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Author:  nr32 [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 9:27 am ]
Post subject:  Is this oneitis?
So, she is the most beautiful girl I have ever seen (ok, I know, bear with me). I know this is beta as hell, but I've only recently started self-development.

Tl;dr I like this friend I've known for two months and she's the only girl ever on my mind. Oneitis?

I am overweight (this'll resolve with time), so looks wise she is in a different league, but intellectually I am superior.

Our convos are usually philosophical and deep, and I've learned a lot about her passions. We went out for lunch a few times, and she dropped hints around 2 months ago like "my mom thinks I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life :(" but my insecure/unconfident self recognized the obvious IOI but did not pursue (slapping myself for it!)

Now we're back in college after Christmas break, new semester, and I still think about this one girl!! So, after some self development over winter break (she maintained contact with me only because my beta a** basically begged for it), and recognizing all the beta things I've said to her, I wonder if I'm friend zoned now, but I don't care.. I want more, and if I can't get it, I don't give a rats a** about being friends, cause that would be too much heartache.

So, the last few days I've been alpha as hell. She got a new hairstyle, so I texted her "I want to see, when are you free tomorrow," she responded, and I took lead and told her when I'm meeting her. When we hung out, I tried to be candid, basically speak my mind within reasonable limits. For example, she was trying to teach me something, did not make sense whatsoever, and I semi-playfully tell her that I'm glad she's not becoming a teacher..

Anyway, she was saying something about doodling during class and I said I'm a pro and going to draw her.. so I basically drew a stick figure in her notebook. I still have her notebook so I'll probably give it to her the day after tomorrow when I see her in class again. I wrote down "some pretty girl I saw in physics" on the side, obvious hint that I like her (man why do I sound so beta, all that reading still hasn't made me as alpha as I want).

I honestly don't know why I'm sharing this, cause how is it relevant and why would you care, but basically idk I like this girl and I feel as though NO OTHER GIRL in this entire 15,000 student campus is as beautiful or relatable. Oneitis?
Author:  R.C [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 1:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this oneitis?
You like this girl so much because she's the only one you find hot that's giving you this amount attention. Yes onitis.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 3:39 pm ]
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"ADP" Should be a new macron on the forum. (Another Disney Princess).

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Can you get this girl Bro? Yes but not until you take her out of the clouds.

Take a step back, and picture her tanking a big shit! Picking her pimples. Changing her tampon. Picking her nose and eating the result. Sneaking a Blood Clotted pad out to the dumpster in her purse. Using Oxyclean on the shit stains in her thongs.

Yeah, she does that.
Author:  nr32 [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 4:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this oneitis?
Yeah you're both right.. obviously want to get her off the pedestal, but..
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"ADP" Should be a new macron on the forum. (Another Disney Princess).

Image

Can you get this girl Bro? Yes but not until you take her out of the clouds.

Take a step back, and picture her tanking a big shit! Picking her pimples. Changing her tampon. Picking her nose and eating the result. Sneaking a Blood Clotted pad out to the dumpster in her purse. Using Oxyclean on the shit stains in her thongs.

Yeah, she does that.
She is still beautiful, even when doing those things.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 4:33 pm ]
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Have you ever tried to make a move, or get sexual with "Ariel"?
Author:  nr32 [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 7:00 pm ]
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Have you ever tried to make a move, or get sexual with "Ariel"?
I don't know man, I'm socially inept..
Does a doodle with "pretty girl in physics class" count?

Sexual, not yet..
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 7:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this oneitis?
I'm guessing you are younger. Keep your options open. When you focus on one special princess, you become extremely attached. You’re terrified to lose your only opportunity. So you never make a move. This fear then manifests itself in your behavior and scares all girls away. And when things don’t work out, you’re devastated that you have to start all over again.

It's a horrible rut. Many guys replay this loop over and over. Don't be that guy.

Take more chances. Talk to lots of girls. Talk to people everywhere. Go to social events. Ask every person you talk to for more than a minute for their number.

Inevitably, you will connect with more girls. This creates a mindset of abundance and you will inherently act as such. You will be more bold and honest with your intentions. You’ll stop being desperate for any connection from just that "one Girl".

Girls will notice this shiny new self-confidence. Then they’ll want to prove they’re worth your time.

I know you want "This One". In order to do that, you must risk it and make a move.

If done with confidence. you'll do well. Your the one with the balls to try.
Author:  nr32 [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 8:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this oneitis?
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I'm guessing you are younger. Keep your options open. When you focus on one special princess, you become extremely attached. You’re terrified to lose your only opportunity. So you never make a move. This fear then manifests itself in your behavior and scares all girls away. And when things don’t work out, you’re devastated that you have to start all over again.

It's a horrible rut. Many guys replay this loop over and over. Don't be that guy.

Take more chances. Talk to lots of girls. Talk to people everywhere. Go to social events. Ask every person you talk to for more than a minute for their number.

Inevitably, you will connect with more girls. This creates a mindset of abundance and you will inherently act as such. You will be more bold and honest with your intentions. You’ll stop being desperate for any connection from just that "one Girl".

Girls will notice this shiny new self-confidence. Then they’ll want to prove they’re worth your time.

I know you want "This One". In order to do that, you must risk it and make a move.

If done with confidence. you'll do well. Your the one with the balls to try.
This is one of the best posts I've read. Thanks for the motivation man. I'll take the plunge. How would you make a move with a friend without becoming creepy?
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 9:20 pm ]
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Yeah you're both right.. obviously want to get her off the pedestal, but..
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"ADP" Should be a new macron on the forum. (Another Disney Princess).

Image

Can you get this girl Bro? Yes but not until you take her out of the clouds.

Take a step back, and picture her tanking a big shit! Picking her pimples. Changing her tampon. Picking her nose and eating the result. Sneaking a Blood Clotted pad out to the dumpster in her purse. Using Oxyclean on the shit stains in her thongs.

Yeah, she does that.
She is still beautiful, even when doing those things.
Buddy - somewhere, some guy is sick of her bullshit.

She is not special. She is really not.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 9:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this oneitis?
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This is one of the best posts I've read. Thanks for the motivation man. I'll take the plunge. How would you make a move with a friend without becoming creepy?
I'm guessing she has a clue, she can smell it on you like your AXE body spray.

When the time comes to ask her out, wait for the opportune moment. Trust your instincts; they will tell you when the time is right. Not when your all worked up like a Chihuahua shitting a foil gum wrapper. It's probably best not to do it in front of her friends or in front of your friends either. It's easier for both of you if you are alone. All you have to do is walk up, and ask her to go out with you in a confident manner. You get points for trying.

Don't say 'date'. Just be like "I'm going to (Some cool ass place) your going with me, right?"
Author:  nr32 [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 9:39 pm ]
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Buddy - somewhere, some guy is sick of her bullshit.

She is not special. She is really not.
Neither of us have been in a relationship before.
Author:  nr32 [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 9:41 pm ]
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This is one of the best posts I've read. Thanks for the motivation man. I'll take the plunge. How would you make a move with a friend without becoming creepy?
I'm guessing she has a clue, she can smell it on you like your AXE body spray.

When the time comes to ask her out, wait for the opportune moment. Trust your instincts; they will tell you when the time is right. Not when your all worked up like a Chihuahua shitting a foil gum wrapper. It's probably best not to do it in front of her friends or in front of your friends either. It's easier for both of you if you are alone. All you have to do is walk up, and ask her to go out with you in a confident manner. You get points for trying.

Don't say 'date'. Just be like "I'm going to (Some cool ass place) your going with me, right?"
Ok. Thanks :)
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 9:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this oneitis?
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Buddy - somewhere, some guy is sick of her bullshit.

She is not special. She is really not.
Neither of us have been in a relationship before.
I forgot you needed to be in a committed relationship to interact with the opposite sex or fool around with them.

Oh wait....
Author:  nr32 [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 10:00 pm ]
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@CharlesFinley oh, right, haha I get it..

Question! She's always talking about being hungry.. I think maybe she genuinely is but I can't tell if it's an IOI or not.. so if I pick a restaurant and say "you're coming right," how would I handle a rejection alpha style?
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 10:06 pm ]
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@CharlesFinley oh, right, haha I get it..

Question! She's always talking about being hungry.. I think maybe she genuinely is but I can't tell if it's an IOI or not.. so if I pick a restaurant and say "you're coming right," how would I handle a rejection alpha style?
Now you're thinking, brother ;)

Saying "so am I, why don't we grab something?" When she says that is a pretty decent way to do it without the threat of rejection.

You want to be careful not to set a "friend" tone though. Conveying interest is important if you ever want something more.

Heywood has given you some great advice here. He knows his shit. You should listen to him.
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