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Author:  JohnDigwood [ Thu Jun 16, 2016 6:51 pm ]
Post subject:  How to show/gauge interest and not get friendzoned?
Hey, recently met a cute girl, here are some cliffs on the situation

-went to rave with friends
-we met a girl that was there by herself so she stayed the whole rave with us
-wasnt that interested at the time, just talked a bit in group
-week later she joined our group going to a club, after getting to know her better got a bit more interested, flirted a bit with her here

So couple days later her, me and another girl + gay guy went out for movie + dinner and drinks afterwards

I picked her up and was alone with her for a bit, flirted with her, she flirted back a bit, asked me questions about my work and other things, but couldnt really get a vibe from her, we

Now she joined our SPAM group so basically she's part of the group now, i want to avoid getting friendzoned and i feel like i should make a move as soon as possible, my question here is what would you guys advice me to do to not make this a awkward situation ?

I feel like it would be stupid asking her out on a date via text, we barely text and i feel like it gives a sign that im too big of a pussy to do something irl, wich i am not, but i am unsure how to procceed in this exact situation

Would like to hear opinions.. Thanks!
Author:  JackZero [ Thu Jun 16, 2016 7:01 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to show/gauge interest and not get friendzoned?
Quit worrying about making things awkward and just call her and ask her out.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Jun 16, 2016 7:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to show/gauge interest and not get friendzoned?
Isolate her from the herd, like the king of the jungle would. Make your move. Pounce before your pray is devoured by other predators.

Invite her for a beer, ALONE, near your 'den'. Have more beer in the fridge.

Invite her over to see your SPAM figurines.

Suggest she remove those restrictive leggings to improve comfort.

Take your dick out, trip and fall into her vagina.
Author:  JohnDigwood [ Thu Jun 16, 2016 8:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to show/gauge interest and not get friendzoned?
Just asked her out
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Jun 16, 2016 8:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to show/gauge interest and not get friendzoned?
And?
Author:  JohnDigwood [ Thu Jun 16, 2016 8:32 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to show/gauge interest and not get friendzoned?
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And?
No response yet i think she's sleeping, will update when she responds
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Jun 16, 2016 8:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to show/gauge interest and not get friendzoned?
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And?
No response yet i think she's sleeping, will update when she responds
Maybe she's so excited she fainted.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 2:32 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to show/gauge interest and not get friendzoned?
HAHAH^
Author:  JackZero [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 5:03 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to show/gauge interest and not get friendzoned?
I said call her not text her.
Author:  JohnDigwood [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 6:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to show/gauge interest and not get friendzoned?
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And?
No response yet i think she's sleeping, will update when she responds
Maybe she's so excited she fainted.
Lol!


Anyway she responded this morning

"I was sleeping haha, anyway tomorrow so that is today. Im going to a festival tomorrow so i dont think that will be a good idea :o"

I asked her out for the evening with some callback humor
But she has a festival all day on saturday so

I responded

"We don't have to make it a late nighter, i know tou have a festival tomorrow, but another day is fine too, when are you free?"
Author:  n2thevoid [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 6:39 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to show/gauge interest and not get friendzoned?
Should have called.

You came off a bit needy. She didn't offer another time I would have waited a few days or so after some contact in between and tried again rather than negotiate for another time as you did.
Author:  R.C [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 7:21 am ]
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How to show/gauge interest and not get friendzoned?
Show interest.
Author:  neo87 [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 7:48 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to show/gauge interest and not get friendzoned?
You know what, if a girl finds you to be an attractive guy, and you hang out with her in a group a few times, she develops a crush on you. She thinks, "I would really like to fuck John", not "I wont fuck hot John because we're friends." Now maybe if years have passed and you're at that brother/sister relationship point she wont fuck you because she sees you as a brother. But girls aren't trying to disqualify attractive guys because of some friend bs.

Friendzone just means she's not attracted to you. Girls give guys they're attracted to ALOT of leeway. Even if you dont make a move for a while (as long as you're not doing it in a "pussyish" way), if shes attracted, she rationalizes, oooo he's taking his time...does he really like me? I should wear something better next time. Thats not to say dont make moves, you should, but its to say that "friendzone" is just a girl not interested in you more than anything else.

OP,your response to her is needy as N2 said. You're failing to be attractive. When this girl is not attracted to you because of your actions like this and she tells you "lets just be friends"...it wont be because you failed to make a move, it'll be she wasnt interested in the first place, or your neediness turned her off. Take a step back and treat her the same way you'd game a chick you met off the street. Be attractive and dominant and show interest. Trying to make sure you dont get into some imaginary "friendzone" by rushing it, is only going to come off as needy and is not charming.
Author:  JohnDigwood [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 10:26 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to show/gauge interest and not get friendzoned?
Ok this got a bit odd,

Me: We don't have to make it a late nighter, i know tou have a festival tomorrow, but another day is fine too, when are you free?

Her: Blabla Response about call back humor
Her: But i am going to the city tonight to the movies!

(Now i took the advice of n2thevoid about being less needy and just forgetting me asking her out, maybe try at a later time)

Me: Cool, what movie and with who?

Her: By myself, don't know what movie yet ill have to check if there are any good ones

--

So what should i say now? Is this a silent invite? Or should i wait till she actually invites me? Im thinking of just saying

"I heard *blabla* is a really good one, you should check that out*

or

"You really go by yourself? Boring! But i heard *blabla* is really good!"

What you guys think?

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Should have called.

You came off a bit needy. She didn't offer another time I would have waited a few days or so after some contact in between and tried again rather than negotiate for another time as you did.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 1:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to show/gauge interest and not get friendzoned?
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Her: By myself, don't know what movie yet ill have to check if there are any good ones
When opportunity knocks don't slam the door.

You "Screw the movie, let's grab a beer!"
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