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Author:  dannmann1992 [ Fri May 20, 2016 9:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Worth the risk of telling the truth?
If you're seeing someone and you really like them, can see yourself becoming exclusive/dating them down the road but you're still working on getting over an ex would you risk being honest and telling them this?
Author:  JackZero [ Fri May 20, 2016 9:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Worth the risk of telling the truth?
You don't have to say anything about an ex in order to tell them that you're not ready for a relationship. You shouldn't be bringing up the subject of relationship either way.
Author:  dannmann1992 [ Fri May 20, 2016 10:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Worth the risk of telling the truth?
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You don't have to say anything about an ex in order to tell them that you're not ready for a relationship. You shouldn't be bringing up the subject of relationship either way.
I get that but I'm not going to lie I've been going hella slow with this girl and she's starting to pick up on that. So should I just be honest so that she see's I'm not bs'ing her? When anyone hears "I'm not ready for a relationship" that's just code for a I'm not interested in you like that.
Author:  JackZero [ Fri May 20, 2016 10:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Worth the risk of telling the truth?
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You don't have to say anything about an ex in order to tell them that you're not ready for a relationship. You shouldn't be bringing up the subject of relationship either way.
I get that but I'm not going to lie I've been going hella slow with this girl and she's starting to pick up on that. So should I just be honest so that she see's I'm not bs'ing her? When anyone hears "I'm not ready for a relationship" that's just code for a I'm not interested in you like that.
As long as you don't mind losing her. It would be different if you told her that you just broke up with your ex and not ready for a relationship and she chose to keep dating you, but what it seems that you want to say is that she's not as good as your ex if you need to tell her this now.
Author:  dannmann1992 [ Fri May 20, 2016 10:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Worth the risk of telling the truth?
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You don't have to say anything about an ex in order to tell them that you're not ready for a relationship. You shouldn't be bringing up the subject of relationship either way.
I get that but I'm not going to lie I've been going hella slow with this girl and she's starting to pick up on that. So should I just be honest so that she see's I'm not bs'ing her? When anyone hears "I'm not ready for a relationship" that's just code for a I'm not interested in you like that.
As long as you don't mind losing her. It would be different if you told her that you just broke up with your ex and not ready for a relationship and she chose to keep dating you, but what it seems that you want to say is that she's not as good as your ex if you need to tell her this now.
What I plan on telling her is I know I've been dragging my feet but it's because I'm still trying to mentally get over my ex and I just wanted to let you know that.

Does that sound like she's not as good as my ex? ^^
Author:  JackZero [ Fri May 20, 2016 10:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Worth the risk of telling the truth?
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What I plan on telling her is I know I've been dragging my feet but it's because I'm still trying to mentally get over my ex and I just wanted to let you know that.

Does that sound like she's not as good as my ex? ^^
Yep
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Fri May 20, 2016 10:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Worth the risk of telling the truth?
If she was hotter than your ex...you wouldn't ask this question. If she was cooler than your ex, you wouldn't ask this question. If you fucked this girl, you wouldn't ask this question.
Author:  dannmann1992 [ Sat May 21, 2016 12:27 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Worth the risk of telling the truth?
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If she was hotter than your ex...you wouldn't ask this question. If she was cooler than your ex, you wouldn't ask this question. If you fucked this girl, you wouldn't ask this question.
It's not about any of that.She's a good girl and I actually do care about her. I don't want her thinking I'm just f*cking around and toying with her bc I'm moving slow or not as quickly as she would like.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sat May 21, 2016 3:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Worth the risk of telling the truth?
Then either let her go or shape up. She isn't responsible for the way you feel. If she hears you are hung up over an ex, she will interpret in a negative way. Your job as a man is to provide pleasurable experiences and enjoyment for your ladies. Don't let her see you depressed. That isn't cute or fun. Don't unload an emotional burden on her. She doesn't want that. Talk to your guy friends or do something to boost your self esteem.You can still get the girl without ever revealing things. The simplest way to go about this is telling her that you just got out a relationship recently and are working the single scene for awhile. No need to say you are getting over an ex. Keep it simple. If she asks what went wrong, just tell her things didn't work out and move on to positive topics/feelings.
Author:  neo87 [ Sat May 21, 2016 4:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Worth the risk of telling the truth?
Wht do you mean by you're moving slow?
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sat May 21, 2016 9:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Worth the risk of telling the truth?
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Wht do you mean by you're moving slow?
Like an Sloth, just very very ... very slow. Like a 5" walking stride.
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