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I've recently split up from my ex 3 months ago after a 5 year relationship. The problem is I'm in no contact with her, we broke it off on a good note and I've been sleeping/speaking to a lot of women. Yet I can't seem to stop dreaming about her, its every other night! obviously it's not by choice but it's affecting my mood in the day as I'm always thinking of her during the day then which is something I don't really want to do. Has anyone experienced this? I just want some insight to it I guess.
I'm not sure if I dream at all, or if it's just I can't remember them... but anyway, I met this young bisexual girl, not really the hottest, but very sexy in her own way... we spent a few nights together... she was super freaky (what guy doesn't want that), super sexy, awesome at sex, and we had great chemistry together; we both are really laid back and open minded. Every time we fucked I would stare at her tattoo of her ex's name on her R hip.
One time after banging I asked her to have something more with me and she told me I was so much more attractive than any of her previous BFs and that I was cool and all, but that she didn't want anything more with me. Inside, I know that I am far above the average guy in most aspects of life (I am in shape, have a good job, and have good genetics, and treat others well). She is much younger than me and I keep thinking what it would be like to be a couple with her. Who knows how it'd work out... Honestly it's hard not to let your emotions blind your logic, but this girl would likely be a terrible partner - she'd probably be sleeping with other people while with me (maybe we shouldn't care?). I mean she was about to be engaged at one point, called it off with me, then like a few weeks later she's all of a sudden not getting married and we see each other again... but I digress; I think of her a lot and I want to find a replacement for her; obv if she doesn't want anything with me I should keep her at that same distance. I'd like to have a consistent girl in my life anyway and she never was. I actually went out last night with a woman that when I saw her photos reminded me of her, but her personality was just ... not attractive to me. This woman almost seemed asexual
Though we weren't in a relationship for as long as you, I'm sure the same thing happened; you became attached because you found someone you really liked being with. It happens to guys, and the more women you get to know, the more you will see how few you really want to be with. I only have a few close male friends as well.
This summarizes why I am not too upset about letting an attractive woman pass every now and then; you can pretty much guarantee that their personality is not going to be a good match. I won't let that stop me from trying though, bc you never know. Also don't think this is sexually exclusive; I've met a lot of women that want to have more with me, and I have rejected them for one reason or another - this will help you remain mentally stable and not bitter.