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Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sun Jun 12, 2016 4:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Don't talk to my girlfriend/these girls are unavailable
I actually was surprised I ran into this kind of dude. Well not really, it was a matter of time.



This happened twice :lol:


I was gaming last night and I was talking to one cutie and then OUT of nowhere the bouncer comes up to me and says "don't talk to my girlfriend". How am I supposed to know she was your girlfriend ?


In my head I was like "wtf" and I looked him straight in the eye and was like excuse me ? He repeated his statement but he didn't do shit and walked away. I was caught off guard because in my mind, I hated being told what I can and can't do. Lets be safe and say that I didn't do well with the group because I was caught off guard and left the venue because I was drunk and I knew that I would still game that chick just out of spite.




BUT it happened somewhere else, this time I gamed out of spite. I let the drunkness and immaturity get the better of me. This time it was a two set. The dude was like "no man no". He too, came out of nowhere.


I actually tried to befriend him to let him know it's cool, don't worry about it. I am not trying to take them from you. But he did dismissive body language and I said fine then fuck it. I gamed the girls. I let him "claim" the one he was talking to. I let him do him. I gamed the other girl. I number closed her and I knew that I should not have done that because I was gaming out of spite. I was making a point. The dude didn't do shit. I was waiting for him to try me, to say something, but it never came.


Now, I am not advocating Mr. Steal your girl. I knew that these dudes were not about that life. I knew that if I did this in a hood setting, then I would be a retard. I picked my battles. I knew these guys weren't about that life, and I wanted to see their resolve. Never came.


I am writing this now, but I know that I would have helped the guy if he just did a man to man and was like "hey man, I am trying to get with this girl"


I would have helped him. I would have been chill but nah, he wanted to be an insecure dickhead and tell me to buzz off. I did not buzz off.


Now how would you players handle it ?


I knew that I could have handled it better. I appreciate any advice given. Just don't write rude shit. I wasn't trying to do a Mr. Steal your girl. These girls were cute and I wanted to talk to them to find out more about them, not necessarily get laid. Just so happens they were with someone. But ah well, life of the player right.
Author:  Furiox [ Mon Jun 13, 2016 9:58 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Don't talk to my girlfriend/these girls are unavailable
Handle what exactly? Handle their "boyfriends" who come up to you when you try to hit on their girl? Or are these guys randoms who are somewhat jealous and try to throw you off guard?

If they are with their boyfriends i would walk not because iam a little bitch but because i find this disrespectfull. If i were there with my girlfriend and you were clearly "gaming" my girl and i came up to you saying hey whatsupp she is taken.... and you would still game my girlfriend this is mayor disrespect from your end... so politely excusing yourself might be your best bet when they are with boyfriends...

Now when its just some random dudes who might even know the girls but are not exclusive then yes i would keep playing with the girls and if the guy starts being fysical then neg him a bit in front of these girls, like hey iam straight stop touching me man or if your the fighter type and the situation asks for it you can get physicial to.

Just my 2 cents.
Author:  JackZero [ Mon Jun 13, 2016 10:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Don't talk to my girlfriend/these girls are unavailable
I would call EVERYBODY out.

ME: Why didn't you tell me you had a boyfriend?

Then watch the responses. To hell with her for not telling me she was there with her boyfriend or to hell with him for lying about that being his girlfriend. To hell with somebody.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Mon Jun 13, 2016 11:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Don't talk to my girlfriend/these girls are unavailable
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Handle what exactly? Handle their "boyfriends" who come up to you when you try to hit on their girl? Or are these guys randoms who are somewhat jealous and try to throw you off guard?

If they are with their boyfriends i would walk not because iam a little bitch but because i find this disrespectfull. If i were there with my girlfriend and you were clearly "gaming" my girl and i came up to you saying hey whatsupp she is taken.... and you would still game my girlfriend this is mayor disrespect from your end... so politely excusing yourself might be your best bet when they are with boyfriends...

Now when its just some random dudes who might even know the girls but are not exclusive then yes i would keep playing with the girls and if the guy starts being fysical then neg him a bit in front of these girls, like hey iam straight stop touching me man or if your the fighter type and the situation asks for it you can get physicial to.

Just my 2 cents.

Hell no. I am not that much of a dick lol. If a girl is clearly with you, I won't be Mr. Steal your girl. I will let you guys do you. I don't do that. Trust me. I always tell my guy friends who aren't into the pick up scene or don't know I do this that I will help you guys, don't let me stop you from getting yours. And I do help them. I talk them up to their dates. I want to see them get laid. I get my own, I just want to spread the joy.


The first situation was the girls were chillen around me and my other friends (who happen to be girls) they were in the proximity so it was only natural for me to open them and ask them how their night was.


Now the first guy he was a bouncer, he was BOUNCING. HE WAS ON THE CLOCK. He went out of his way to come from the across the room to tell me "don't talk to my girlfriend"

HOW the fuck was I supposed to know she was your girl. And two, I don't like being told what to do. I stared him down until he walked away. I did let it go though, I left the bar after my friends left. I did linger a bit...only because I was struggling with that immaturity and pride. But eventually I picked the high road and left. My ego isn't that big that I will be starting shit but the way he came at me was uncalled for. It was disrespectful. Next time I will go Jackzero's route and call everyone out. I think that's kinda funny.


The second dude. Same thing, if you don't want niggas talking to your girl, keep her home. But if you bring her out make sure you got responses that isn't condescending to others. Learn how to speak to people.... I didn't know they were together, the girls were chatting and he was in the background. You know how dudes hover around girls at a bar ? That was him.... But once I come in, he starts saying some disrespectful shit like "no man no, these girls are unavailable"

I even tried to reason with him man to man to relax that I am not even prowling tonight, I am just trying to enjoy my night but nah he just shrugged me off like some chump. Some of you might be like "come on every guy wants to get laid", man I don't need to do that shit every night. It was my night off, I was out because my friends wanted to go out. I even tried the good old, how does everyone know everyone here. He had his chance to be like this is my girl so I gave him that chance to voice it and I would have respected him and left the set..... But nah, the fuck wanted to be like "no, nuh uh, nope" and try to dismiss me. I wasn't letting that go. Game on. I put my 6 years of pickup experience to work.


So, I gave it a thought. I looked at him and then the girls. I didn't budge. I let him "claim" the girl he wanted. And he did. And I gamed her friend. I didn't even talk to him and his girl. He didn't do shit during the 10 minute pickup. They both watched me. They didn't even converse with each other. They just watched me pick up.

I waited. and waited. and waited. He didn't say shit. I number closed, he didn't say shit. I even made her call my phone so it would light up for everyone to see. I made my point and i left. Point is, man don't come at me wrong, I know I can get my own girls, I don't need to steal other guys girls, just don't come at me wrong. Even if I am trying to be friendly, I just don't tolerate that shit. Insecurity isn't some shit I want to deal with when I am having fun.



One time back in college when I was talking to one girl at a club a dude came and he was like "man steal her away from me ! please!"


I laughed and respected that. I left her alone. We need more dudes like him. It was that simple. Be chill, be smart,
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Mon Jun 13, 2016 11:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Don't talk to my girlfriend/these girls are unavailable
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I would call EVERYBODY out.

ME: Why didn't you tell me you had a boyfriend?

Then watch the responses. To hell with her for not telling me she was there with her boyfriend or to hell with him for lying about that being his girlfriend. To hell with somebody.


I am over it now. Kinda, but thanks for the humor lol. I think that is a hilarious way to handle it. I just haven't ran into these dudes in awhile. I have been gaming without any interference so I was caught off guard. I forgot these kind of dudes existed. #evolution.
Author:  JackZero [ Mon Jun 13, 2016 11:52 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Don't talk to my girlfriend/these girls are unavailable
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I would call EVERYBODY out.

ME: Why didn't you tell me you had a boyfriend?

Then watch the responses. To hell with her for not telling me she was there with her boyfriend or to hell with him for lying about that being his girlfriend. To hell with somebody.


I am over it now. Kinda, but thanks for the humor lol. I think that is a hilarious way to handle it. I just haven't ran into these dudes in awhile. I have been gaming without any interference so I was caught off guard. I forgot these kind of dudes existed. #evolution.
I know it's pretty funny, but that's how I really do handle situations like this. The bottom line is that you aren't the problem in this situation, someone else is...you're just the proof that the problem exists. Once you put it out there, no one is going to be upset with you because the spotlight is going to be on the person in the wrong.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue Jun 14, 2016 7:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Don't talk to my girlfriend/these girls are unavailable
First starters I don't respond if I'm talked to that way.

I just assume I'm not being spoken to and so I resume as if that didn't happen.

I may ask the girl if she's focusing on it " Is this your boyfriend? Like are you guys in a legit relationship? " and back off at that point if she confirms, but I won't so much as look in the direction of the guy unless he takes things beyond talking.

Drunkness does produce a vibe that makes people feel like they can treat you a certain way though. You can probably nip it there.
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