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Author:  magma122 [ Sat Mar 29, 2008 3:39 am ]
Post subject:  Quiet but confident?
To demonstrate confidence, does the quiet-confident type work? I mean wouldn't the fact that you're quiet spark interest?

Maybe im wrong
Author:  mozyFresh [ Sat Mar 29, 2008 4:44 am ]
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Im not quite sure what you mean by quiet confidence or quiet spark. Do you mean like being quietly confident?
You want to reach a level where your confidence shines. When people can look at you and know that your a fun outgoing confident guy.
To become a good PUA you need to be a talker, to become a master conversationalist, and to be that quiet confident is'nt what you need, you want loud confidence (this doesn't make sense :? ) without being overly confident, because that might do you more harm than good
Author:  parkour [ Sat Mar 29, 2008 5:21 am ]
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I'm not sure I get it either, but you might want to look into posture and Alexander technique. This really helps with day game. People looking at you just know.

I have also found that a good way to get into the headspace during the day is to walk/rock out to some fast paced music, mouth the words, bop your step. You may look ridiculous to some, but oh well you wont see them again anyway.
Author:  mozyFresh [ Sat Mar 29, 2008 5:57 am ]
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Im already there mate, the way i move, the way i walk, the way i sit back, the way i wipe my nose when i've got a cold. When people look at me they think 'he's the man, got it goin on, uh'. Its just something you're born with.

'fast paced music?' i find it better to slow my roll.
And 'mouth the words?' if you want them to think you're crazy, yeh.
'bop your step' actually i sometimes show girls my pimp walk, they love it, they say 'do the pimp walk, do the pimp walk!' mr. Soft lol
Author:  yokezg63 [ Sat Mar 29, 2008 6:31 am ]
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It most certainly works. Of course, you don't want to be too quiet; you'll just come off as a bit boring.

I've been reading a book on making a good first impression. One of the exercises in it suggested that I ask my friends and family members for feedback on my posture and thoughts on their first impressions of me. I felt like a bit of a douche when I was sending out my requests, but I'm actually quite glad I did it. I got to see how other people viewed me (assuming they were being honest).

Here's a description of the first impression I gave to a girl I met in college. Bear in mind that she didn't know anything about me, and saw me for the first time in class:
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you seemed really cold but in a cool way. Like one of those guys who would date super cute girls and your motto is "impress me".
She goes into some specifics about what gave her that impression:
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Well when you sat in class you looked really relaxed and cool and almost rebellious. The one thing you did was slum in your chair with your leg sticking straight out from your chair and you looked kinda apathetic. kinda like a bad boy
I rarely talked in class. She got all this just from the way I sat in my chair. I got a reply from a few other people that went along the same lines - quiet but confident. Your posture and body language says a lot to people. Even though you don't say a word, they can sense your confidence. As I said before, though, you want to make sure you actually open up well to people once they approach you. If you stick with your "strong, silent" routine, everyone will just start to avoid you.
Author:  fdok [ Sat Mar 29, 2008 6:24 pm ]
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As far as I have seen, the quiet confident doesn't work. Why? Because I've been trying that for years, and thus found this site to not become that.

In my eyes the rationalization of being quiet confident is "I don't have to run around and talk to everyone to have fun. Me and my friends have our fun and don't need to socialize outside of that circle. A girl will notice my stiff stance with my coors light, and know that i'm not like everyone else, and she will come right up and talk to me."

The reality is when a girl goes out, to the club or whatever, you aren't the cool quiet confident guy that you are thinking of. She came out to have fun and meet new people. She walks past the 100 other quiet confident AFC's all standing around, and you just become the 23rd guy that awkardly stares at her.

It's not that there's anything wrong with being quiet confident, I'm sure one can be that and be a great guy, I know that I'm a great guy even when i'm quiet and not talking to anybody. But it's just that i don't actively portray how great of a guy i am to anyone else, when I sit there being quiet.

It seems that the corner stone of most of the different pick up methods requires being social, talking to someone, in order to break away from being just another quiet guy. Just make sure that your not rationalizing your approach anxiety by claiming that you want to just be quiet confident. I know how it feels man, its pretty much where i'm at.

You can't get the job unless you put in the application.
Author:  Castnett [ Sat Mar 29, 2008 11:22 pm ]
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Yeah, I agree with fdok. Quiet confidence simply doesn't work, because you're not exuding enough confidence that is required to gain attraction. I will acknowledge the fact that body language is extremely important, but being sociable and outgoing is equally, if not more important.
Author:  burriquin [ Sun Mar 30, 2008 4:10 am ]
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:) you are pretty amazing guy, but don't sell yourself :lol:

it's like me right now, I'm the coolest guy in the hostel I'm staying here in Darwin (Australia), but I prefer to stay reading Mystery Method and get ready to play in a few days :lol:
Author:  The Libertine [ Sun Mar 30, 2008 4:54 am ]
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I did the quiet & confident thing...and seriously it is no where near as effective as being loud and outspoken. Women look for someone who will challenge them, Atrraction is triggerd through a range of emotions not just intrigue .
Quiet & Confident will only work for you if she notices your pre-selection or hears about your success with Women.

Alpha males are dominant and enaging you should be making a difference in her reality. Players are noticed on the filed not the bench.
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