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| Author: | kball [ Sun Jun 26, 2016 8:44 pm ] |
| Post subject: | The girl went from highly interested to not at all |
I met this girl a couple of months ago, things went well, been on 6-7 dates and slept together a couple of times. She would initiate texting/snapchat everyday/every other day. We usually have funny,flirty banter. Then suddenly she became erratic. She would only initiate once a week, sometimes she'd be cold and sometimes flirty. I'd try to get together but she'd suddenly be too busy and not offer an alternative and then she hit me with that she needs to think about things. I answered her that I understood and wish it all worked out for her. Obviously something is up. My question is simply, what do I do to maximize chances of turning the tide and her wanting me back? Should I still try to get together or should I wait for her to suggest us to get together? Should I still initiate text (not that I used to do it a lot, maybe 2 out of 10 convos I'd be the initiator) or should I take a step back and let her do all the initiating? She still initiates texting/snapchat but no mention of getting together. |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Sun Jun 26, 2016 8:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The girl went from highly interested to not at all |
What was your original goal with this chick ? If she was just a fuck buddy, then you should let it go. If she knew you weren't in it for a relationship and she might have found someone else who is, let it go. If you wanted something more, you should behave like a boyfriend would. If not. Let it go. |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Sun Jun 26, 2016 9:04 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The girl went from highly interested to not at all |
You guys need to realize that for the first few months of any type of relationship, it is merely a crush unless it's built on a solid foundation. If you want it to turn into more, you have to put in some work that extends beyond sex. If you haven't put in the work, you would be better off just letting it go. |
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| Author: | kball [ Sun Jun 26, 2016 9:16 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The girl went from highly interested to not at all |
Quote: What was your original goal with this chick ?
Well I would like to continue and date her and see where it leads to. How should I behave more like a boyfriend? If she was just a fuck buddy, then you should let it go. If she knew you weren't in it for a relationship and she might have found someone else who is, let it go. If you wanted something more, you should behave like a boyfriend would. If not. Let it go. Quote: You guys need to realize that for the first few months of any type of relationship, it is merely a crush unless it's built on a solid foundation. If you want it to turn into more, you have to put in some work that extends beyond sex. If you haven't put in the work, you would be better off just letting it go.
Would you elaborate on what you mean with 'putting in some work'? I do ask her about her day and such, I mean, we've been having funny flirty convos mostly but sometimes we talk regularly about life and such.
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Sun Jun 26, 2016 9:44 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The girl went from highly interested to not at all |
Well what activities would you reserve to do with a girlfriend ? I'm sure you haven't found EVERYTHiNG there is to know about her. You can dig deeper into her life rather than just flirt and talk about meaningless things everyday. A relationship should be where a girl is like your best friend but you have the option to bang her any time you want. Behaving like a boyfriend would mean I see her more than twice a week. I start meeting her friends and family, we start doing hobbies together etc. Just little gestures that push things forward. |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Sun Jun 26, 2016 10:04 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The girl went from highly interested to not at all |
Quote: Would you elaborate on what you mean with 'putting in some work'? I do ask her about her day and such, I mean, we've been having funny flirty convos mostly but sometimes we talk regularly about life and such. I think Mr. A pretty much hit the nail on it. Dig deeper and find her emotional needs and make sure you are meeting them. If you are meeting her emotional needs and having great sex, you won't be able to get rid of her.
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| Author: | kball [ Mon Jun 27, 2016 6:38 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The girl went from highly interested to not at all |
Okey lads, thanks. I shall try and connect with her deeper if given the chance. However, to my original question: What do I do now? She blew me off as being 'too busy' last time I tried to set up a date. Should I wait for her to mention that she wants to get together? |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Mon Jun 27, 2016 6:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The girl went from highly interested to not at all |
I'll tell you how I'd deal with it since a lot of people see this type of thing differently. I wouldn't wait for her and I wouldn't pursue her. I'd move on. There is no shame, I believe, in recognizing that things didn't work out with this one but there's always another girl that will replace her. |
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| Author: | n2thevoid [ Mon Jun 27, 2016 6:51 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The girl went from highly interested to not at all |
move on what's going to happen is the more you invest yourself in this the lower your self worth will become making it harder to game other women who actually want to hangout with you |
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| Author: | R.C [ Mon Jun 27, 2016 7:01 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The girl went from highly interested to not at all |
What they said. If you wanna be seen as a potential boyfriend you should do things couples do together. Cook at home, watch some movies, grocery shop, go for walks, etc. Don't just expect a relationship to flourish outta having sex once a week and then each of you minding your own lives. |
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| Author: | kball [ Mon Jun 27, 2016 7:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The girl went from highly interested to not at all |
But we did things like that. So i'm going to take a step back, not going to ask her out anymore. If she wants to get together she would, at the very least hint about it right? |
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| Author: | R.C [ Wed Jun 29, 2016 11:15 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The girl went from highly interested to not at all |
Yes. |
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| Author: | Dragula [ Wed Jun 29, 2016 11:46 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The girl went from highly interested to not at all |
Quote: So I'm going to take a step back
I give you 2 days before you resist temptation and you text her. You guys always buckle. I have seen it time and time again. Usually, you text after a crap night of 'the field' and you're drunk and horny (Mostly due to not working the skill long enough and stopping all progression as soon as a girl is willing to sex you)Hoping my reverse psychology will help here since most of this forum just does the opposite to the advice they seek for |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Jun 29, 2016 1:47 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The girl went from highly interested to not at all |
Quote: Hoping my reverse psychology will help here since most of this forum just does the opposite to the advice they seek for |
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| Author: | nr32 [ Wed Jun 29, 2016 3:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The girl went from highly interested to not at all |
Quote: Hoping my reverse psychology will help here since most of this forum just does the opposite to the advice they seek for
Lol.
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