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Author:  yolofear [ Sun Feb 21, 2016 2:31 am ]
Post subject:  A year on, she's still the one...
It has been a year since my ex ended with me now saying she couldn't do the distance blah blah bs excuses.

Anyway. This is fking bad and I am very embaressed and ashamed of this.

She is still the only person I think of, I have in my mind the concept that she is everything I look for in a girl. I have tried to forget her, block her out, havnt spoken to her in months nor seen what shes up to. And every time I go out I meet nobody I actually like, and then feel depressed for days just wanting to not do anything.

I went out at the week end after not going out for so long, chatted with a few girls, spent alot on drinking. Got in, and the next few days was so depressed it was ridiculous. I even was so close to leaving work as I did not want to do anything. It makes me feel sick. My friend stopped me and pushed me on to stay, it was so painful. I'm yet to go a day (over a year) where she hasnt come into my mind atleast 5 times throughout the day. Im fucking cursed.

I have read many of these things, keep busy, keep fit, do this do that. None are working. I just feel like shit and that I still want her in my life. Do you guys think it would be time for counselling?
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sun Feb 21, 2016 2:41 am ]
Post subject:  Re: A year on, she's still the one...
I think if you're asking that question, you already know the answer.

I wouldn't say anythings wrong with you per se, but it looks as though you could benefit from some outside assistance in moving forward.
Author:  horologist [ Mon Feb 22, 2016 9:36 am ]
Post subject:  Re: A year on, she's still the one...
I think you should do what you think is right.

But yeah, after a year, I think you may want to consider getting some help from a professional about this.

It's okay, I understand where you're coming from.

It's been a year since being single from my ex (8 year marriage). I still miss her on occasion. I don't identify with you specifically, but I do know where you're coming from.

Good luck bro.
Author:  masterm1ne [ Mon Feb 22, 2016 1:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: A year on, she's still the one...
Yea... we've all been through some degree of this. It happens when we find someone we really like being with and they push us away. They key is doing other things that will take your mind off that thing... in this case a girl.

#1 thing don't go drinking. Alcohol is a depressant. You probably already know - It helps you forget, but it overall won't make you feel better.

I've been though many counseling sessions (I have free healthcare) with psychologists/psychiatrists about my personal life. Very many people go at one point in their life. In my view, they are just normal people who have training regarding talking people through issues. Every provider is different, and no one is perfect. I'm also a trained medical provider and have 6 yrs of exp taking care of people.

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Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Mon Feb 22, 2016 8:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: A year on, she's still the one...
You need to get over this idea that you "need" a girl in your life first of all.

Second... You'll never have another relationship like you did with your ex. It's dead. Get over it. Enjoy it for what it was.

I had to quit eating cheese about 6 months ago. I loved what I had with pizza. It's not all I think about though. I don't need pizza in order to be happy.

Stop placing your happiness in the hands of another person. Once you stop needing something is when you start getting it in abundance.

I'd be totally happy with nothing more than a guitar and a van to sleep in on the beach in Southern California. You find that "happy place" in your life and you'll have your pick of girls.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Thu Feb 25, 2016 7:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: A year on, she's still the one...
Its a bruised ego man.

Every guy thats had a girl "leave them" thinks she's some magically girl for a good amount of time after the break up. Its not the girl as much as its the reality that you lost. This is not love. Its a compulsive obsession. You'll get over that shit in time.

Download a bunch of dating apps and just spam away a chicks in your free time. Meet a couple solid chicks and it will speed up the healing process.
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