"He's no good for me, but I'm loving it".

She does, because she's 20 and gorgeous, and a freaking porn star in bed.

The other night she left her phone at my place. I noticed in the texts over the last month, as I do more and more things right, the orbiters get bounced. She shuts down the texts with "have a good night" quickly.

I could write a novel about the valuable lesson I received from that phone:

1. Sappy texts, even if you're fucking a girl will turn her off eventually. There was an ex-boyfriend, who, at the tail end of the relationship would text things like "hey, I'd really like to see you this week , we haven't made out in a few days".

Scarcity
he was quickly friend-zoned.

Another guy she was fucking said (back in October before I knew her): "I really wish you'd stay over at my place more and cuddle". He was immediately friend-zoned. The next text was "thanks for setting me free, I was blindly addicted to you".
Scarcity
The more these guys texted (and the longer the texts..especially texts that "explained" situations or feelings) the more she started losing interest.
Scarcity
It was fucking priceless to see how this all played out. Guys who would start barfing up their feelings, or text useless things like "drive safe" or" that hug was really awesome!" would be faded out.

There is a guy who drives her crazy. He blows her off, and makes it seem impossible to meet up. He's deliberately obtuse and playing with her head. He texts every couple of weeks to meet up, then bails (they fucked early on when they met).
Not scarcity, and/or abundance mentality
This even made her chase him at his work three weeks ago, where she invited him to her place. She even sent her address at 2 am, and he never showed.

This guy is my competition. He is laying the psychological foundation so he can have her anytime he wants for the foreseeable future. Just a simple text and bam. His scarcity is a huge turn on for her.

She has a fuck ton of options.

She texted me last night at 3:30 am all pissed off because she lost a wet t-shirt contest and wanted me to feed her wounded ego. I sent her a text back, then she told me she took too much adderall. I replied" nice" at 3:45 and didn't hear from her again until 5:40 am (the curt text said: Yes, took the 20mg addy), but I ignored. She sent another text today with a photo, asking me how my day was and that she's "recovering from not sleeping and tending to her plants". Ignoring that as well. I don't think a girl is going to text me throughout the night if she's banging another dude, and then send a relationship-y text, but it's still annoying, immature behavior.

I don't tolerate white trash behavior from the women in my life (participating in a wet t-shirt contest qualifies). I'm focused on my career and don't need helter-skelter texts with large holes between texts in the witching hours or to worry about this shit.

I don't think she's trash. I adore her.

I don't tolerate white trash behavior from the women in my life (participating in a wet t-shirt contest qualifies).

She texted me last night at 3:30 am all pissed off because she lost a wet t-shirt contest and wanted me to feed her wounded ego. I sent her a text back, then she told me she took too much adderall. I replied" nice" at 3:45 and didn't hear from her again until 5:40 am (the curt text said: Yes, took the 20mg addy), but I ignored.

I'm focused on my career and don't need helter-skelter texts with large holes between texts in the witching hours or to worry about this shit.

I don't think she's trash. I adore her.

If I didn't care, I wouldn't post this. I just don't care for this type of behavior. It happens rarely with her.

She's extremely attractive and would blow your mind in bed...enthusiastic beyond belief. Therefore, she's someone you have to play your cards right with until she's hooked.

Young women at this level can have who they want, when they want, and they cut guys loose without a hint of remorse.

Play the game or date ugly girls.

See, statements like the last one are rooted in scarcity and failure to look at yourself and see where you're lacking. Been to, and lived in many cities in the U.S and countries in the world; its just a plain falsehood that to be with hot women, you require all these headgames and who's chasing who nonsense. I get where it comes from; its easier to find girls who need alot of validation and game playing to keep their interest ; its harder to look at what girls you get and accept that you need to increase your internal value and mindset. Just like the girl who accepts men who will hit them will think, well getting beaten is just part of the game.

I even get the whole emphasis on who is chasing who; its easier to have a woman who is blowing up your phone and going crazy for your ATTENTION due to X mind game you're playing, than one who is crazy for YOU. I dont agree with it though, because the walking that thin line game of she's crazy for you if you're cold and you cant show any emotion unless its planned just sounds like too much work for me. You're reading a girl's messages like the FBI hunting a serial killer, if tomorrow you gave her a compliment you may lose her completely. All sounds so stressful, and unecessary, all that work for a girl, because you think thats just what it takes. I don't doubt that your experiences have given you this view that it's all this extra shit needed, thats why i say you should look at why you can only find hot girls like this.

As you said, you have to play your cards right till she's hooked, but from your previous description, she'll never be completely hooked, and once you show emotion towards her...poof. Im not knocking you, I actually admire that persistance...I'm just too lazy. Checking a girls phone and stuff to see whats up....having to even think i couldnt express myself how I wanted to? Thats work. Lets be real, you'll be checking this girls phone again any chance you get to see where you stand with her.

PS-Lol you know her friend didnt show you a text message from her...you saw it on her phone.

This is a text I saw from my current fuck buddy, whom I now have feelings for (argh). Her friend showed it to me, and it was right when we first started hooking up about a month ago. She also said "He's no good for me, but I'm loving it".

This girl is extremely cool, but I've kept the frame to where she does 90% of the texting and contacting. She has taken this to mean that she's calling the shots. The reality is she's chasing me.

How long can I let her keep that illusion, and do you think it will effect my frame down the road via slow erosion?