I actually think that there's a lesson learned here. People like you when you have value. Value in a strip club is cash...obviously. The thing about you, Bart, is that you don't know what you're value is. I am assuming that you have value in some sort of way and hope you aren't just meat filling space.

When I'm talking to women, I never have that "I have to convince her to like me" because I already know I am fun to be around. I already know that I can make her feel great. I already know that I have A LOT to offer as a sexual partner, as a romantic partner, and even as a friend. I don't just know these things; I feel these things in my bones from continuous repetition. That comes off as confidence.

Did you join a gym yet, Bart?

bartm needs some goals. And by goals I'm not even referring to women, rather to sit and think what he wants out of life and to pursue those. Abundance mentality will come out of that as a byproduct and he'll naturally feel more attracted to himself, which make his interactions with women pretty much effortless.

Bart, draw 4 quadrants on a piece of paper:
1) Spirituality
2) Career & Finance
3) Mental & Physical Health
4) Relationships

In each write down your goals (you may have several for each quadrant). And then spend some time plotting your course (its not set in stone you may find you have to tweak things/alter the course a bit as you work towards them.

An example, for "Relationships" it may be that you want to enrich your connections with people through learning a few communication skills perhaps how to actively listen (which is 1) specific and 2) actionable - important that your goals have those two qualities).

That stripper money could be spent on a hooker.

How was this thread supposed to be beneficial? You are sabotaging yourself and now you are fishing for people to tell you to give up and quit because that is what you truly want to hear.

But I agree, you have no chance.

not yet

the problem is, I dont know what it is that I want. I have an idea but I dont know if I just think I want those or I really want those. I will give this example because I cant come up with anything better: some people work their entire lives chasing money, but after they are rich, they realize it's not what they thought and they wasted their whole lives.
The point of this thread was, I have found something that seems to work so should I pursue it further.
if you were in my situation, would you get an escort or go to a massage place? have you ever been to a massage place? how does it work?

How many months has it been, Bart?