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Last night I got a text from a girl I've slept with on 2 separate occasions.
I hooked up with her the first night we hung out, than hooked up with her twice a week after. Now about 3 weeks have gone by since we've seen each other.

Have you made any attempts to get her out during the span of 3 weeks?

She's been busy with school and work so I didn't assume anything, instead I decided to give eachother some breathing space.
A week after the second lay we texted almost everyday but a week after that she became distant (very late texts and spaced our conversation)

This could very well be a situation of not striking while hot. Again, I am curious to know if you've made any attempt to take her out?

Out of the blue she messages me saying
"Is it okay if we just stay friends, I think we've been going about things all the wrong way and that's not me, I want to get to know you more and let time tell what happens"

Looks to me the attraction has waned - this could have been a result of poor logistics, but regardless if she was really feeling things she'd have made more of an effort to make herself more available, though admittedly I don't know how your conversations went down. For all we know you were hounding her to hangout in those texts (or not), or having poor boundaries, making yourself too available etc). There's a lot of info missing here.

Now I took this as "I'm not romantically interested in you, but you're cool enough to keep around"
I'm I in the wrong for assuming this and how do I go about rejecting the friendship? I've never been in this situation so I'm not sure what the proper action to take is..

Author:	gking17 [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 11:42 am ]
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Last night I got a text from a girl I've slept with on 2 separate occasions. I hooked up with her the first night we hung out, than hooked up with her twice a week after. Now about 3 weeks have gone by since we've seen each other. She's been busy with school and work so I didn't assume anything, instead I decided to give eachother some breathing space. A week after the second lay we texted almost everyday but a week after that she became distant (very late texts and spaced our conversation) Out of the blue she messages me saying "Is it okay if we just stay friends, I think we've been going about things all the wrong way and that's not me, I want to get to know you more and let time tell what happens" Now I took this as "I'm not romantically interested in you, but you're cool enough to keep around" I'm I in the wrong for assuming this and how do I go about rejecting the friendship? I've never been in this situation so I'm not sure what the proper action to take is..

Author:	kidfromcro [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 12:30 pm ]
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i would assume she wants ltr with me

Author:	gking17 [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 1:50 pm ]
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Forgot to mention. She doesn't want to have sex any more and she isn't ready for any relationships

Author:	Mr. Assertive [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 2:34 pm ]
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Just stop texting her man. Texting her everyday ? Too much time on your hands. Text her here and there. Do you text your friend everyday ? No, probably here and there. Depending on what friend. Just give her that "friendship", you have to risk losing her to get her.... and find another chick. Next time make yourself scarce.

Author:	n2thevoid [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 5:34 pm ]
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Quote: Last night I got a text from a girl I've slept with on 2 separate occasions. I hooked up with her the first night we hung out, than hooked up with her twice a week after. Now about 3 weeks have gone by since we've seen each other. Have you made any attempts to get her out during the span of 3 weeks? She's been busy with school and work so I didn't assume anything, instead I decided to give eachother some breathing space. A week after the second lay we texted almost everyday but a week after that she became distant (very late texts and spaced our conversation) This could very well be a situation of not striking while hot. Again, I am curious to know if you've made any attempt to take her out? Out of the blue she messages me saying "Is it okay if we just stay friends, I think we've been going about things all the wrong way and that's not me, I want to get to know you more and let time tell what happens" Looks to me the attraction has waned - this could have been a result of poor logistics, but regardless if she was really feeling things she'd have made more of an effort to make herself more available, though admittedly I don't know how your conversations went down. For all we know you were hounding her to hangout in those texts (or not), or having poor boundaries, making yourself too available etc). There's a lot of info missing here. Now I took this as "I'm not romantically interested in you, but you're cool enough to keep around" I'm I in the wrong for assuming this and how do I go about rejecting the friendship? I've never been in this situation so I'm not sure what the proper action to take is..

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Author:	Arch Stanton [ Fri Jun 24, 2016 7:42 am ]
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Quote: A week after the second lay we texted almost everyday but a week after that she became distant (very late texts and spaced our conversation) You talked her out of sexually liking you via text. Happens all the time. Don't text new girls every day. You should be using text to set up meets only at the beginning. She needs to see that you can resist her. Do not contact her for two weeks. When you do contact her again, arrange a meet, don't gossip.

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