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Author:  Koppal [ Mon Feb 08, 2016 1:07 am ]
Post subject:  Awful with being physical, rely on booze :\
Hey guys, new to the forum, and finally single after 3 years, and ready to go nuts, i'm 23 and tbh, i'm not nearly as 'experienced' as i thought, I had a few girls before my relationship, and have always been interested in PUA and even through a relationship read up a lot and read the books

Now, i'd describe myself as a good looking guy, and tbh, my looks have carried me to sex, cos without them, my game is quite shit, I got good chat/gab, and i feel very comfortable talking, making girls laugh and saying cheeky things etc...but when it comes down to being physical...I feel uncomfortable and awkward as fuck, arm round a girl, hand on the leg etc etc, I find it weird that with my experience/'confidence', I still find leaning in for a kiss quite terrifying, and often rely on being drunk

In fact, I always use some stupid line before I go for a kiss, just to get clarification and a green light to do it, guys, how the hell do I work on it (being more physical), I find that if I try to practice, I feel it doesn't come off as comfortable, and has no conviction, its always been a problem, even hugging my family feels awkward to me, and I thought that once single i'd be PLOWING the god damn land, but i've only had one in 2 months, and she was pretty damn game so I didn't have to do much, it kinda hit me that I have to when I had this HOT girl who I was doing a thing with, and I didn't get a lay cos, in short I bottled it, she was quite shy and I just couldn't put it on her ffs! I need to stop relying on god damn alcohol and my looks and be a real PUA

Cliffs :
Out of long relationship
Want to pick up/embrace community
Feel my biggest weakness is being physical, and often rely on getting wasted
Rely on my looks to carry me, and that sometimes works when the girl is game but, I feel i'm really limiting my potential by being a pussy
When I try to practice, it feels uncomfortable and puts me off

On a side note, i'm in London so if anyone parties/practices in London, gimme a shout
Author:  anon90210 [ Mon Feb 08, 2016 1:55 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Awful with being physical, rely on booze :\
Since you have been out of the game for a while I think it's normal to feel a ljttle different about it. It's all about practice practice practice. Yes I understand that drinking boosts confidence and I also drink my fair share
But being too drunk is the most unattractive thing ever to a girl. As for going in for the kiss, i would reccomend looking at her eyes and then her lips and then her eyes.
She will know what you mean. Judge her reaction and
If it looks positive slowly go in. Or you can just ask
Her if she wants to kiss you. Once
You get in the groove it will be all good my man. When I came out of a relationship I felt a little awkward for a while but just keep at it
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Mon Feb 08, 2016 7:27 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Awful with being physical, rely on booze :\
Lol gotta bring "sexy" back...
Author:  R.C [ Mon Feb 08, 2016 9:13 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Awful with being physical, rely on booze :\
Feels like you're jumping steps. If going for a kiss feels awkward for you, you can be fucking certain it will be awkward for her.

Anyway, if you want it to feel natural you have to progress towards it. If she's uncomfortable touching your arm how the hell will she be comfortable shoving her tongue 3 inches down your throat?

Touch her hand while examining her watch/jewelry.
Touch her neck while examining her necklass.
Ears for earings.
Hand while you talk / thigh or knee when you talk sitting.
Brush stray hairs off her face.
Look her in the eyes seductively to increase tension.
Slowly move your face to her as she talks, holding eye contact, then pull back. Or don't.

Those are a few examples but the point is to have fun with it. It isn't nor is it supposed to be a big deal. The only time it ever goes wrong is if you're lunging at her when she doesn't expected. A kiss should never be unexpected. Quite the opposite, it should be craved.
Author:  Koppal [ Mon Feb 08, 2016 1:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Awful with being physical, rely on booze :\
Quote:
Feels like you're jumping steps. If going for a kiss feels awkward for you, you can be fucking certain it will be awkward for her.

Anyway, if you want it to feel natural you have to progress towards it. If she's uncomfortable touching your arm how the hell will she be comfortable shoving her tongue 3 inches down your throat?

Touch her hand while examining her watch/jewelry.
Touch her neck while examining her necklass.
Ears for earings.
Hand while you talk / thigh or knee when you talk sitting.
Brush stray hairs off her face.
Look her in the eyes seductively to increase tension.
Slowly move your face to her as she talks, holding eye contact, then pull back. Or don't.

Those are a few examples but the point is to have fun with it. It isn't nor is it supposed to be a big deal. The only time it ever goes wrong is if you're lunging at her when she doesn't expected. A kiss should never be unexpected. Quite the opposite, it should be craved.

Thanks for all the good responses guys, I especially like the using the jewellery as an in, thats awesome, it really makes it feel a lot more natural !
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