Situation is real, met up with a girl after some texting. The texting here was more "personal" in the beginning. She is a gamer type girl, so we went to surprise visit her. Me and two other guys, huuuge mistake not meeting her 1on1, but she would never be comfortable enough to meet just me, one of the guys she had met before with some friends, not me and the other guy. Shy and awkward in real life, I took lead, made the convo flowing, kino, she had problems talking to me, voice shaking, breaking and always twirling her hair. She kept drifting to this other guy, which I cant seem to understand. Sitting next to him, initiating texts with him while we where there. A quiet guy, low energy, pretty boring aswell. Your typical nice guy if you will, but they have talked alot via SPAM/ts, which I have not. She started to initiate kino on me after the first day (touching hands, legs).
Was there over the weekend, impossible to escalate due to 3 guys 1 girl. Her interest towards me seemed to drop abit actually after the meet (not any personal contact initiate),and increase towards the other guy via text. I've never handled a shy girl before so this is something I want to explore. However, a few days after we left she startet to initate contact via snapchat. She's a online beast. We have a SPAM grp and shes the only girl in the gaming team. I initally left the grp to become less avaliable. The guy to girl ratio is around 100/2, so obviously shes of a "higher" value in that world. So all the other guys are constantly trying to get in contact with her online. The text she sends now via snap, I can tell its mass texted, I get like 3 a day,my replies are always inconsistent. I rarely reply right away, sometimes a few hrs later. Sometimes I dont respond at all. When I reply she does reply back. Telling how awesome my texts are and screenshots etc, but she is hard to read, I feel like that the "investment" on her side are rather scattered towards all the guys in that gaming world if you will, and that she is just being nice. Not to be cocky here, but I'm more the "jock" type, maybe I scared her a little. Also, ignored her for a day. Sent her a reply to her texts the next day, simply (HF), like I didnt care, to her 3 snaps, to which she instantly replied and wanted to talk a little casual, which I stopped and said I had to go.
Im pretty certain on myself, and my values. I simply dont give my time to anyone, but I want to explore things with this girl, never been with a cute shy one.
My life is pretty crazy compared to hers. She just watches movies, rarely go out etc. I'm more extreme, with activities etc. So basically, how do one continue with the attraction to a shy girl via text and make her invest more in just you? Since all the other guys are always there, I was wondering if maybe a cut contact now and then would keep her on her toes. And wait and set up a meet with just her when she gets back home. Now she is a few hrs away til summer. She lives her life online, via texting, SPAM you name it shes there. I dont want to be another one the beta orbiters / fgt shopping buddys of hers. So maybe cut texting down to a minimum and be even less available? So I don't fall into the "texting/online buddy" category.
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