A lot of the resources out there that I've read focus on being in a group of guys, but honestly the only times I took someone home from the clubs is when I was on my own or met some women at the club. I prefer going to the club by myself. I must be doing something right I guess. Any articles out there that assess this issue? I'm looking for "best practices" to really see what I am doing well, what I am doing wrong, and a plan for improvement when going out to club environments by yourself.

Searching forums, sometimes people are concerned on what will happen if a woman or a group of women ask why you are at the club alone, but honestly this has never been a sticking point for me ever. The one time someone a group of two women asked me why I was alone and I was honest and said I was flying solo, I didn't make up an elaborate excuse like some articles suggest, and before closing one of them left her friend when she went to leave and instead went to go to another bar with me and from there I took her home.

In my case, I think it helps that I am a regular at multiple clubs by name and the bouncers and bartenders take care of me because I take care of them. Like if they think I've drunk enough that it would sway my game negatively they will gave me a sprite with a lime in it and encourage me to talk to a group or introduce me. They will also let me know if anyone in particular is looking at me and once the security staff pre-emptively kicked out another man who was starting to get too snappy with me over one of the girls in the club. In a sense, the staff are my collective wing men.

I am also usually the best dressed person in the club, with suits or a tuxedo (not the suits you would wear at the office think of the suits on Pitbull's New Year Celebration in Miami) and ladies around town tell me how they heard of me through other people and they heard I am a ladies man, go out a lot, and drink a lot.

I also don't go around walking up to every group and try to interact with them. I take a confident pose at the closest bar by the entrance where my face is situated where I can see the most going on and strike up conversations, it is usually fairly easy after someone compliments my attire.

I feel like I need to do more to attain my potential. I'm not outcome-dependent, I try to develop an "abundance mentality" but sometimes in the back of my mind I think what holds me back is that this city only has around 100,000 people so after living here for 2 years the club-goers know what I'm about and put up an "anti-player" shield whether this exists in reality or not I think about it.