PUA Forum :: Work colleague with a BF. Need advice.

Quote:

Well this one for me is in serious danger of becoming my ONEITIS.

You already have it.

1) You're posting about he girl on the forum.

2). You said that.

Sounds like she gave you an affection high that didn't come to a close because you didn't sleep with her, and so now those left over hormones are driving you crazy. Its the hormone production and nothing more. So unless you can take her off the pedestal and stop making "getting with her" such a big deal in your mind, you can forget it. You have to go back to work and play it cool. Go back to playing it as if this weekend didn't happen. Do this right and she will come to you and create small windows for you to push things and escalate. But you're not going to go chasing her and "trying" to get her to cheat and have any success. Do your work thing, and let her come on to you. Play like " You have a boyfriend, I'm not taking you serious." and that should be your attitude anyway until you bang her, and build a connection or her relationship status changes.

Author:	Kodak_9 [ Mon Jan 18, 2016 8:13 am ]
Post subject:	Work colleague with a BF. Need advice.
So is it just me or is this the holy grail of pickups? We've all had that girl at work that we see every day, maybe talk to at the water cooler, or coffee machine, meet eyes with across the office. Well this one for me is in serious danger of becoming my ONEITIS. We've worked together for a few months and we've always got on great. To be honest I've never really been trying to pick her up. She's a 10 in my book but because she has a serious boyfriend I just figured we were friends and destined to be nothing more. Until recently at a work's night out she gave me more IOI's than I think I've ever got in one night from a girl. I talked to her friend for a little while and got a group nearby involved in some drinking games, first trying to create some pre-selection and maybe jealousy plotline. I then got the chance to sit down and talk to her after the most beautifully timed accidental seat mix up of all time and that was it for the night. After she'd had a few drinks she started to give me strong IOI's. We talked all night; when I left the group she called me back over as soon as possible; she called me her favourite person in the office; she said I was exactly the type of guy she would normally go for (to me and others); she kino'd me, stroking my arm a lot; when I'd try and do takeaways on the dance floor she wouldn't let me go, pulling me back at one point and whispering 'you're mine' to me. It's clear to me that there is attraction between us. I think now I just need to work on the comfort stage. My question now is what do I do now we're back at work? How do I get her to cheat on her boyfriend with me? Any routines I can try at lunch? What can I do to isolate the target at work? Do I bring up things she said and did that night while intoxicated? The challenge is laid down. Please help.

Author:	oceanx [ Mon Jan 18, 2016 8:43 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Work colleague with a BF. Need advice.
Jesus christ man with all due respect this is the holy trifecta of situations to avoid: 1) Shitting where you eat 2) Girl has a b/f 3) Hardcore one itus Why, when there are roughly 1.75 billion available women in the world, do you deliberately choose to consciously allow yourself to hone in on this one. Look at all the hot women you pass by each day. You let them come in and go out of your life and you don't say any thing to them. Change this. Start talking to women. I am trying to help you cure your one itus. Morality, logistical and work related nightmares aside, if you really want to pursue this it's not very complicated: Get her out again for drinks after work and segue back to your place.

Author:	R.C [ Mon Jan 18, 2016 10:04 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Work colleague with a BF. Need advice.
I don't understand why people keep touching on morality when a girl has a bf. Am I, as an employer, immoral for making an offer to someone that already has a job? Am I supposed to wait around until they quit or get fired? Fuck no. I make my offer, and depending on how pleased they are with their current job, they'll either take it or not. You don't "get someone to cheat". Her cheating is a result of her being unhappy with her bf, and you just happen to be that attractive guy she'd want to get properly fucked by. Point is, go for what you want. Quote: It's clear to me that there is attraction between us. I think now I just need to work on the comfort stage. You don't need comfort, you needed to isolate and kiss her. Had you already done something this would've been so much easier. But yeah, as ocean said, get her out for drinks and whatever and make a proper move on her for a change.

Author:	Cross De Lena [ Mon Jan 18, 2016 11:38 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Work colleague with a BF. Need advice.
I wouldn't be bothered too much about her boyfriend also, she's unhappy, you make her happy then. Just act normal on the job, respond and give back IOI's and ask her out SOOOOON! Before her boyfriend smells somethings wrong No, seriously, don't hesitate, you have to get this girl isolated.

Author:	Eddie Fews [ Tue Jan 19, 2016 5:40 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Work colleague with a BF. Need advice.
Quote: Well this one for me is in serious danger of becoming my ONEITIS. You already have it. 1) You're posting about he girl on the forum. 2). You said that. Sounds like she gave you an affection high that didn't come to a close because you didn't sleep with her, and so now those left over hormones are driving you crazy. Its the hormone production and nothing more. So unless you can take her off the pedestal and stop making "getting with her" such a big deal in your mind, you can forget it. You have to go back to work and play it cool. Go back to playing it as if this weekend didn't happen. Do this right and she will come to you and create small windows for you to push things and escalate. But you're not going to go chasing her and "trying" to get her to cheat and have any success. Do your work thing, and let her come on to you. Play like " You have a boyfriend, I'm not taking you serious." and that should be your attitude anyway until you bang her, and build a connection or her relationship status changes.

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Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Jan 19, 2016 7:20 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Work colleague with a BF. Need advice.
Eddie has got this, but if it were me.... I'd stop her during a one on one, and say "Your putting out a vibe like we are going to sleep together soon." (While thinking about just that) Then continue as if nothing happened.

Author:	R.C [ Wed Jan 20, 2016 9:35 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Work colleague with a BF. Need advice.
Quote: Quote: Well this one for me is in serious danger of becoming my ONEITIS. You already have it. 1) You're posting about he girl on the forum. 2). You said that. Sounds like she gave you an affection high that didn't come to a close because you didn't sleep with her, and so now those left over hormones are driving you crazy. Its the hormone production and nothing more. So unless you can take her off the pedestal and stop making "getting with her" such a big deal in your mind, you can forget it. You have to go back to work and play it cool. Go back to playing it as if this weekend didn't happen. Do this right and she will come to you and create small windows for you to push things and escalate. But you're not going to go chasing her and "trying" to get her to cheat and have any success. Do your work thing, and let her come on to you. Play like " You have a boyfriend, I'm not taking you serious." and that should be your attitude anyway until you bang her, and build a connection or her relationship status changes. This. Hundred times this.

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