because you have nothing to say -ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY. A lot of people hate canned material, but this is where it becomes handy -cos if you have some 'canned-fillers' (just in case) then you've always got SOMETHING to say). You SHOULD be the first to end a conversation but you SHOULDN'T end it because you have nothing to say. Also keep in mind that conversations with women could usually be anything up to 20:80 (i e. she talks 20% of the time and you talk 80%) at first anyways, until you bring her into the conversation through questions or w /e as is shown above. It may get to 50:50 or better later but you got to warm her up to it. Anyways, hope that made sense -good luck an happy gaming guys! LuvBites |
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| Author: | nosferatu [ Fri Apr 04, 2008 5:09 pm ] |
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i avoid aim game altogether, unless she im's me. i feel it's the most impersonal method of communication. plus you don't want to be thought of as just some dude that bothers her every time she's online. |
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| Author: | undefined [ Fri Apr 04, 2008 7:08 pm ] |
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Thx LuvBites your advice is very interestingl, I have a question though, "canned-fillers"are basically conversations I make up or experience and save them to use over again? Nosferatu, your right ill try to stay away from aim or txting in the future, I don't want to become that guy who annoys the hell out of girls and is eventually blocked (I know one guy who's like that, ironecally he has my name,lol) |
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| Author: | LuvBites [ Sat Apr 05, 2008 7:03 am ] |
| Post subject: | remember the topic |
No probs undefined -Happy to help any time. Actually, what I tend to do is just memorize the topic rather than the entire conversation. So I'd just memorize the topic and keep in mind a rough idea of where I want the conversation to go. So for example if I wanted to somehow do styles c's vs u's routine I'd do something like this: Me: So what are you up to? Her: Nothin Me: Really..? Well I was just watching t.v before and the show Gladiators was on.. and it got me thinking.. I couldn't work it out.. Is it a reaity t.v show or is it a game show.. what'd you reckon? Her: (I dunno.. blah, blah, blah.. random answer) Me: Hmm.. yeah true. Thats interesing. Me: Hey check this out -I was talking to my ex-gf (DHV) the other day.. I just rememberd this cos gladiators was her favorite show.. but I found out something really interesting.. see her dad is a dentist and he taught her what makes a great smile.. do want to know as well? Her: yeah sure (fairly unlikely she'll say no) Me: *go into the routine* Again, this isn't the best example but hopefuly you get what I mean. Pretty much just use the topic to start a new thread and look for opprtunities to transition into a DHV story or routine or w /e (if no opportunity comes up then create a transition like I did above). |
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| Author: | undefined [ Sat Apr 05, 2008 8:11 pm ] |
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Ok yeah, thx, I like it.. ama jot down some fillers and use them soon. Thx again luvbites. |
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