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| Author: | Tha_taurus [ Sun Jan 17, 2016 8:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Should i chat this girl or wait until we meet. |
Hi guys, a good boyfriend of mine has been trying to hook me up with a girl. In fact it's more him and his sister who is one of the bf of this girl i am talking about. I've heard that this girl was thirsty because she hasn't been fucked since a little while and was complaining about not having a boyfriend. We live in a really rural area not so populated so she doesn't have to much options. She is a 7. I have never met her. I heard that she is really shy and can be not really talkative when in new social situations. So, let me relate it chronollogically. There's 1 1/2 months ago my friend told me that i should fuck this girl because she had been complaining to his sister about not having any guy on her life. During christmas i moved to my parents' house for christmas. When i came back one week ago my friend told me that him and his sister were making plans to make us meet each other and hook up. This same evening my friends received a text from his sister asking me to pass by at her place because the girl was here with her. Unfortunately a friend of mine who is living abroad and that i haven't seen since 3 years was here for a really short time so i declined and told my friend to ask them to come. My friend told me to forgot because he new her and she was to shy to come (we were like 6-7 people) . Two day after i had to travel for professional reasons. I will come back in two weeks. Today i talked to my friend on the phone and he told me that the girl and his sister have been stalking me on fb and that the girl was okay to meet me for a coffee. He also told me that there was a guy messaging her since a couple of days and that i should add her on fb just to let her know that i was interested and to make her wait until i come back. While i was writing this post she just accepted my request with no attempt to start a conversation. What should i tell her? I don't want to chit-chat and to be out of topic after two days. I just want to meet her and game her in face to face. Also i know that my friend's sister told him that i was better than the guy messaging the girl so i know that the bff is on my side (and pushing for me i guess). What would you advise me to do? |
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| Author: | oceanx [ Mon Jan 18, 2016 9:01 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should i chat this girl or wait until we meet. |
I could be 100% wrong but I think since you weren't making any moves, they made up this phantom guy to persuade you to do SOMETHING i.e. add her on FB. And you did because you feared competition from Guy X. Just fucking put Guy X out of your mind from now on, he is irrelevant (and maybe not even real). Get her # somehow and just text her some joke about how they are all trying to hook the two of you up and you might as well just meet up to shut everyone up and get them off of both of your backs. Play up a playful "us against them" theme with her. |
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| Author: | R.C [ Mon Jan 18, 2016 9:27 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should i chat this girl or wait until we meet. |
This was really hard to read and I don't understand your dilemma. You wanna game her face to face? then set up and drink and games night or whatever with your friends, and make sure they invite her over. Problem solved. |
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| Author: | Tha_taurus [ Mon Jan 18, 2016 2:56 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should i chat this girl or wait until we meet. |
First of all thanks guys for helping me. I am also sorry for my english (I am french) and not so fluent (you don't know how many time i took to write that post lol). oceanx i will definitely joke with her about my friends trying to hook the two of us up. "Us against them", I love it so thanks for those great advices. I am sure guy x actually exist but i don't give a fuck about him. My dilemma is that i don't know how much i should chat here. My fear is to get in the friendzone even before i meet her (remember i come back home in 2 weeks). So my question is how much should i build rapport before we meet. Should i message her a lot or should i just be nice but not to much involved until we meet. Thanks |
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| Author: | oceanx [ Tue Jan 19, 2016 1:34 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should i chat this girl or wait until we meet. |
Just meet up with her. |
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| Author: | J.Daniels [ Tue Jan 19, 2016 3:07 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should i chat this girl or wait until we meet. |
Quote: Play up a playful "us against them" theme with her.
This. Any time you can get a "me and you against the world" feeling with a girl, she'll become so much more invested in you.
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Tue Jan 19, 2016 5:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should i chat this girl or wait until we meet. |
First of all.. If she's shy and talking to someone new she's not going to initiate the conversation without knowing you just yet. Especially when she's desperate and has already begun talking with someone else. It doesn't sound like you were all that keen on meeting the girl anyway since it took so long, and now that you found out theres someone else your interest peaked a bit. I personally would recommend you just wait, let the mystery linger a bit, its not like you'll be able to take an action for the next 2 weeks. If there was no possibility of you meeting the girl I'd say to just message her, but since you're going to meet her anyway, let that be the first impression. |
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| Author: | Tha_taurus [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 3:50 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should i chat this girl or wait until we meet. |
Ok, i will wait until i meet her in real life. I already feel like home in this forum so thanks everybody for the help. I'll give back to the community as soon as i can. For now i'm pretty much a noob so i stand back a bit, shut my mouth and try to learn from the masters. 
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| Author: | detox75 [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 6:45 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should i chat this girl or wait until we meet. |
You are better to wait in most cases, as Eddie said it preserves the mystery, and it's this same mystery that you are likely to undermine as text or phone conversations are usually more comfort and rapport building than attraction building due to the format and context. Secondly a girl default state when left with little or no data on a guy other than a favorable image is to fill in the blanks with positive traits, filling in the blanks for her without being able to use your other tools by being in front of her usually works to your detriment. |
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