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Author:  spark19891 [ Thu Feb 11, 2016 5:01 pm ]
Post subject:  One month with a girl on Tinder...
So I met this girl through Tinder. We've been dating (having sex) and hanging out a lot. She has met a lot of my friends, most of them are girls. I've also met her parents. We are not in a relationship. Last week, my friend introduced us as a bf-gf to his friends and then asked we are or not. We didn't say anything.

After that I feel like her interest has gone down. Last time we hangout she told me that she is not looking for anything serious. We didn't have sex either. She said she wants to take things slowly and wants more space out like less hanging out. In my response, I said yes to everything, simply coz it's too early to have any conflict.
I cancelled one of our planned date tomorrow, but we plan to meet again the next day. I plan to reduce my texting and investment in general. May be reopen the tinder.

I usually behave really nicely, that's who I'm. She is more introvert and I'm extrovert.

Let me know what you guys think.
Author:  R.C [ Thu Feb 11, 2016 5:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: One month with a girl on Tinder...
You met her off tinder, have been hanging out for a month and did not have sex?

You really can't see the friendzone you've put yourself in?
Author:  spark19891 [ Thu Feb 11, 2016 5:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: One month with a girl on Tinder...
We'd sex except for the last time we met.
Author:  R.C [ Thu Feb 11, 2016 5:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: One month with a girl on Tinder...
So you had sex with her?
Author:  spark19891 [ Thu Feb 11, 2016 6:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: One month with a girl on Tinder...
Yep many times. I generally prefer to date a girl and see how things go. It's not a problem if it doesn't work out. But I'm usually curious about their thinking and mistakes I may have made. Improving game and myself in general.
Author:  R.C [ Thu Feb 11, 2016 6:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: One month with a girl on Tinder...
So you think you made a mistake or what?

She doesn't want anything serious. I don't see what's wrong with that unless you had expectations of her. And even still that doesn't mean you can't have fun together until you find someone that's looking for the same thing you are.
Author:  neo87 [ Thu Feb 11, 2016 7:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: One month with a girl on Tinder...
What's messed up is she could've taken your silence to the whole bf gf thing to mean this guy isn't serious about me, what are we, I should take a step back to not get hurt. Trying to react to a woman is a terrible thing to do, because often both of you are trying to play it cool. This is why whatever you want, say it firmly and confidently. If you were getting serious with her, should've said so when she brought it up. If you didn't should've agreed with her and told her that doesn't mean all this bs has to happen if you're both on the same page. You can tell a girl your not looking for anything serious but still tell her to cut the distancing shit. And you can tell a girl you wanted something serious and Hey that means we shouldn't step back.
Author:  spark19891 [ Thu Feb 11, 2016 9:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: One month with a girl on Tinder...
I see what you guys are saying. It was three weeks and when my friends asked if we were bf/gf. Still too early. She said we have been hanging out a lot, and she may get burned. (I call it bs)
I didn't make a big deal about it, mostly agreed with her by saying you are right and we shouldn't meet on Friday(It's an expensive concert and I dont want to buy tickets :)). We plan to meet on Saturday though.

My plan of action for now is to keep things slow, less texting/pressure/meeting up. Start looking for more options. I'm not counting on her anymore.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Wed Feb 17, 2016 9:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: One month with a girl on Tinder...
Quote:
In my response, I said yes to everything, simply coz it's too early to have any conflict.
Agreeing just to agree is weak. Now if you legitimately can see things from her point of view thats one thing, but if what she's saying goes completely against what it is you genuinely want and you agree anyway she'll feel it and the attraction will be reduced.

Online dating though man, it makes the this shit way too easy. Its makes it more of a challenge to have a desire to maintain a relationship or push through difficult times when you know you can easily swipe right and meet someone else. I wouldn't make too much of it. Keep swiping and you'll get a new one by the end of the week.
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