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| Author: | Quixy [ Sat Mar 29, 2008 12:05 am ] |
| Post subject: | Connection created... What now? |
I'll write my story with as few details as possible because that'd make it too long to read and you'd probably get bored with it. Enough digressing. Sooo... I saw this girl about a year ago (literally saw, as in she was across the room and I saw her). I was with my friend, and I jokingly wrote my name and number on a piece of paper. Without me knowing, he gave it to her. I don't think she had any idea who I was, but he was with her a few months later, they talked about the situation, and she ended up calling me... but we only talked for about 3 minutes. Jump forward to last Sunday aka Easter Sunday. My family and I walked into church adn who do I see but that same girl from a year ago (HB 8.5-ish) sitting with her family in the row directly in front of us! Well I didn't get a chance to talk to her there, but I texted her after church and throughout the day. After a few negs and some playful flirting, she agreed to hanging out with me that night. I drove to her house around 9:30, and we were off. We drove around back roads and gravel roads by her house for nearly 3 hours just listening to music and getting to know each other. She was a hell of a lot different than I thought she would be but amazing and fun and all that jazz nonetheless. Around 12:30, she said something about how she thought about drinking, so I drove back to her house, she ran in and grabbed her vodka and a chaser, and then we drove to a park right by her house and sat on the basketball court taking a few shots. We were talking about the stars, so I suggested we go to half court and lie down to look at them. She took the bait, and I made a move on her after intimately talking about the stars. We made out on half court for a while, but it was cold and I suggested we move to the car. Much more happened for over the next few hours, but we didn't have sex (she was two months out of about a 6 year relationship). I'm sure, as with the PUA way, if I would have done one more freeze out or escalated just a bit more, she would have given in, but I felt a connection with her and didn't want to ruin it by making her feel horrible about doing that so soon after such a long relationship. After talking a bit more, I dropped her back off at her house, and my incredible night was over. She texted me the next morning, and we talked for a bit. I texted her the next morning about something we talked about, and we talked a bit more. I texted her last night, again, but got no response. Here's where I need all of your help: What do I do now? We go to colleges about 5 hours apart and I have no car here... so I'll prolly have to wait at least 6 weeks (summer) to see her if not more. A very strong connection was created, for me at least, and I don't want to let it go to waste. I want to talk to her about it, but I don't want to seem like I like her a lot or am needy or any creepy thing like that. I plan on using Facebook to talk about it with her. So... what do I say? How do I go about it? How do I seem innocent and playful, yet serious? Your help would be greatly appreciated. Sorry if the post was long for you, but thanks for reading. |
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| Author: | mozyFresh [ Sat Mar 29, 2008 5:40 am ] |
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'Took a drive up gravel track.' Very romantic  But the stars, that is romantic, nice job.  (Dont get me wrong, im not saying you should romance her. just a note to some, romance doesn't mean french ligo and candles) I'd say give it a couple of days and she'll contact you for sure, unless she's insane or somethin. So you wont need to think of anything to say (for now), just wait and have patience, she'll call. |
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| Author: | paladien [ Sat Mar 29, 2008 10:38 am ] |
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im in the same situation! only for me it was last summer, we were also gazing at the stars at night and we talked about it and stuff and she had a bf back then. she became my gf but she lives very far away, the next time ill see her is this summer in AT LEAST 6 weeks, i think prolly even more. hmm i dont know what you should do since its only been so short for you. the way i try to manage this is to take things slow and talk to her via msn during the weekends, you should definitely take things slow! otherwise you will lose her i agree with mozy that you should back off a little, dont let her do too much of the work cuz you feel this strong vibe aswell right but dont do too much. she already likes you, and its important to talk about what you think when you have a good convo over the phone or something also be honest about how you feel, she probably feels the same if you arent hones about it she might feel used. try to keep the spark alive  hope it helps a lil |
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| Author: | mozyFresh [ Sat Mar 29, 2008 2:32 pm ] |
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Oh yeah i missed that, DONT talk to her about things, no feelings, no emotions BS. Never say 'i like you' or 'do you feel the same way' or talk about getting together as a couple and start saying stupid things. Thats the biggest way to fuck everything up. Never be the first one to say i love you .etc. And you're not in a relationship until the invisible contract has been signed. As i like to say 'its better to tell a girl you hate her, than tell her you like her' |
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| Author: | Quixy [ Sun Mar 30, 2008 4:09 pm ] |
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Thanks a lot guys! Yeah I planned on trying not to sound needy or anything, so waiting seems to be a good choice. And I'm not too good at telling a girl how I feel anyway, so not saying "I like you" should be fairly simple for me. I'll keep in touch with you guys and let you know how everything goes. Nice quote there, mozy, haha. |
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| Author: | JSmooth [ Sun Mar 30, 2008 4:39 pm ] |
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I agree with previous posts that you should continue to wait a few days for her to contact you. The problem with online game is you can't do a whole lot of attraction building, you can mostly just build comfort. If you do that for some time, then you could end up in the friends zone if you talk to her too much. If you are serious about keeping this going on facebook which won't be easy, then contact her sporadically on facebook. Tell her stories DHV yourself, and let her get more comfortable with you. Which it sounds like she already is. Here and there continue to be playful and be the prize so it's not too easy for her. GOOD LUCK!!! |
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